Lets Ride!!
Nicole Willoughby
Yet another example of kids learning things *exactly* when they are ready to.
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Nicole
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Nicole
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Nicole Willoughby
Sharon Schwartz
My DD did the same. We were on an out of state trip. The entire ride
home, she insisted that we needed to get home as fast as possible so
she could take training wheels off her bike. She "Knew" that she'd be
able to ride it. Shw was right of course. Amazing!
Sharon
home, she insisted that we needed to get home as fast as possible so
she could take training wheels off her bike. She "Knew" that she'd be
able to ride it. Shw was right of course. Amazing!
Sharon
Nicole Willoughby
She "Knew" that she'd be
able to ride it. Shw was right of course. Amazing!
She is also doing like she alwasy does when she comes over and expecting my children to obey rules she seems to think they should know. Making them help her clean because she thinks it needs to be done, etc.
I guess I should just stop hoping shell change.......
Nicole
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able to ride it. Shw was right of course. Amazing!
>>>>>>>>>>>Sigh if only my mom could "see" this. She is visiting and helping me out because Alyssa had surgery earlier today. Courtney told her that she had changed her mind and wasnt going to school next year. My mom had a fit about this.
She is also doing like she alwasy does when she comes over and expecting my children to obey rules she seems to think they should know. Making them help her clean because she thinks it needs to be done, etc.
I guess I should just stop hoping shell change.......
Nicole
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Sandra Dodd
-=She is visiting and helping me out-=-
Is she helping or hurting?
Sandra
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Is she helping or hurting?
Sandra
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MLewis
Maybe you should take your mom aside and tell her that you have some
long-term goals for your girls. That your methods might not look
like what she's used to but that it's all part of your plan. Let her
know that when she does what she's doing that it causes your plan to
backslide and then tell her what she can do INSTEAD. And then
reassure her by saying that you KNOW lots of unschoolers with older
children and you hear from EVERY single one (whether you do or not ;-
)) that unschooled children turn out in the long run to be MORE
helpful than their peers, MORE gracious and polite and giving...etc.
Heap it on, because that's what her interfering is really about; her
GOOD desire for the children to develop good character.
Mary
In [email protected], Nicole Willoughby
<cncnawilloughby@...> wrote:
that she had changed her mind and wasnt going to school next year. My
mom had a fit about this.
know. Making them help her clean because she thinks it needs to be
done, etc.
long-term goals for your girls. That your methods might not look
like what she's used to but that it's all part of your plan. Let her
know that when she does what she's doing that it causes your plan to
backslide and then tell her what she can do INSTEAD. And then
reassure her by saying that you KNOW lots of unschoolers with older
children and you hear from EVERY single one (whether you do or not ;-
)) that unschooled children turn out in the long run to be MORE
helpful than their peers, MORE gracious and polite and giving...etc.
Heap it on, because that's what her interfering is really about; her
GOOD desire for the children to develop good character.
Mary
In [email protected], Nicole Willoughby
<cncnawilloughby@...> wrote:
>me out because Alyssa had surgery earlier today. Courtney told her
> She "Knew" that she'd be
> able to ride it. Shw was right of course. Amazing!
> >>>>>>>>>>>
>
> Sigh if only my mom could "see" this. She is visiting and helping
that she had changed her mind and wasnt going to school next year. My
mom had a fit about this.
>expecting my children to obey rules she seems to think they should
> She is also doing like she alwasy does when she comes over and
know. Making them help her clean because she thinks it needs to be
done, etc.
>
> I guess I should just stop hoping shell change.......
>
> Nicole
>
>
>
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>
Nicole Willoughby
Is she helping or hurting?
I tried to talk to her . I was trying to choose my words carefully but be honest with her. I told her it seemed like my kids esp Nate stressed her out and I need her to b honest with me aout it. This upset her and she took it like i didnt want to come on and started going on about how she WAS going to come see her grandchildren. I never once said she couldnt or shouldnt come I simply wanted to know if babysitting them was to much for her.
Then she told me that all the stuff that Nate was picking up and throwing and all the stuff he was picking up and throwing him out could b prevented and I needed to be more strict with him. So I asked hr what this lookd like and she basicly said following him around and telling him no or swatting him. I told her a long time ago out of desperation I tried this for over a month , There was no improvement in his behavior and I was hitting my child and needed to be put in jail. I also explained that the girls already loose a lot of attention from be because Im caring for Nate and that I choose to tolerate a house far messier than Id like in order to try to make my children feel wanted and loved instead of pushed aside all the time. She didnt have much to say to this.
Then i asked her if she would please, instead of jumping my children about things come and talk to me if it bothered her. I didnt promise to remedy the situation to her liking but perhaps she at least hae an understanding of why Im doing what Im doing. She got upset about supposedly not allowing her to have an opinion. I said no but there was no need to get all upset at a little girl who is 9 tomorrow because she made a choice you dont like.. This basicly ended with her telling me that I shouldnt ruin their lives because they were the ones that were going to have to live with it.
I just dont know how to talk to her.
Nicole
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>>>>>>>>>>A little of both. I couldnt find a babysitter for Nate and Courtney. Its really hard to find people willing to watch my autistic child. I couldnt take them to surgery with me and dh has had to take so much time off work because of Nate's numerous dr visits, er visits etc lately and really couldnt take anymore time off. So having someone to watch him during Alyssa's surgery is a big help.
I tried to talk to her . I was trying to choose my words carefully but be honest with her. I told her it seemed like my kids esp Nate stressed her out and I need her to b honest with me aout it. This upset her and she took it like i didnt want to come on and started going on about how she WAS going to come see her grandchildren. I never once said she couldnt or shouldnt come I simply wanted to know if babysitting them was to much for her.
Then she told me that all the stuff that Nate was picking up and throwing and all the stuff he was picking up and throwing him out could b prevented and I needed to be more strict with him. So I asked hr what this lookd like and she basicly said following him around and telling him no or swatting him. I told her a long time ago out of desperation I tried this for over a month , There was no improvement in his behavior and I was hitting my child and needed to be put in jail. I also explained that the girls already loose a lot of attention from be because Im caring for Nate and that I choose to tolerate a house far messier than Id like in order to try to make my children feel wanted and loved instead of pushed aside all the time. She didnt have much to say to this.
Then i asked her if she would please, instead of jumping my children about things come and talk to me if it bothered her. I didnt promise to remedy the situation to her liking but perhaps she at least hae an understanding of why Im doing what Im doing. She got upset about supposedly not allowing her to have an opinion. I said no but there was no need to get all upset at a little girl who is 9 tomorrow because she made a choice you dont like.. This basicly ended with her telling me that I shouldnt ruin their lives because they were the ones that were going to have to live with it.
I just dont know how to talk to her.
Nicole
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Sandra Dodd
-=-This basicly ended with her telling me that I shouldnt ruin their
lives because they were the ones that were going to have to live with
it.
I just dont know how to talk to her. -=-
In writing, briefly and calmly, with a copy for you to keep.
Sandra
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lives because they were the ones that were going to have to live with
it.
I just dont know how to talk to her. -=-
In writing, briefly and calmly, with a copy for you to keep.
Sandra
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