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In a message dated 4/19/02 8:54:44 AM, dawn@... writes:

<< Maybe we are just very compatible when it comes to
our belief systems about the kids and that doesn't seem to be such a bad
thing. >>

True, but it's not a help to someone whose husband isn't as compatible to say
"Just do what we do." (I know, it's easy for me too--my husband and I have
been together for 24 years, and he trusts me in ways that newer couples would
have a hard time getting to.)

Let's try to avoid this here: -=-As usual what I said was twisted and
turned....-=-

Let's avoid the twisting and turning AND the blanket "as usual" kinds of
statements if possible.

<<sorry don't know who wrote it, I respond to e-mails and don't
usually look at who wrote it>>

I do this too, and I respond to the ideas and what they trigger in me, not
always to specific questions, limited to JUST what the poster said. So for
me, the philosophical exchange is more important than the factual exchange.

If because of the way I read and post I'm missing a pattern of one poster
repeatedly misinterpretting, someone should let me know privately on the side
and I'll pay better attention.

This medium works best when it works like a think-tank and brainstorm, I
think, than when it's expected to be simply question and answer or "personal
support." If ideas and experiences and opinions (about the theories and
practices, not about the people themselves) are swirling, we can pick up
patterns and ideas we can use without regard to which people contributed
them.

So...
Be good and let's keep this list sweet and peaceful. That is not directed to
any one person at all, so don't anybody say "She singled me out and told me
to be good!!" because if you do, then I'm going to say "I wasn't talking
about you then, but I am now!"

Sandra