this ad made me sad
Kim Zerbe
I just found this ad on our local craigslist. (Hoping you all can see it,
looks like it just posted so should be active for a few days unless they
remove it.)
http://portland.craigslist.org/clc/bab/1517643421.html
A mom is selling a ton of Thomas the Train stuff and most of it is new in
the packaging. I was wondering why she had so much NIP stuff then I read her
intro:
"This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores, good
at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
but he was never allowed to enjoy them!
Kim Z
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looks like it just posted so should be active for a few days unless they
remove it.)
http://portland.craigslist.org/clc/bab/1517643421.html
A mom is selling a ton of Thomas the Train stuff and most of it is new in
the packaging. I was wondering why she had so much NIP stuff then I read her
intro:
"This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores, good
at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
but he was never allowed to enjoy them!
Kim Z
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<I was wondering why she had so much NIP stuff then I read her
intro:
"This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores,
good
at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
but he was never allowed to enjoy them!>
Oh Kim, that's so very sad. The poor kid - you can just imagine how he
must have felt trying to earn his way towards those prizes. It makes me
appreciate our own Christmas even more, and the joys of watching Jess's face as
she opens surprise presents, knowing they're given out of love.
Jude xx
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intro:
"This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores,
good
at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
but he was never allowed to enjoy them!>
Oh Kim, that's so very sad. The poor kid - you can just imagine how he
must have felt trying to earn his way towards those prizes. It makes me
appreciate our own Christmas even more, and the joys of watching Jess's face as
she opens surprise presents, knowing they're given out of love.
Jude xx
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Marina DeLuca-Howard
Yuck, yuck and triple yuck! Sharing, love and trust as a basis for family
life seems to have eluded her. I really hope she isn't repeating this
horror with new "bribes", because the life she wants with her son is
probably not one of deception, bribery, and manipulation. Unless she is
hoping to raise a player who will dole out strings of pearls to her she hits
old age, hard earned wealth from the mindgames he plays with his
lovers/romantic partners.
Marina
2009/12/21 Kim Zerbe <kim.zerbe@...>
Rent our cottage: http://davehoward.ca/cottage/
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life seems to have eluded her. I really hope she isn't repeating this
horror with new "bribes", because the life she wants with her son is
probably not one of deception, bribery, and manipulation. Unless she is
hoping to raise a player who will dole out strings of pearls to her she hits
old age, hard earned wealth from the mindgames he plays with his
lovers/romantic partners.
Marina
2009/12/21 Kim Zerbe <kim.zerbe@...>
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>
> I just found this ad on our local craigslist. (Hoping you all can see it,
> looks like it just posted so should be active for a few days unless they
> remove it.)
>
> http://portland.craigslist.org/clc/bab/1517643421.html
>
> A mom is selling a ton of Thomas the Train stuff and most of it is new in
> the packaging. I was wondering why she had so much NIP stuff then I read
> her
> intro:
>
> "This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
> would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores,
> good
> at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
> a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
> will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
>
> Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
> but he was never allowed to enjoy them!
>
> Kim Z
>
>
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>
>
>
Rent our cottage: http://davehoward.ca/cottage/
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Jenny Cyphers
***Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy.***
Unfortunately the loss is something she probably won't consider and it isn't monetary, and it will only deepen and widen as her 12 yr old boy enters into teen years. I've seen it over and over and over with people we know that have been raised in this way. For some kids, the reward was never worth their dignity and self worth. One day there may be no way to bribe a kid who has a little bit of dignity and self worth and from that point onward it will be a struggle of wills. Who lost here? I'd say they all did. It sure doesn't breed love and happiness.
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will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy.***
Unfortunately the loss is something she probably won't consider and it isn't monetary, and it will only deepen and widen as her 12 yr old boy enters into teen years. I've seen it over and over and over with people we know that have been raised in this way. For some kids, the reward was never worth their dignity and self worth. One day there may be no way to bribe a kid who has a little bit of dignity and self worth and from that point onward it will be a struggle of wills. Who lost here? I'd say they all did. It sure doesn't breed love and happiness.
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ttessag
Profoundly sad. She really does not understand the totality of his loss, her loss, so much joy and connection that could have been.
Tess
Tess
--- In [email protected], "Kim Zerbe" <kim.zerbe@...> wrote:
>
> I just found this ad on our local craigslist. (Hoping you all can see it,
> looks like it just posted so should be active for a few days unless they
> remove it.)
>
> http://portland.craigslist.org/clc/bab/1517643421.html
>
> A mom is selling a ton of Thomas the Train stuff and most of it is new in
> the packaging. I was wondering why she had so much NIP stuff then I read her
> intro:
>
> "This is a big lot of Thomas the train stuff I had bought for my Son. I
> would let him open one as a "bribe" to try to get him doing his chores, good
> at his school work, etc. The problem was since each one cost so much he had
> a hard time earning them. Now we have decided since he is almost 12 that we
> will cut our losses and move onto something that we would all enjoy."
>
> Just reading this ad I'm so sad for the kid, so many toys bought for him,
> but he was never allowed to enjoy them!
>
> Kim Z
>
>
>
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