son playing w/ you know what,all the time.
halfshadow1
ah,here's another one for you all. I know we talked about running
around naked inside/outside but how about our son (6yo.) touching
himself all day. I told him that's his private parts and he should do
that when he's alone. It doesn't bother me when he does it in the
house, it really bothers DH. DH says i gotta put some clothes on him
so he wont do that all the time. Well...he does it with his clothes on
too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?
thanks again
Warmly,Heather
around naked inside/outside but how about our son (6yo.) touching
himself all day. I told him that's his private parts and he should do
that when he's alone. It doesn't bother me when he does it in the
house, it really bothers DH. DH says i gotta put some clothes on him
so he wont do that all the time. Well...he does it with his clothes on
too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?
thanks again
Warmly,Heather
Sandra Dodd
-=Our
son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?-=-
Both my boys did it when they were young.
My advice for your son is to talk to him about it as you would about
eating boogers or scratching his ass. if he chooses to do that
where nobody else sees or knows, it's his private business, but it's
not to be done in front of ANYbody else.
If I were with him in public and he did it I would say "stop," and
just mean it.
If he didn't stop I'd say "Hey, it's time to go eat (or something
real)" and get him out of there.
Another thing to mention is that at some point it becomes illegal.
If an adult were doing it the police could come and take him away
from the park.
Sandra
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son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?-=-
Both my boys did it when they were young.
My advice for your son is to talk to him about it as you would about
eating boogers or scratching his ass. if he chooses to do that
where nobody else sees or knows, it's his private business, but it's
not to be done in front of ANYbody else.
If I were with him in public and he did it I would say "stop," and
just mean it.
If he didn't stop I'd say "Hey, it's time to go eat (or something
real)" and get him out of there.
Another thing to mention is that at some point it becomes illegal.
If an adult were doing it the police could come and take him away
from the park.
Sandra
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Meadow Linden
Our son is 6 years old too and has always pulled, etc on his penis a lot. He doesn't tend to do it anymore out in public...he does it some at home (he still loves to be naked at home...as did our daughter until she was 7 or 8) and we've just recently started to tell him that he needs to do it when we're not around or that he needs to put some pants on. He seems kind of oblivious when he's doing it. Anyway, we have not made a big deal about it at all...just casually explained why its best not to do that around others...and he doesn't seem to mind when we ask him to put pants on or whatever. It definitely seems to be something that (with a little prodding from us) he's growing out of, if it makes you feel better. He'll be 7 soon, by the way. :) Good luck!
Meadow
halfshadow1 <halfshadow1@...> wrote:
ah,here's another one for you all. I know we talked about running
around naked inside/outside but how about our son (6yo.) touching
himself all day. I told him that's his private parts and he should do
that when he's alone. It doesn't bother me when he does it in the
house, it really bothers DH. DH says i gotta put some clothes on him
so he wont do that all the time. Well...he does it with his clothes on
too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?
thanks again
Warmly,Heather
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Meadow
halfshadow1 <halfshadow1@...> wrote:
ah,here's another one for you all. I know we talked about running
around naked inside/outside but how about our son (6yo.) touching
himself all day. I told him that's his private parts and he should do
that when he's alone. It doesn't bother me when he does it in the
house, it really bothers DH. DH says i gotta put some clothes on him
so he wont do that all the time. Well...he does it with his clothes on
too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
thing that they all do?
thanks again
Warmly,Heather
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Kathleen Gehrke
--- In [email protected], Meadow Linden
<meadowblue4@...> wrote:
about his daughter touching herself. She is one a a half.
I told him nothing. I said put a diaper on her or ignore her, or give
her something more fun. Although come to think of it there are very
few things more fun. <BWG>
Anyway I just wanted to add at six it is perfectly fine to ask
someone not to touch themselves in ways that make folks uncomfortable.
The trouble is it can become a habit if it has been done for a while
and hard to be aware of. I would have hand replacement activities.
Squeezie balls.. HA HA squeezie balls! OMG way to much bathroom
humor at my house.
My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.
Kathleen
<meadowblue4@...> wrote:
>It is so funny this thread came up, my son just asked me what to do
about his daughter touching herself. She is one a a half.
I told him nothing. I said put a diaper on her or ignore her, or give
her something more fun. Although come to think of it there are very
few things more fun. <BWG>
Anyway I just wanted to add at six it is perfectly fine to ask
someone not to touch themselves in ways that make folks uncomfortable.
The trouble is it can become a habit if it has been done for a while
and hard to be aware of. I would have hand replacement activities.
Squeezie balls.. HA HA squeezie balls! OMG way to much bathroom
humor at my house.
My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.
Kathleen
Sandra Dodd
-=My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.-=-
She's eight. I wouldn't say please.
Sandra
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your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.-=-
She's eight. I wouldn't say please.
Sandra
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Kathleen Gehrke
--- In [email protected], Meadow Linden
<meadowblue4@...> wrote:
about his daughter touching herself. She is one a a half.
I told him nothing. I said put a diaper on her or ignore her, or give
her something more fun. Although come to think of it there are very
few things more fun. <BWG>
Anyway I just wanted to add at six it is perfectly fine to ask
someone not to touch themselves in ways that make folks uncomfortable.
The trouble is it can become a habit if it has been done for a while
and hard to be aware of. I would have hand replacement activities.
Squeezie balls.. HA HA squeezie balls! OMG way to much bathroom
humor at my house.
My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.
Kathleen
<meadowblue4@...> wrote:
>It is so funny this thread came up, my son just asked me what to do
about his daughter touching herself. She is one a a half.
I told him nothing. I said put a diaper on her or ignore her, or give
her something more fun. Although come to think of it there are very
few things more fun. <BWG>
Anyway I just wanted to add at six it is perfectly fine to ask
someone not to touch themselves in ways that make folks uncomfortable.
The trouble is it can become a habit if it has been done for a while
and hard to be aware of. I would have hand replacement activities.
Squeezie balls.. HA HA squeezie balls! OMG way to much bathroom
humor at my house.
My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.
Kathleen
Kathleen Gehrke
--- In [email protected], Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:
kathleen
>She is developmentally delayed. I say please.
> -=My eight year old likes to touch herself and we just say please keep
> your hand out of your pants unless you are alone. THANKS.-=-
>
> She's eight. I wouldn't say please.
>
>
>
> Sandra
kathleen
Sandra Dodd
-=-She is developmentally delayed. I say please.-=-
That's different, then. But for a kid of normal ability and
awareness, they should be talked to way sooner than then about why
and where.
But when IS too old, even for developmentally delayed kids? Some
things really can't be done in public.
It used to be common for parents to say "NEVER" touch yourself.
Saying "Do it in private" isn't very oppressive.
Sandra
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That's different, then. But for a kid of normal ability and
awareness, they should be talked to way sooner than then about why
and where.
But when IS too old, even for developmentally delayed kids? Some
things really can't be done in public.
It used to be common for parents to say "NEVER" touch yourself.
Saying "Do it in private" isn't very oppressive.
Sandra
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Lara Miller
My daughter has "enjoyed" herself since she could crawl. She is now
8. When she was about 2-3 we basically said that it was fine that
she do it, but it needed to be done in the privacy of her own room.
My boys? They are 6 & 9 and touch themselves also, but in a more
normal way - whatever that means. Lets say that they don't touch
themselves anymore than my husband does! lol
Funny story - we were at Epcot center on Friday and at night before
the fireworks be bought them these obnoxious lighted, glow in the
dark, spinning Mickey things. Well all of them spin in circles in
crazy ways. We were walking along trying to find a place for the
fireworks and look back at the boys and they are standing there,
arched back with their new toys firmly smashed up against their
private parts with the lights a-goin' and the top a-spinnin',
laughing and grinning ear to ear. It was one of those moments where
as a parent you know you need to put an immediate stop to what is
happening, but it was so damn funny AND mortifying at the same time
all we could do is laugh. We did make them stop, but then they were
trying to stick the end of it up their nose and in their ears....boys
are really gross sometimes ya know!
Blessings,
Lara Miller
Currently in Sunny Bradenton, FL!
http://www.mytripjournal.com/millerfamily
8. When she was about 2-3 we basically said that it was fine that
she do it, but it needed to be done in the privacy of her own room.
My boys? They are 6 & 9 and touch themselves also, but in a more
normal way - whatever that means. Lets say that they don't touch
themselves anymore than my husband does! lol
Funny story - we were at Epcot center on Friday and at night before
the fireworks be bought them these obnoxious lighted, glow in the
dark, spinning Mickey things. Well all of them spin in circles in
crazy ways. We were walking along trying to find a place for the
fireworks and look back at the boys and they are standing there,
arched back with their new toys firmly smashed up against their
private parts with the lights a-goin' and the top a-spinnin',
laughing and grinning ear to ear. It was one of those moments where
as a parent you know you need to put an immediate stop to what is
happening, but it was so damn funny AND mortifying at the same time
all we could do is laugh. We did make them stop, but then they were
trying to stick the end of it up their nose and in their ears....boys
are really gross sometimes ya know!
Blessings,
Lara Miller
Currently in Sunny Bradenton, FL!
http://www.mytripjournal.com/millerfamily
On Feb 9, 2008, at 6:44 PM, halfshadow1 wrote:
> ah,here's another one for you all. I know we talked about running
> around naked inside/outside but how about our son (6yo.) touching
> himself all day. I told him that's his private parts and he should do
> that when he's alone. It doesn't bother me when he does it in the
> house, it really bothers DH. DH says i gotta put some clothes on him
> so he wont do that all the time. Well...he does it with his clothes on
> too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
> it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
> son is so stubborn about this. He's very animated doing it in the
> house,flipping it,bending it when he talking to us. Is this a guy
> thing that they all do?
> thanks again
> Warmly,Heather
>
>
>
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pattywithawhy1
--- In [email protected], "halfshadow1" <halfshadow1@...>
wrote:
pockets out of his pants. I did that when ds was 4. We still had to
deal with keeping his hands clean, but he was happy enough with the
free access to be pretty cooperative about that.
I don't know if it'd be quite as discreet with the flipping and
bending stuff though. :-)
Patty
wrote:
>Well...he does it with his clothes onIf the problem is being seen and getting teased, you could cut the
> too. DH took him to the playground today and he son our son was doing
> it there and some girls were looking at him,pointing and laughing. Our
> son is so stubborn about this. >>
>
pockets out of his pants. I did that when ds was 4. We still had to
deal with keeping his hands clean, but he was happy enough with the
free access to be pretty cooperative about that.
I don't know if it'd be quite as discreet with the flipping and
bending stuff though. :-)
Patty
Sandra Dodd
This discussion is making me uncomfortable and I don't want to be
seen to be condoning by silence ANY of the encouragement or
assistance of kids doing what is illegal for adults to do.
An eight year old of either gender touching private parts in public
is an invitation for child protective services to see what's up.
It really, honestly, needs to stop. Unless you're hoping someone
will take the child away so you won't have to deal with the probelm
anymore, it's not really a matter for "please" and to share ideas
here to make it EASIER for kids to do it longer seems very wrong.
Sandra
seen to be condoning by silence ANY of the encouragement or
assistance of kids doing what is illegal for adults to do.
An eight year old of either gender touching private parts in public
is an invitation for child protective services to see what's up.
It really, honestly, needs to stop. Unless you're hoping someone
will take the child away so you won't have to deal with the probelm
anymore, it's not really a matter for "please" and to share ideas
here to make it EASIER for kids to do it longer seems very wrong.
Sandra
pattywithawhy1
--- In [email protected], Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:
we were discussing a little kid still at that running-around-naked
age. I wouldn't encourage that in older kids or adults either.
Patty
>Oops, sorry, I must have really spaced on this discussion. I thought
> An eight year old of either gender touching private parts in public
> is an invitation for child protective services to see what's up.
we were discussing a little kid still at that running-around-naked
age. I wouldn't encourage that in older kids or adults either.
Patty