decjec

Hi,
I have been reading a lot of the discussions on here and they have
helped very much. We shifted from homeschooling to unschooling last
year and have been slowly moving to a better understanding with
regards to learning and respectful parenting. I thought maybe I could
get some help with ideas on how to deal with some behaviors of my 2
year old.
These are throwing food all over the floor, taking a mouthful of
milk(or any drink)and spitting it on the floor, furniture and
sometimes his sisters, slamming our french doors. Things that I have done:
picked him up and brought him somewhere else to do something else,
told him no don't do that, taken the food drink away for the time
being, given him only a little at a time ( less clean up for me) asked
him to help clean it(sometimes he does sometimes he doesn't). He was 2
last December. I also have 3 girls ages 13,10, and 5.
If anyone has any ideas for me I would be thankful I am getting tired
of cleaning up!
Danette

Sandra Dodd

-=-thought maybe I could
get some help with ideas on how to deal with some behaviors of my 2
year old.
These are throwing food all over the floor, taking a mouthful of
milk(or any drink)and spitting it on the floor, furniture and
sometimes his sisters, slamming our french doors.-=-



I would yell NO.

There's a difference between saying "NO" and then going on to spank
or shame or put him in time out.

"Don't throw food." That seems simple. If he keeps throwing it,
don't give it to him. Give him a bite at a time when he's hungry.

Put a rubber strip so the door can't be slammed or one of the piston
door-closing things that closes the door slowly after someone goes
through, maybe.

But "Don't slam the door" seems reasonable. Spanking doesn't.

Saying "Don't use the door at all if you're going to slam it" seems
reasonable.

Sandra

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Sandra Dodd

-=-He was 2
last December. I also have 3 girls ages 13,10, and 5.
If anyone has any ideas for me I would be thankful I am getting tired
of cleaning up!-=-



Are the girls getting him to behave badly for fun? I've seen older
kids do that. If so, remind them he's not a monkey, and they should
be helping him be a good person. (If not, never mind.)

Sandra

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decjec

--- In [email protected], Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:-=-
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> I would yell NO.
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> There's a difference between saying "NO" and then going on to spank
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> don't give it to him. Give him a bite at a time when he's hungry.

I have tried yelling no,well hubby has. He laughs. But I will try just
giving him a bite at a time. No, we don't spank or do time out.

> Put a rubber strip so the door can't be slammed or one of the piston
> door-closing things that closes the door slowly after someone goes
> through, maybe.

That is a good idea thanks. We do close them at night so we need
something that lets us still continue to use the doors.
> But "Don't slam the door" seems reasonable. Spanking doesn't.

Yes I do say that.

Thanks, I will try those ideas.
Danette
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MrsStranahan

I've thrown a towel over the tops of doors to keep my kids from slamming them.

It's fast and free. :)

Lauren

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> giving him a bite at a time. No, we don't spank or do time out.
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> > door-closing things that closes the door slowly after someone goes
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> That is a good idea thanks. We do close them at night so we need
> something that lets us still continue to use the doors.
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Sandra Dodd

-=-I have tried yelling no,well hubby has. He laughs-=-

Then I would pick up all the food and say it's not nice to laugh at
people, and it's not nice to throw food.
If he asked for food, I would say "To eat or to throw?" and make it
really clear that eating was the only right answer.

Or IF and when you want to let kids throw food, make it clear that
it's an exception, a special occasion. We've thrown eggs off the
deck (cracked in the carton and so not safe), and pumpkins off the
deck, or jack-o-lanterns. We threw eggs at the back fence (flat
board fence, like a wooden wall) when the kids were little so they
could have the experience, and see how long the egg stays. I know
for sure it helped them not have the urge to throw eggs at houses or
cars. The egg stuff is gross a day or four later.

Give them opportunities to throw stuff--sticks into a river, rocks
into a lake, dirt clods at a wall. They NEED to throw things. Let
them get it out of their system in a harmless way and then say no
about throwing food in the house.

Sandra

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