Re: [AlwaysLearning] Digest Number 1876
Betsy Hill
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The underlying issue, I think, is how damaging it can be to compare
children, to decide that one child is doing "better" and that the
other child is therefore somehow deficient. And this is damaging to a
child whether he is the better one or the deficient one. And it is
damaging to our relationships with our kids if we're thinking in
these terms even in subtle ways. Or so it seems to me.**
I really liked the way you explained this, Su. I was really reading your whole post with enthusiasm.
Bottom line for me, is that I think it can be positive if we compare a child, with himself at an earlier age, and feel excited about new skills. But comparisons with others or with a benchmark seem to stir up unpleasant feelings.
Betsy
The underlying issue, I think, is how damaging it can be to compare
children, to decide that one child is doing "better" and that the
other child is therefore somehow deficient. And this is damaging to a
child whether he is the better one or the deficient one. And it is
damaging to our relationships with our kids if we're thinking in
these terms even in subtle ways. Or so it seems to me.**
I really liked the way you explained this, Su. I was really reading your whole post with enthusiasm.
Bottom line for me, is that I think it can be positive if we compare a child, with himself at an earlier age, and feel excited about new skills. But comparisons with others or with a benchmark seem to stir up unpleasant feelings.
Betsy