schooly friends
mdfisher23
Hi,
My dd (5)will not be attending kindergarten with friends that she has
grown up around since birth. We are the only ones opting out of school
and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
any advice or experience related to this situation.
Thank you.
Marcia
My dd (5)will not be attending kindergarten with friends that she has
grown up around since birth. We are the only ones opting out of school
and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
any advice or experience related to this situation.
Thank you.
Marcia
Pamela Sorooshian
Don't go looking for trouble.
When my daughters' friends all went to kindergarten, and she didn't,
she didn't care - she felt sorry for them. The only thing that came up
in play was them mentioning their "teacher" - she wanted one, too. So
we signed her up for a one-week, 2 hours per day, science fun class
and for the next year she would casually say, "Well, MY teacher
said....".
That was enough for her.
But, seriously, she might just not care at all. Make sure her life is
so sparkly and good that she wouldn't want to leave it.
-pam
When my daughters' friends all went to kindergarten, and she didn't,
she didn't care - she felt sorry for them. The only thing that came up
in play was them mentioning their "teacher" - she wanted one, too. So
we signed her up for a one-week, 2 hours per day, science fun class
and for the next year she would casually say, "Well, MY teacher
said....".
That was enough for her.
But, seriously, she might just not care at all. Make sure her life is
so sparkly and good that she wouldn't want to leave it.
-pam
On Feb 28, 2008, at 9:51 AM, mdfisher23 wrote:
> We are the only ones opting out of school
> and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
> when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
> experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
> any advice or experience related to this situation.
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Lara Miller
My kids don't for a minute feel jealous of their schooly friends or
feel like they are missing out. In fact their friends, cousins and
other schooled kids we meet are all envious of my kids lives and beg
their parents to "homeschool" them like the Millers.
Blessings,
Lara Miller
Currently on our way to Phoenix!
http://mytripjournal.com/millerfamily
On Feb 28, 2008, at 5:23 PM, Pamela Sorooshian <pamsoroosh@...>
wrote:
feel like they are missing out. In fact their friends, cousins and
other schooled kids we meet are all envious of my kids lives and beg
their parents to "homeschool" them like the Millers.
Blessings,
Lara Miller
Currently on our way to Phoenix!
http://mytripjournal.com/millerfamily
On Feb 28, 2008, at 5:23 PM, Pamela Sorooshian <pamsoroosh@...>
wrote:
> Don't go looking for trouble.[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
> When my daughters' friends all went to kindergarten, and she didn't,
> she didn't care - she felt sorry for them. The only thing that came up
> in play was them mentioning their "teacher" - she wanted one, too. So
> we signed her up for a one-week, 2 hours per day, science fun class
> and for the next year she would casually say, "Well, MY teacher
> said....".
>
> That was enough for her.
>
> But, seriously, she might just not care at all. Make sure her life is
> so sparkly and good that she wouldn't want to leave it.
>
> -pam
>
> On Feb 28, 2008, at 9:51 AM, mdfisher23 wrote:
>
> > We are the only ones opting out of school
> > and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on
> something
> > when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
> > experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
> > any advice or experience related to this situation.
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
>
DJ250
Marcia,
I worried about the same thing when my eldest daughter was 5. We had no problems. We got involved in our own homeschool stuff, met and played with other homeschoolers, and enjoyed playing with schooled friends when they came home from school. It's been that way ever since. I mean, it's real life still and we have friend troubles now and again but most of the time, things are fine. The problems come when they get older than five and get homework and become involved in too many after school activities so they aren't AROUND enough.. But that's not a problem with everyone.
Best wishes,
~Melissa :)
I worried about the same thing when my eldest daughter was 5. We had no problems. We got involved in our own homeschool stuff, met and played with other homeschoolers, and enjoyed playing with schooled friends when they came home from school. It's been that way ever since. I mean, it's real life still and we have friend troubles now and again but most of the time, things are fine. The problems come when they get older than five and get homework and become involved in too many after school activities so they aren't AROUND enough.. But that's not a problem with everyone.
Best wishes,
~Melissa :)
----- Original Message -----
From: mdfisher23
To: [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, February 28, 2008 12:51 PM
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] schooly friends
Hi,
My dd (5)will not be attending kindergarten with friends that she has
grown up around since birth. We are the only ones opting out of school
and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
any advice or experience related to this situation.
Thank you.
Marcia
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DJ250
My kids' schooled friends are jealous, too, and beg the same way!
~Melissa :)
~Melissa :)
----- Original Message -----
From: Lara Miller
To: [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, February 28, 2008 9:52 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] schooly friends
My kids don't for a minute feel jealous of their schooly friends or
feel like they are missing out. In fact their friends, cousins and
other schooled kids we meet are all envious of my kids lives and beg
their parents to "homeschool" them like the Millers.
Blessings,
Lara Miller
Currently on our way to Phoenix!
http://mytripjournal.com/millerfamily
On Feb 28, 2008, at 5:23 PM, Pamela Sorooshian <pamsoroosh@...>
wrote:
> Don't go looking for trouble.
>
> When my daughters' friends all went to kindergarten, and she didn't,
> she didn't care - she felt sorry for them. The only thing that came up
> in play was them mentioning their "teacher" - she wanted one, too. So
> we signed her up for a one-week, 2 hours per day, science fun class
> and for the next year she would casually say, "Well, MY teacher
> said....".
>
> That was enough for her.
>
> But, seriously, she might just not care at all. Make sure her life is
> so sparkly and good that she wouldn't want to leave it.
>
> -pam
>
> On Feb 28, 2008, at 9:51 AM, mdfisher23 wrote:
>
> > We are the only ones opting out of school
> > and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on
> something
> > when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
> > experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
> > any advice or experience related to this situation.
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
>
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Sandra Dodd
-=-We are the only ones opting out of school
and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
any advice or experience related to this situation.-=-
Find some unschoolers, or at least other unschoolers. Go on some
trips--day trips, overnighters, do things with her that other kids
her age can't do.
If she wants to take a dance class or art or acting/performance or
something, maybe that could be fun. Maybe the two of you could start
a photography project, maybe a blog of the fun things you do together.
Invite her friends over sometimes and keep them all so busy with fun
stuff that they don't have time or need to talk about school. Show
them how fun her unschooling life is. Or take them all to an
amusement park or Chuck E Cheese or something.
It will cost money for you to go that direction, but a visit with a
counsellor can be $80, $100 or more, and if this can prevent
unhappiness and problems, it's money well spent. If it gives her a
chance to hang out with her friends, it's worth it.
Those aren't all the possible ideas, but they're a few.
Sandra
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and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
any advice or experience related to this situation.-=-
Find some unschoolers, or at least other unschoolers. Go on some
trips--day trips, overnighters, do things with her that other kids
her age can't do.
If she wants to take a dance class or art or acting/performance or
something, maybe that could be fun. Maybe the two of you could start
a photography project, maybe a blog of the fun things you do together.
Invite her friends over sometimes and keep them all so busy with fun
stuff that they don't have time or need to talk about school. Show
them how fun her unschooling life is. Or take them all to an
amusement park or Chuck E Cheese or something.
It will cost money for you to go that direction, but a visit with a
counsellor can be $80, $100 or more, and if this can prevent
unhappiness and problems, it's money well spent. If it gives her a
chance to hang out with her friends, it's worth it.
Those aren't all the possible ideas, but they're a few.
Sandra
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Joanna Murphy
Hi Marcia--
My advice to you is to look for other unschoolers/homeschoolers and don't look back. As
my daughter's friends started school they had little time for her. There was some time in
kindergarten, but on into 1st and 2nd grade they really disappeared. Seek out new friends
of like mind and build your tribe--sometimes it not easy.
Until we moved I was driving 1 1/2 hours each way to hook up with unschoolers. I
thought I'd never do that, but my efforts to create a community where I lived just didn't
work. We also started going to unschooling conferences, campouts, etc. We really looked
to create a different sort of life than the school people were leading. I have to say the
payoff for the whole family has been soooo worth it. Neither of my children are feeling at
all lacking for friends and we have a very grounding feeling of belonging to smaller
communities within larger communities. There is a feeling of rightness that permeates
our lives, even when we are spending days on end at home.
I'm not suggesting that you need to do what I did--but you may have to get out of your
comfort zone if that's what's called for. Your lives will be so filled that your daughter
won't feel a lack. I know my response wasn't quite what you asked, but I know enough
people whose problem was that their child then wanted to go to school because all of her
friends had gone off to school that I thought I'd save you the trouble of typing up that
post and just answer it. :-) Good luck, Joanna
My advice to you is to look for other unschoolers/homeschoolers and don't look back. As
my daughter's friends started school they had little time for her. There was some time in
kindergarten, but on into 1st and 2nd grade they really disappeared. Seek out new friends
of like mind and build your tribe--sometimes it not easy.
Until we moved I was driving 1 1/2 hours each way to hook up with unschoolers. I
thought I'd never do that, but my efforts to create a community where I lived just didn't
work. We also started going to unschooling conferences, campouts, etc. We really looked
to create a different sort of life than the school people were leading. I have to say the
payoff for the whole family has been soooo worth it. Neither of my children are feeling at
all lacking for friends and we have a very grounding feeling of belonging to smaller
communities within larger communities. There is a feeling of rightness that permeates
our lives, even when we are spending days on end at home.
I'm not suggesting that you need to do what I did--but you may have to get out of your
comfort zone if that's what's called for. Your lives will be so filled that your daughter
won't feel a lack. I know my response wasn't quite what you asked, but I know enough
people whose problem was that their child then wanted to go to school because all of her
friends had gone off to school that I thought I'd save you the trouble of typing up that
post and just answer it. :-) Good luck, Joanna
--- In [email protected], "mdfisher23" <mfisher@...> wrote:
>
> Hi,
> My dd (5)will not be attending kindergarten with friends that she has
> grown up around since birth. We are the only ones opting out of school
> and I'm worried that she may feel like she's missing out on something
> when we're around them to play, as I'm sure their new schooling
> experiences will come up in conversation. I would really appreciate
> any advice or experience related to this situation.
> Thank you.
> Marcia
>
Marcia Fisher
Thanks for you thoughts and advice - you're all awesome!
Marcia
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Marcia
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