Crystal Miller

<< If I truly trust Sorscha to make decisions for her self then should I be
okay if she were to make a decision to kiss this older child?

<<I wonder if you still feel like I haven't answered your question.>>

*Nope...I'm not sure where that one slipped in AGAIN. Must have been one of
those yahoo wierdies where a post come through twice and you feel like an
idiot and you want to scream, "I swear! I didn't post it twice." Heehee.

I really liked your analogies to school, pool, etc. Thanks, I like when
things are turned around because it helps to process them differently in my
brain. After this discussion, I feel like I am pretty darn on-track with my
conversations with Sorscha and am comfortable with the feelings I was
having. I'm glad that I explored them now even though a situation might
never come up. I also think that I can add some more conversation (when/if
the time is right and she wants to hear me) about boundaries (hers and
others). Thanks for all the input.
~Crystal~

magenta_mum

Okay, good. Yesterday, I started to hear the arguments for paedophilia
(and there are some) in my head, the arguments of those who think it's
often okay and right for children of all ages to be fully sexually
active - not from watching crime shows either, btw, and I got really
angry and wanted to stop the "what if she consented" business in it's
tracks... Which is not where you were coming from, I know. I'm sorry
that my last post on the topic was quite rude, Crystal. It wasn't
about you.

Although I have only a good laypersons understanding of all this,
every fibre of my being was screaming on behalf of children who
allegedly consented to things they couldn't possibly have had a full
understanding of - and I don't mean to underestimate what children are
often capable of (sex aside, I think) when I say that.

I simply could not see the child you've described Sorscha to be
actively consenting to anything really sexual, and wasn't sure if
that's where your question, the one I isolated, was going. In my head
I saw it horribly misused, if ever answered in the affirmative.

I apologise for not keeping a cool head.

Jo R


--- In [email protected], "Crystal Miller"
<willowsfortress@...> wrote:
>
> << If I truly trust Sorscha to make decisions for her self then
should I be
> okay if she were to make a decision to kiss this older child?
>
> <<I wonder if you still feel like I haven't answered your question.>>
>
> *Nope...I'm not sure where that one slipped in AGAIN. Must have
been one of
> those yahoo wierdies where a post come through twice and you feel
like an
> idiot and you want to scream, "I swear! I didn't post it twice."
Heehee.
>
> I really liked your analogies to school, pool, etc. Thanks, I like
when
> things are turned around because it helps to process them
differently in my
> brain. After this discussion, I feel like I am pretty darn on-track
with my
> conversations with Sorscha and am comfortable with the feelings I was
> having. I'm glad that I explored them now even though a situation
might
> never come up. I also think that I can add some more conversation
(when/if
> the time is right and she wants to hear me) about boundaries (hers and
> others). Thanks for all the input.
> ~Crystal~
>