Natalie

Wow - congratulations and that is awesome.

I have only watched Oprah 3/4 times in my life (TV in the attic) when I was
pregnant and sick at my "in-laws" - it was Dr Phil on dealing with
boundaries - you seem awesome at them.

I have travelled the world to get far from my extended family. I LOVVVE
THEM - and I hate the gossip, continual chatter "we talk about you/them
because we love you/them" and I can't take it. My mother was 16000 kms
away - she has now moved and brought her gossiping tongue with her to 100kms
away. Maybe it's time to move!

I read somewhere "I don't want to hear it - it feels like poison in me",
that really made me understand that I need to be clear and have a strong
voice to say - "I don't want to get involved, and I if they want me to know
something they'll tell me"

Well done for being so firm! It must serve you and bring you sanity!

How did you say it btw?

Love

Natalie
Love all. Serve all. ~Sai Baba

See who I am and my Vision here:
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Date: Tue, 26 Feb 2002 08:33:03 -0500
From: "Reenie" <ezmaralda@...>
Subject: Gorwing up

I finally felt like I was a grown-up when I turned 30-
I stopped letting my family suck all of my mental and physical energy from
me. (extended, not immediate). My mother and grandfather are feuding and my
GF "disowned" her- it has been over 2 years now. It was hard to separate
myself since I am very close to both parties and live within a mile of each.
BUT- I told them I DID NOT want to discuss the situation with either of
them. Put them in shock a bit since I have always been the self-deemed
"peacemaker" and "fixer". I just realized that if they choose to hate each
other and be stubborn and not take any blame, they can live with the
results- PBLLLTHTTHT (raspberries) howz that for grown-up?
Mom says I've gotten nasty- HEE HEE - that makes me happy to hear. OH yeah-
we are planning to move within the next year. Don't get me wrong, I love
them all fiercely, I just want to go far enough away so they cannot damage
my girls on a daily basis!
I also found a hidden self-confidence and self-esteem~
I LOVED turning 30- wonder how fun 40 will be??

Thanks for the therapy.
Reenie



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