Amy

The other night I was wondering why some kids can be so impatient.
Then I realized how impatiently most adults treat children.
I see it all the time. When a child wants something, they are usually
told to wait and that they need to learn to be patient. Then I hear
the adults saying things like "I said NOW"! (to whatever their request
was).

Of course I realized it when I was being impatient, but thankfully that
is not often and my daughter is pretty darn patient for a four year old.

Anyway, that's probably a no brainer for most of you here, but my mind
was just exploding with thoughts like this. Writing them down, they
seem painfully obvious.

~amy, an old gal learning things every day.

Robyn L. Coburn

<<< The other night I was wondering why some kids can be so impatient.
> Then I realized how impatiently most adults treat children. >>>>

Yeah, I'm having a bit of trouble with my expectations of patience at the
moment. As always, it's me and my attitude that are creating any problems.
It is especially difficult in these times of heightened emotions - the
Holidays - for Jayn to be patient at all, let alone *more* patient than
usual just because I am busier.

Robyn L. Coburn

Sandra Dodd

-=-The other night I was wondering why some kids can be so impatient.
Then I realized how impatiently most adults treat children.
I see it all the time. When a child wants something, they are usually
told to wait and that they need to learn to be patient. Then I hear
the adults saying things like "I said NOW"! (to whatever their request
was).-=-

That's true, and it's doubly ironic that the adults who should have
learned to be patient are not. They expect kids to act like adults
while they themselves are acting like kids. <g>



Sandra






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Laurie Wolfrum

Amy said "... When a child wants something, they are
usually told to wait and that they need to learn to be
patient. Then I hear the adults saying things like "I
said NOW"! (to whatever their request
was)."
Sandra said, "That's true, and it's doubly ironic that
the adults who should have learned to be patient are
not. They expect kids to act like adults while they
themselves are acting like kids. <g>"

We just had a family friend (Jene) stay with us for a
couple of nights. She is like a second grandmother to
me. I was about to help her turn on the TV, but my
little one needed me and I followed her instead and
stuck my head over the stair railing and yelled to my
dd Katie (10) to please help Jene with the Tv. Then I
dashed after my youngest dd. Jene apparently also
asked Katie for help, but Katie was totally into her
computer game and had only a minute or so left and
said that she would help her in a minute or something
like that. (Later my dd told me that Jene had rolled
her eyes and walked away.) During a conversation a
few hours later, Jene told me that she was shocked
that my dd did not immediately come and help her when
asked. I said that often I answer like that if I am
involved with a thought or am halfway through writing
a sentence. So I know where she got that from. Jene
said that she meant that she was not used to children
being able to tell an adult to wait. She said the way
she was raised, a child did what was asked by an adult
right away. She said that she is not used to children
and adults being equal.

I don't think it was terribly rude of my dd to tell
someone else they'd help in a minute. I do not
believe that kids should jump up and please adults, I
guess really no one should do that unless they want
to. You'd think adults would have more patience and
know that the kids are learning patience from them and
other models they are exposed to. What do kids learn
when an adult acts or thinks this way? That people
eventually can "expect" others to stop what they are
doing and immediately help them? I think it is far
better to model genuinely asking for help, being
patient and showing gratitude. Laurie


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Julie Johnson

This is so true. I catch myself demanding immediate responses from my DD8, while often not responding to her immediately when deep in thought, trying to figure something out on the computer, reading a recipe, etc. I also notice that I will say, "Will you run and get the scissors for me?" or "Will you go shut of that light for me?" I don't want to treat her like a servant and I always show that I am happy to do the same for her if she asks, "Can you get my slippers for me?" or "Can you get me a cup of water?"

I like what Laurie wrote: " I think it is far
better to model genuinely asking for help, being
patient and showing gratitude." We should model patience with each other as well as patience with ourselves.

Laurie Wolfrum <alohabun@...> wrote: Amy said "... When a child wants something, they are
usually told to wait and that they need to learn to be
patient. Then I hear the adults saying things like "I
said NOW"! (to whatever their request
was)."
Sandra said, "That's true, and it's doubly ironic that
the adults who should have learned to be patient are
not. They expect kids to act like adults while they
themselves are acting like kids. <g>"

We just had a family friend (Jene) stay with us for a
couple of nights. She is like a second grandmother to
me. I was about to help her turn on the TV, but my
little one needed me and I followed her instead and
stuck my head over the stair railing and yelled to my
dd Katie (10) to please help Jene with the Tv. Then I
dashed after my youngest dd. Jene apparently also
asked Katie for help, but Katie was totally into her
computer game and had only a minute or so left and
said that she would help her in a minute or something
like that. (Later my dd told me that Jene had rolled
her eyes and walked away.) During a conversation a
few hours later, Jene told me that she was shocked
that my dd did not immediately come and help her when
asked. I said that often I answer like that if I am
involved with a thought or am halfway through writing
a sentence. So I know where she got that from. Jene
said that she meant that she was not used to children
being able to tell an adult to wait. She said the way
she was raised, a child did what was asked by an adult
right away. She said that she is not used to children
and adults being equal.

I don't think it was terribly rude of my dd to tell
someone else they'd help in a minute. I do not
believe that kids should jump up and please adults, I
guess really no one should do that unless they want
to. You'd think adults would have more patience and
know that the kids are learning patience from them and
other models they are exposed to. What do kids learn
when an adult acts or thinks this way? That people
eventually can "expect" others to stop what they are
doing and immediately help them? I think it is far
better to model genuinely asking for help, being
patient and showing gratitude. Laurie

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