THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE
Dawn Falbe
I like what Elissa has to say about the way we communicate... When I read
"prove" "justify" etc and those other words that indicate somene is telling
me what to do it puts my back up (as we say in England)... I do think it's
important to write words in the way we actually say them or are said to
us... Only then can someone truly respond in a way that is clear.
I'm not really sure that Dawn's statement is simply about unschooling. It
reminds me of going out with friends without Joe. Sometimes people would
say, Joe will *let* you go out? (What am I? His slave?)(he just looked over
my shoulder and said, "Yes, you are" - In his dreams!!)
I still call him and make sure he doesn't have plans or something but I make
my own decisions just as he does. It's the way we phrase things in our
society that harken back to the days before women's liberation.
My husband won't let me.
Mr. Policeman says.... (from a toy)
Look at all the fireMEN!
I sence alot of the same when we talk about our DHs, that we have to prove
our intentions to the man of the house. I don't think we mean to come across
this way, but it makes it more difficult for women to be seen as powerful
and knowledgeable when we talk in this way.
~Elissa Cleaveland
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Dawn Falbe
Astrologer Coach
(520) 312-5300
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www.astrologerdawn.com
dawn@...
Enlightening you on how to discover and live your Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." - George
Bernard Shaw
"The only time my education was interrupted was when I was in school" -
George Bernard Shaw
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"prove" "justify" etc and those other words that indicate somene is telling
me what to do it puts my back up (as we say in England)... I do think it's
important to write words in the way we actually say them or are said to
us... Only then can someone truly respond in a way that is clear.
I'm not really sure that Dawn's statement is simply about unschooling. It
reminds me of going out with friends without Joe. Sometimes people would
say, Joe will *let* you go out? (What am I? His slave?)(he just looked over
my shoulder and said, "Yes, you are" - In his dreams!!)
I still call him and make sure he doesn't have plans or something but I make
my own decisions just as he does. It's the way we phrase things in our
society that harken back to the days before women's liberation.
My husband won't let me.
Mr. Policeman says.... (from a toy)
Look at all the fireMEN!
I sence alot of the same when we talk about our DHs, that we have to prove
our intentions to the man of the house. I don't think we mean to come across
this way, but it makes it more difficult for women to be seen as powerful
and knowledgeable when we talk in this way.
~Elissa Cleaveland
********************
Dawn Falbe
Astrologer Coach
(520) 312-5300
********************
www.astrologerdawn.com
dawn@...
Enlightening you on how to discover and live your Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." - George
Bernard Shaw
"The only time my education was interrupted was when I was in school" -
George Bernard Shaw
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In a message dated 4/18/02 11:19:47 AM, dawn@... writes:
<< I do think it's
important to write words in the way we actually say them or are said to
us... Only then can someone truly respond in a way that is clear. >>
Sometimes it's good to usethem in a new way so we think differently.
Drive me nuts when a pregnant or nursing mother says "My doctor won't let
me..." or "The doctor says I have to..."
So when I was involved in Cesarean Prevention (and active in La Leche League,
but not a leader) I used to say, wide-eyed, "You mean he suggested you do
that?" And the obvious thought in their eyes seemed to show they hadn't
really heard themselves, or maybe they hadn't really considered ever that
'doctors' orders' were just recommendations.
Sandra
<< I do think it's
important to write words in the way we actually say them or are said to
us... Only then can someone truly respond in a way that is clear. >>
Sometimes it's good to usethem in a new way so we think differently.
Drive me nuts when a pregnant or nursing mother says "My doctor won't let
me..." or "The doctor says I have to..."
So when I was involved in Cesarean Prevention (and active in La Leche League,
but not a leader) I used to say, wide-eyed, "You mean he suggested you do
that?" And the obvious thought in their eyes seemed to show they hadn't
really heard themselves, or maybe they hadn't really considered ever that
'doctors' orders' were just recommendations.
Sandra