Need advice in NJ, Please
jenjon1964
My husband got laid off work. We will loose the house, I know that already, and I have to go to work. I have to put my 11 year old boys in school. The thing that scares me is that they are really behind in math. How do I deal with this? What would the school do? Will we be in trouble? Really scared here. I really need lots of advice. I dont know what will happen to us. The boys are really scared and dont want to go, I feel like such a failure.
Thank you so much,
Barbara
Thank you so much,
Barbara
aldq75
Is your husband willing to help you unschool while he looks for a new job? One parent doesn't have to stay home full time in order to unschool, but both parents do need to be committed to keeping the kids out of school.
Perhaps it would be possible to juggle your schedules so that the boys don't have to go to school? A lot of families arrange for a parent to always be home so that they don't have to pay for daycare; it can work for older kids, too, to keep them out of school. Perhaps the boys will be willing to give up some classes and other extras (cable, internet, etc, if applicable) if that means being able to stay home.
Andrea Q
Perhaps it would be possible to juggle your schedules so that the boys don't have to go to school? A lot of families arrange for a parent to always be home so that they don't have to pay for daycare; it can work for older kids, too, to keep them out of school. Perhaps the boys will be willing to give up some classes and other extras (cable, internet, etc, if applicable) if that means being able to stay home.
Andrea Q
--- In [email protected], "jenjon1964" <barbaracartagena3@...> wrote:
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> My husband got laid off work. We will loose the house, I know that already, and I have to go to work. I have to put my 11 year old boys in school. The thing that scares me is that they are really behind in math. How do I deal with this? What would the school do? Will we be in trouble? Really scared here. I really need lots of advice. I dont know what will happen to us. The boys are really scared and dont want to go, I feel like such a failure.
> Thank you so much,
> Barbara
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wtexans
===I have to put my 11 year old boys in school. The thing that scares me is that they are really behind in math. How do I deal with this? What would the school do? Will we be in trouble? Really scared here. I really need lots of advice.===
There's no way for those of us on-list to know what the school will do with respect to determining which grade level your boys will be put into. There's no way for us to know if you will be "in trouble", however you may be defining that to yourself.
This list isn't for providing advice for taking kids from unschooling to public schooling. We can't allay your fears about what's going to happen with the school.
We CAN (and at least one person already has) provide ideas of ways to continue unschooling in spite of the loss of one parent's job.
===The boys are really scared and dont want to go===
Is continuing to unschool open for consideration for your family, or is putting your boys in school the absolute *only* option available?
If continuing to unschool is open for consideration, that's one less big change for your family.
If putting your boys in school is the only option, I would suggest gathering the information you need about doing that because that will help get *your* fear under control -- you can't effectively help your boys with that transition if you're full of fear about it yourself.
But if there's some way to continue unschooling, shift your focus on ways to make that happen.
How does your husband feel about unschooling? Is he willing to be the at-home parent while you're at work? Could the two of you work opposite shifts so that one of you can always be available to your boys?
Glenda
There's no way for those of us on-list to know what the school will do with respect to determining which grade level your boys will be put into. There's no way for us to know if you will be "in trouble", however you may be defining that to yourself.
This list isn't for providing advice for taking kids from unschooling to public schooling. We can't allay your fears about what's going to happen with the school.
We CAN (and at least one person already has) provide ideas of ways to continue unschooling in spite of the loss of one parent's job.
===The boys are really scared and dont want to go===
Is continuing to unschool open for consideration for your family, or is putting your boys in school the absolute *only* option available?
If continuing to unschool is open for consideration, that's one less big change for your family.
If putting your boys in school is the only option, I would suggest gathering the information you need about doing that because that will help get *your* fear under control -- you can't effectively help your boys with that transition if you're full of fear about it yourself.
But if there's some way to continue unschooling, shift your focus on ways to make that happen.
How does your husband feel about unschooling? Is he willing to be the at-home parent while you're at work? Could the two of you work opposite shifts so that one of you can always be available to your boys?
Glenda
Sandra Dodd
-=-My husband got laid off work. We will loose the house, I know that already, and I have to go to work. I have to put my 11 year old boys in school-=-
That's a lot of "have to" and I know you're afraid and panicky, but there might be some options. Subsidized housing, welfare benefits... Recover from fright and fear happens regularly.
If the kids go to school it won't be like they moved to another planet. If they bring math homework home, you can help them with it. It's not a whole year of math. It's one day at a time.
Sandra
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That's a lot of "have to" and I know you're afraid and panicky, but there might be some options. Subsidized housing, welfare benefits... Recover from fright and fear happens regularly.
If the kids go to school it won't be like they moved to another planet. If they bring math homework home, you can help them with it. It's not a whole year of math. It's one day at a time.
Sandra
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wtexans
===If the kids go to school it won't be like they moved to another planet. If they bring math homework home, you can help them with it. It's not a whole year of math. It's one day at a time.===
I like the "one day at a time" viewpoint. Going to school doesn't mean returning to unschooling can't happen.
I like this page on Sandra's site: http://sandradodd.com/schoolchoice -- "Public School on Your Own Terms".
Glenda
I like the "one day at a time" viewpoint. Going to school doesn't mean returning to unschooling can't happen.
I like this page on Sandra's site: http://sandradodd.com/schoolchoice -- "Public School on Your Own Terms".
Glenda