Sandra Dodd

-=-I have found that with unschooling my questions are only answered
IF I want to "convert" or I agree or am searching for an alternative
to my current situation.-=-

I think this would be true at a tire store, too, or a pizza joint.
If you don't want tires, why would you expect them to answer a bunch
of questions? If you don't want pizza, why ask all about ingredients
and toppings and prices and comparisons?

It's not their job to answer questions of anyone who wanders by and
plainly states no interest?

But here's the deal: Asking IS showing an interest, so these
statement are either contradictory, or this is creepy stalking:

-=-Honestly, unschooling is NOT for me and my family for many
reasons. -=-
-=-I didn't realize I was asking either of you for help. I am doing
just fine in my "mainstream" world. -=-
-=- I find that any lifestyle lived in one end of the spectrum or
another can be thwarting to some degree. What disturbs me is the
attitude of superiority that the Unschooling Community seems to
hold. There could be some useful techniques or tips from your
lifestyle I could use in my life, however, I will never know since no
one will answer some basic questions. -=-

Having written to another unschooler eighteen months back, that shows
an interest. Not having gotten over it, and writing more (lengthily,
to me, on a Sunday) about something that is CLEARLY available (" I
had taken time to browse some sites (including yours) before emailing
you."), what could be the deal? Harrassment? An awkward request to
be persuaded? Unhealthy obsession?

It's Sunday. Shouldn't people be spending time with their kids?
Mine aren't even young, but this mom's kids are both younger.
SURELY, certainly, hanging out with them should win out over bugging
me. So it's not true that there's no interest. There's a deep,
abiding, disturbing interest.

[And so far today I was on the phone with Kirby for half an hour
(he's 22), talked to Marty and helped him get ready for his half-day
in Santa Fe, and he's going to go with me to dinner tonight (I didn't
know that when he left, but it's cool) and I took Holly to rendezvous
with the other airsoft players, and then went to get gifts for her
birthday-celebrating friend. We'll probably miss Desperate
Housewives, what we usually do on Sunday night while we sort
laundry. We'll watch it online tomorrow or Tuesday. Lily Tomlin
will be on (and was briefly last week), so I found her a couple of
old Lily Tomlin bits on YouTube the other day.]

Ah. Before I go to the list of questions, this:
-=-There could be some useful techniques or tips from your lifestyle
I could use in my life, however, I will never know since no one will
answer some basic questions.-=-

The other unschooling mom told me she had answered the same questions
repeatedly for this person.
I don't think the mom who wrote wants answers. I think she wants to
correspond with people she considers prominent, who have been on TV
or have websites. This isn't healthy or courteous.

Sandra