How Holly Takes the World for Granted
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Sandra,
I just read your article in HEM and I'm still smiling. It made me think
so much about Dylan and his view of things. I see this in him, too. I
think it's wonderful and maybe the real true evidence that unschooling is
right is that these kids are so right.
A friend of ours came over a few nights ago all aflutter because she'd
been out to dinner and into the restaurant came one of our senators. She
said he was so nice and talked so friendly to everyone. It's election
year, you understand. Dylan just said "Well, isn't he supposed to be
nice? He works for you."
I like your little Holly.
Deb L
I just read your article in HEM and I'm still smiling. It made me think
so much about Dylan and his view of things. I see this in him, too. I
think it's wonderful and maybe the real true evidence that unschooling is
right is that these kids are so right.
A friend of ours came over a few nights ago all aflutter because she'd
been out to dinner and into the restaurant came one of our senators. She
said he was so nice and talked so friendly to everyone. It's election
year, you understand. Dylan just said "Well, isn't he supposed to be
nice? He works for you."
I like your little Holly.
Deb L
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In a message dated 2/24/02 4:01:13 PM, ddzimlew@... writes:
<< I just read your article in HEM and I'm still smiling. It made me think
so much about Dylan and his view of things. I see this in him, too. I
think it's wonderful and maybe the real true evidence that unschooling is
right is that these kids are so right. >>
Thanks.
My first response is indignation (which then melts into jealousy that she's
so matter-of-fact. But cool stuff in her life IS, literally, a simple matter
of fact. <g>
I mentioned that my friend Mark used to be told (meanly) "You are *so* FULL
of yourself." What I heard from my mom and grandmother was "Oh, you think
you are SO smart" and "You maybe have booksmarts but you ain't got no horse
sense," or "You don't have the common sense God gave a [I forget what
now--]..."
Holly is quite unaccustomed to insult. Good for her!!
Sandra
<< I just read your article in HEM and I'm still smiling. It made me think
so much about Dylan and his view of things. I see this in him, too. I
think it's wonderful and maybe the real true evidence that unschooling is
right is that these kids are so right. >>
Thanks.
My first response is indignation (which then melts into jealousy that she's
so matter-of-fact. But cool stuff in her life IS, literally, a simple matter
of fact. <g>
I mentioned that my friend Mark used to be told (meanly) "You are *so* FULL
of yourself." What I heard from my mom and grandmother was "Oh, you think
you are SO smart" and "You maybe have booksmarts but you ain't got no horse
sense," or "You don't have the common sense God gave a [I forget what
now--]..."
Holly is quite unaccustomed to insult. Good for her!!
Sandra
homeschoolmd
--- In AlwaysLearning@y..., SandraDodd@a... wrote:
literally, a simple matter of fact. <g>>>>
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels a bit jealous of my kids.
The more I learn about how life for kids is supposed to be, the more
resentful I get about the childhood I got.
I'm sure this is just a passing phase for me. But sheesh, it would
sure be nice to not have that inner struggle. It would sure be nice
just to be happy because I am entitled to a happy life. Everyone is.
Slightly off topic -
I still keep finding little areas in which I have been controlling my
kids. The other day I realized I had been controlling soda. We
don't buy soda except for special occasions because *I* think it is a
waste of money and empty calories.
The other day I asked the girls if they wanted to do a measuring game
using soda. They said sure and then kept bugging me to do it and
saying "can we get the soda now, can we get the soda now?" And there
I was, telling them no, wait until I'm ready.
Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Oh my God, I've been doing it
with soda too! I asked Allison if she felt I had been controlling
her soda intake and of course she said yes. So now they can drink as
much soda as they want.
What else am I still controlling?
I'm sorry to keep whining to you guys about my problems but all this
stuff makes me feel like crying. It is so hard to make all these
changes even though I know it is for the best.
Pat
> > My first response is indignation (which then melts into jealousythat she's so matter-of-fact. But cool stuff in her life IS,
literally, a simple matter of fact. <g>>>>
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels a bit jealous of my kids.
The more I learn about how life for kids is supposed to be, the more
resentful I get about the childhood I got.
I'm sure this is just a passing phase for me. But sheesh, it would
sure be nice to not have that inner struggle. It would sure be nice
just to be happy because I am entitled to a happy life. Everyone is.
Slightly off topic -
I still keep finding little areas in which I have been controlling my
kids. The other day I realized I had been controlling soda. We
don't buy soda except for special occasions because *I* think it is a
waste of money and empty calories.
The other day I asked the girls if they wanted to do a measuring game
using soda. They said sure and then kept bugging me to do it and
saying "can we get the soda now, can we get the soda now?" And there
I was, telling them no, wait until I'm ready.
Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Oh my God, I've been doing it
with soda too! I asked Allison if she felt I had been controlling
her soda intake and of course she said yes. So now they can drink as
much soda as they want.
What else am I still controlling?
I'm sorry to keep whining to you guys about my problems but all this
stuff makes me feel like crying. It is so hard to make all these
changes even though I know it is for the best.
Pat
Cindy
SandraDodd@... wrote:
I was told "You can buy her books and send her to school but she still
doesn't have enough sense to come in out of the rain." And they wonder
why I moved 2000+ miles away and don't make much effort to maintain ties
with them. The last time my father said that to me I was in my 30s.
My young children will never hear such things from them. This summer
we saw my parents and my father noticed that Alex is left-handed. He usually
has something derogatory to say about that in others. I felt the mama bear
in me start to awaken and I guess he did too, since he looked over at me
and said like "that's okay".
--
Cindy Ferguson
crma@...
>When I succeeded academically (and exceeded my parent's accomplishments)
> I mentioned that my friend Mark used to be told (meanly) "You are *so* FULL
> of yourself." What I heard from my mom and grandmother was "Oh, you think
> you are SO smart" and "You maybe have booksmarts but you ain't got no horse
> sense," or "You don't have the common sense God gave a [I forget what
> now--]..."
>
I was told "You can buy her books and send her to school but she still
doesn't have enough sense to come in out of the rain." And they wonder
why I moved 2000+ miles away and don't make much effort to maintain ties
with them. The last time my father said that to me I was in my 30s.
My young children will never hear such things from them. This summer
we saw my parents and my father noticed that Alex is left-handed. He usually
has something derogatory to say about that in others. I felt the mama bear
in me start to awaken and I guess he did too, since he looked over at me
and said like "that's okay".
--
Cindy Ferguson
crma@...