Christina M

Sandra,

Thank you very much for all the resources you provided. I have saved them and read most of them. I plan to keep going back to learn more, also I plan to check on some of them books mentioned at the library.

As for their counselors due to anxieties and some other personal issues I have not considered changing as of yet. They both have wonderful counselors, my concern was how does a single parent with no reliable income explain they are getting the experience that will teach them. I write that and it still sounds crazy to me. I know that over time they will gain knowledge of things on their own like I have read in so many articles. But putting it into words to another person seems to be hard for me to do, perhaps that is the main issue.

Actually my belief of natural learning is hard to be thought out because I seem to worry to much about the little things . I feel I have plenty of deschooling to still do. As far as coming across not confident enough etc, I am very bad for that and that is something I need to work on as well.

As for explaining to anyone how I intend to do things differently. I did not mean to offend anyone and I wasn't wanting to come off that way. I just worry I may not have enough going on for them other then reading. My youngest don't care much for reading. Honestly, I much rather do the natural learning, I see the difference already and it has only been a month since they have been out of public school. As I said I have a lot more deschooling, and growing to do I realize that.

Anyways, again if I offended anyone that was not my intention, and I apologize. Thank you again for your input. Off to read some more, take care.

P.S. Off Topic~ If I may ask, are you still active in the SCA? I have only been involved for about a year, so I have much to learn. But I am amazed with everything we have experienced. My girls learned Drumming, and my oldest loves to forge, belly dance etc. Anyways I was interested in knowing if your family ever travels to the Kingdom of Northsheild?

Thank you,

Christina





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Sandra Dodd

-=-. They both have wonderful counselors, my concern was how does a
single parent with no reliable income explain they are getting the
experience that will teach them.-=-

You can't rely on explaining it. It will need to become evident.

-=-. I know that over time they will gain knowledge of things on
their own like I have read in so many articles. -=-

That's not good enough for the long term.
It's a good start, but you need to know that they HAVE gained and ARE
gaining knowledge, as they would have even if you had never read a
single article. And for that to happen, you can't just "know" but
you need to be doing.

-=-Anyways I was interested in knowing if your family ever travels to
the Kingdom of Northsheild? -=-

Keith worked in Minneapolis for a few years and was half-active
there. My SCA notes are here:
http://sandradodd.com/sca

Sandra

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Joyce Fetteroll

On Mar 5, 2008, at 5:26 PM, Christina M wrote:

> my concern was how does a single parent with no reliable income
> explain they are getting the experience that will teach them.

If we get defensive when faced with someone who doesn't agree it can
feel like we're unsure.

If you're confident then you won't feel the need to convince him (and
get his approval basically).

I know that's easily said, but it's something to keep in mind:
Getting to the point where you don't feel you need others to agree
that you're doing right.

You could gather a reading list and give it to the counselor if he
wanted to find out more about it.

> Anyways, again if I offended anyone that was not my intention, and
> I apologize. Thank you again for your input. Off to read some more,
> take care.
>

No one was offended :-) The help here is often in the form of trying
to get people to see their lives through their children's eyes rather
than the eyes of "here's how things should be".

So what does life look like through their eyes? Are they happy? Do
they feel confident you're helping them get what they're reaching for?

Joyce

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