Letting go
Tammy Curry
We have had major issues letting go of tv and computer time, food control, oh lots of things. We have let go finally. The kids weren't sure what to do at first when we started saying yes more. Food control is no more and they are doing just fine, actually eating healthier than they ever have before. However, we sat
with them and watched tv and played computer games with them. I am still not an anime fan
but their dad is. I enjoy watching their eyes light up as they talk
about their shows, movies, and games. I enjoy being right there with
them as they explore their worlds. My daughter and her friend are making their own manga graphic
novel. Her friend's parents thanked us for giving him an outlet for
those "weird" pictures he likes to draw. My son has created his own little world that he lives in with his best bud. We have relaxed and realized that we are here to love and guide, that school is so unnecessary especially school at home. Family and friend support has been close to nil, actually we have chosen not to let their negativity affect us and our decisions. We might have a year ago but now our confidence that we are doing the best thing for our family has built up. We still have days that we second guess and question our decision. We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have perfect days everyday.
I found I do not have to include what they like or are passionate about
in my list of things that I enjoy, however, I love their passion, their
enjoyment. I include them in the things that I love to do and I am
passionate about. Sometimes it is just curiosity to see what mommy is
up to and sometimes they actually enjoy the activity and other times
they just sit and we talk about things while I work on projects. My
husband and I have even grown closer and are more open than we ever
were before. We share so many more things. He has had more trouble
accepting unschooling as our lifestyle but he is making a concious
effort to read, learn and change his way of thinking. He is actually
considering unjobbing, of course there are a lot of fears to work past.
But he is looking at the world differently as well and seeing that we
can create our lives and live them the way we want.
Well, I am being paged to see a block castle and I do think I saw the 4 yr old going down the hall with nails and a hammer, it must be a good one he wants to keep.
Tammy Curry, Director of Chaos
http://tammycurry.blogspot.com/
http://crazy-homeschool-adventures.blogspot.com/
"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in."
Rachel Carson
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with them and watched tv and played computer games with them. I am still not an anime fan
but their dad is. I enjoy watching their eyes light up as they talk
about their shows, movies, and games. I enjoy being right there with
them as they explore their worlds. My daughter and her friend are making their own manga graphic
novel. Her friend's parents thanked us for giving him an outlet for
those "weird" pictures he likes to draw. My son has created his own little world that he lives in with his best bud. We have relaxed and realized that we are here to love and guide, that school is so unnecessary especially school at home. Family and friend support has been close to nil, actually we have chosen not to let their negativity affect us and our decisions. We might have a year ago but now our confidence that we are doing the best thing for our family has built up. We still have days that we second guess and question our decision. We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have perfect days everyday.
I found I do not have to include what they like or are passionate about
in my list of things that I enjoy, however, I love their passion, their
enjoyment. I include them in the things that I love to do and I am
passionate about. Sometimes it is just curiosity to see what mommy is
up to and sometimes they actually enjoy the activity and other times
they just sit and we talk about things while I work on projects. My
husband and I have even grown closer and are more open than we ever
were before. We share so many more things. He has had more trouble
accepting unschooling as our lifestyle but he is making a concious
effort to read, learn and change his way of thinking. He is actually
considering unjobbing, of course there are a lot of fears to work past.
But he is looking at the world differently as well and seeing that we
can create our lives and live them the way we want.
Well, I am being paged to see a block castle and I do think I saw the 4 yr old going down the hall with nails and a hammer, it must be a good one he wants to keep.
Tammy Curry, Director of Chaos
http://tammycurry.blogspot.com/
http://crazy-homeschool-adventures.blogspot.com/
"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in."
Rachel Carson
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Sandra Dodd
-=-We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but
they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have
perfect days everyday. -=-
You have days, or you have moments?
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they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have
perfect days everyday. -=-
You have days, or you have moments?
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Tammy Curry
I had to think about that so I would have to say moments and not days.
Tammy Curry, Director of Chaos
http://tammycurry.blogspot.com/
http://crazy-homeschool-adventures.blogspot.com/
"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in."
Rachel Carson
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From: Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...>
To: AlwaysLearning@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 29, 2009 1:58:56 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Letting go
-=-We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but
they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have
perfect days everyday. -=-
You have days, or you have moments?
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Tammy Curry, Director of Chaos
http://tammycurry.blogspot.com/
http://crazy-homeschool-adventures.blogspot.com/
"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in."
Rachel Carson
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From: Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...>
To: AlwaysLearning@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 29, 2009 1:58:56 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Letting go
-=-We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but
they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have
perfect days everyday. -=-
You have days, or you have moments?
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deb.scudder
This post is very inspiring, thank you for sharing it!
Debs xx
Debs xx
--- In AlwaysLearning@yahoogroups.com, Tammy Curry <mamabeart00@...> wrote:
>
> We have had major issues letting go of tv and computer time, food control, oh lots of things. We have let go finally. The kids weren't sure what to do at first when we started saying yes more. Food control is no more and they are doing just fine, actually eating healthier than they ever have before. However, we sat
> with them and watched tv and played computer games with them. I am still not an anime fan
> but their dad is. I enjoy watching their eyes light up as they talk
> about their shows, movies, and games. I enjoy being right there with
> them as they explore their worlds. My daughter and her friend are making their own manga graphic
> novel. Her friend's parents thanked us for giving him an outlet for
> those "weird" pictures he likes to draw. My son has created his own little world that he lives in with his best bud. We have relaxed and realized that we are here to love and guide, that school is so unnecessary especially school at home. Family and friend support has been close to nil, actually we have chosen not to let their negativity affect us and our decisions. We might have a year ago but now our confidence that we are doing the best thing for our family has built up. We still have days that we second guess and question our decision. We still have days where we revert to parenting the old way, but they are becoming fewer and far between. I do not expect to have perfect days everyday.
>
> I found I do not have to include what they like or are passionate about
> in my list of things that I enjoy, however, I love their passion, their
> enjoyment. I include them in the things that I love to do and I am
> passionate about. Sometimes it is just curiosity to see what mommy is
> up to and sometimes they actually enjoy the activity and other times
> they just sit and we talk about things while I work on projects. My
> husband and I have even grown closer and are more open than we ever
> were before. We share so many more things. He has had more trouble
> accepting unschooling as our lifestyle but he is making a concious
> effort to read, learn and change his way of thinking. He is actually
> considering unjobbing, of course there are a lot of fears to work past.
> But he is looking at the world differently as well and seeing that we
> can create our lives and live them the way we want.
>
> Well, I am being paged to see a block castle and I do think I saw the 4 yr old going down the hall with nails and a hammer, it must be a good one he wants to keep.
>
>
> Tammy Curry, Director of Chaos
> http://tammycurry.blogspot.com/
> http://crazy-homeschool-adventures.blogspot.com/
>
> "If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in."
>
> Rachel Carson
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
Sandra Dodd
-=-This post is very inspiring, thank you for sharing it!
-=-Debs xx
--- In AlwaysLearning@yahoogroups.com, Tammy Curry <mamabeart00@...>
wrote:
sure what to do at first when we started saying yes more.
It was inspiring, that's true. I didn't mean to let this post
through, though. I botched removing it. I had the note ready to go
to Debs saying please don't re-send or append full posts, and please
don't post anything that amounts to "thanks" or "me too."
Because the list is large and very active, it's more courteous to
refrain from courtesies. What's sweet and good in a group of fifteen
or fifty people doesn't work when there are over a thousand.
So, reminders, please crop the quotes and only quote the parts
necessary to make your post make sense. It's not unusual for a post
to be sent back with a request to make each post something that will
help others understand unschooling better. That can be done with
good questions, or stories of how it's working, or with comments on
others' stories or questions.
When in doubt, choose learning over chit chat. Let's assume that all
posts are inspiring and that all the other readers are grateful. <bwg>
Sandra
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-=-Debs xx
--- In AlwaysLearning@yahoogroups.com, Tammy Curry <mamabeart00@...>
wrote:
>control, oh lots of things. We have let go finally. The kids weren't
> We have had major issues letting go of tv and computer time, food
sure what to do at first when we started saying yes more.
It was inspiring, that's true. I didn't mean to let this post
through, though. I botched removing it. I had the note ready to go
to Debs saying please don't re-send or append full posts, and please
don't post anything that amounts to "thanks" or "me too."
Because the list is large and very active, it's more courteous to
refrain from courtesies. What's sweet and good in a group of fifteen
or fifty people doesn't work when there are over a thousand.
So, reminders, please crop the quotes and only quote the parts
necessary to make your post make sense. It's not unusual for a post
to be sent back with a request to make each post something that will
help others understand unschooling better. That can be done with
good questions, or stories of how it's working, or with comments on
others' stories or questions.
When in doubt, choose learning over chit chat. Let's assume that all
posts are inspiring and that all the other readers are grateful. <bwg>
Sandra
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