Wildflower Car

Lately my mind has been spinning, I have found myself obsessively thinking
about college. My oldest daughter is starting college in the fall. I have so
much trepidation about it!

I know that her desire to go to college is based on curiosity. She said she
is willing to play the game to get in in order to go. It is really bothering
me, I don't want her to go and I want her to try some online classes first.
She wants to go for a social aspect and has politely shrugged off online
classes.

I would really like to hear what other have done in the situation, either
for your self or your child.

I know my run away thoughts are getting too much of my time, but they are
just stuck there!

Much Love,
Wildflower

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Sandra Dodd

-=-Lately my mind has been spinning, I have found myself obsessively
thinking
about college. My oldest daughter is starting college in the fall. I
have so
much trepidation about it!-=-

How old is she?
Is she taking a few local classes, or going out of town to be full time?

Sandra

Nancy Wooton

On Jan 11, 2007, at 9:26 AM, Wildflower Car wrote:

> Lately my mind has been spinning, I have found myself obsessively
> thinking
> about college. My oldest daughter is starting college in the fall. I
> have so
> much trepidation about it!
>
> I know that her desire to go to college is based on curiosity. She
> said she
> is willing to play the game to get in in order to go. It is really
> bothering
> me, I don't want her to go and I want her to try some online classes
> first.
> She wants to go for a social aspect and has politely shrugged off
> online
> classes.
>
> I would really like to hear what other have done in the situation,
> either
> for your self or your child.
>
> I know my run away thoughts are getting too much of my time, but they
> are
> just stuck there!
>
> Much Love,
> Wildflower
>

I'm wishing I had your problem! My 19 y.o. took one semester of
community college last fall, got A's, B's and credit for the
credit-only classes, but won't go back. Says she hates school (this is
a life-long unschooler <g>). The problem is Dad, who keeps asking *me*
what she's going to do. I suggest he ask her. She has no plans, no
ambition, no need or desire to leave home. She applied for one job
last year. She doesn't drive and has no desire to learn; if she does
get a job, it will be my job to transport her, just as it was with
college. She doesn't see the point of racking up credits without any
goals.

Nancy

Wildflower Car

She is 15, she is turning 16 in March. We live in a rural community with the
closest city being a two university city. There is a small community
college, it is 45 minutes away, the state university offers dual enrollment
for ages 16-19. The state college is about 25-30 minutes away.

Wildflower

>From: Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Mind Binge
>Date: Thu, 11 Jan 2007 10:37:01 -0700
>
>-=-Lately my mind has been spinning, I have found myself obsessively
>thinking
>about college. My oldest daughter is starting college in the fall. I
>have so
>much trepidation about it!-=-
>
>How old is she?
>Is she taking a few local classes, or going out of town to be full time?
>
>Sandra

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Wildflower Car

When I was 19 I had no desire to go to college. I never have had a strong
desire to attend college, I have always had a strong desire to learn. I have
even audited a few classes while my husband was taking them for
informational purposes. My husband waited until he was in his late 20's to
finish college. It has neither made or broken his career or mine. And
without putting too much importance in money, we make plenty.

Wildflower


>From: Nancy Wooton <nancywooton@...>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Mind Binge
>Date: Thu, 11 Jan 2007 11:33:52 -0800
>
>
>On Jan 11, 2007, at 9:26 AM, Wildflower Car wrote:
>
> > Lately my mind has been spinning, I have found myself obsessively
> > thinking
> > about college. My oldest daughter is starting college in the fall. I
> > have so
> > much trepidation about it!
> >
> > I know that her desire to go to college is based on curiosity. She
> > said she
> > is willing to play the game to get in in order to go. It is really
> > bothering
> > me, I don't want her to go and I want her to try some online classes
> > first.
> > She wants to go for a social aspect and has politely shrugged off
> > online
> > classes.
> >
> > I would really like to hear what other have done in the situation,
> > either
> > for your self or your child.
> >
> > I know my run away thoughts are getting too much of my time, but they
> > are
> > just stuck there!
> >
> > Much Love,
> > Wildflower
> >
>
>I'm wishing I had your problem! My 19 y.o. took one semester of
>community college last fall, got A's, B's and credit for the
>credit-only classes, but won't go back. Says she hates school (this is
>a life-long unschooler <g>). The problem is Dad, who keeps asking *me*
>what she's going to do. I suggest he ask her. She has no plans, no
>ambition, no need or desire to leave home. She applied for one job
>last year. She doesn't drive and has no desire to learn; if she does
>get a job, it will be my job to transport her, just as it was with
>college. She doesn't see the point of racking up credits without any
>goals.
>
>Nancy
>

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plaidpanties666

--- In [email protected], "Wildflower Car"
<unschoolfool@...> wrote:
>
> When I was 19 I had no desire to go to college. I never have had a
strong
> desire to attend college, I have always had a strong desire to
learn.

It sounds like you are saying you are having trouble connecting with
your dd's desire, since its not one you share. Have there been other
times in her life when she has developped an interest that you had
difficulty understanding or connecting with? If y'all have mostly
shared interests in the past, its no wonder you are reeling!

I have been doing quite a bit of "stretching" since my stepson moved
in - his interests are very different from mine, whereas my 5yr old
tends to be interested in the sorts of things that are easy for me
to relate to.

Imerse yourself in her interest, just as if she were interested in
skateboarding or painting. Ask her what she's excited about and look
for ways to support her. Help her look over the course catalog, if
she wants, and figure out which classes could fill requirements
while being more fun than the usual. Take a tour of the school with
her - they usually have some standard "orientation" tours for
incoming freshmen, or you can just go and sight see.

> She wants to go for a social aspect

I loved the "social aspect" of going to a Big university. It was a
really easy environment in which to sample a lot of different social
scenes and make friends with a pretty wide range of ages and
backgrounds. I'd say I got waaaaaaaay more out of the social parts
of college than the "academic" parts.

---Meredith