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>>>People used to be *much* more inclined to violence and all sorts and more of widespread justification for violence. I don't think it's quite the same as it used to be.<<<

>>>I'm glad some things are harder to believe, things that used to be accepted.<<<

Something dawned on me after I wrote that. The history of accepting
violence in my family, of ridicule and shame and belittling as the way
it is is still very much fresher and more real to my parent's
generation than to me or any of my siblings or the rest of our
generation. It will be even less of a reality for Karl's generation.

That's a good wakeup call. Each new generation is going to see these
things in a different light than the generations before have.

I always thought my parents were mostly truthful, and that their
reactions were at times still too accepting and dull, and, at other
moments, too raw, by mirroring the way things were. Just as though it
were still going on and they had to fight it and everyone else too
along with it.

That makes me a bit more understanding about why, as a kid, I had felt
they were unrealistic. The past was in their present, still very much
alive. I hope I can work through to the present day, and not live as
though the present isn't really the deal.

~Katherine

Sandra Dodd

-=- The history of accepting
violence in my family, of ridicule and shame and belittling as the way
it is is still very much fresher and more real to my parent's
generation than to me or any of my siblings or the rest of our
generation. It will be even less of a reality for Karl's generation.-=-

This page has a story about kids growing up very differently:
Teens, and how experience colors reactions to spanking


http://sandradodd.com/s/backstage

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