Re: [AlwaysLearning] Digest Number 124
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Wow! Great topics today.
I totally agree with Sandra on both the breastfeeding and the child that was
acting out issues!!
My first thought when I read about the child's aggressive behavior towards
her brother is that she hates his guts for being born and stealing Mom and
Dad's attention.
It may be irrational....but I hated my sis for being born for a long time
too. It doesn't mean they always hate them, but there is a level of
resentment.
I am best friends with both my birth siblings now, so it will turn out ok.
She is definitely crying out for one on one attention.
I really need to do more of this at my house right now too.
It's hard to do sometimes, but kids really need that.
I totally do not understand what is so hard about nursing discreetly. I can
nurse my little guy without a blanket or any kind of cover...just lifting my
shirt and not show anything. Ok, maybe a little flash of skin, but it's so
easy to latch him on and not flash my boob.
I think some people TRY to "let it hang out" to make a point.
I do think our society needs to get over it sometimes. But to purposely
aggravate or upset people only causes people to resist further.
It isn't going against beliefs to just respect other people's discomfort. I
can still nurse my baby whenever he needs it, where ever we
are....sensitivity to other people's feelings is not a bad idea.
I think your wording was just fine on the first blurb.
You could hem and haw over it forever and you'll never have the "perfect"
statement that won't offend anybody.
You could say nothing and offend people at the hotel and cause them to
further distance themselves from understanding.
You could re-word it to try and not offend a single LLL person and someone in
that group is still going to not like the insinuation that she cover up a
little.
Oh well.
Just do what is necessary and it will work out.
I thought the wording was perfect.
Simple and to the point.
Lemon Curd?
It's this sweet, delicious spread that has a gel like consistency. That's the
best way I can describe it.
It's bright yellow, has a lot of egg in it and lemon of course and tastes
soooo excellent on a hot buttered crumpet!!
Crumpets are the little round (english muffin size) bread with lotsa holes in
it....all the better for the lemon curd and butter to sink down into. Yummmmy!
I will look for my sis's lemon curd recipe if you want. I've also bought it
at Albertsons for close to four bucks for a LITTLE jar. Not cheap. But oh so
worth it.
They also sell raspberry and other flavored curds but lemon is the best.
The only one worth the money in my opinion.
Ren
I totally agree with Sandra on both the breastfeeding and the child that was
acting out issues!!
My first thought when I read about the child's aggressive behavior towards
her brother is that she hates his guts for being born and stealing Mom and
Dad's attention.
It may be irrational....but I hated my sis for being born for a long time
too. It doesn't mean they always hate them, but there is a level of
resentment.
I am best friends with both my birth siblings now, so it will turn out ok.
She is definitely crying out for one on one attention.
I really need to do more of this at my house right now too.
It's hard to do sometimes, but kids really need that.
I totally do not understand what is so hard about nursing discreetly. I can
nurse my little guy without a blanket or any kind of cover...just lifting my
shirt and not show anything. Ok, maybe a little flash of skin, but it's so
easy to latch him on and not flash my boob.
I think some people TRY to "let it hang out" to make a point.
I do think our society needs to get over it sometimes. But to purposely
aggravate or upset people only causes people to resist further.
It isn't going against beliefs to just respect other people's discomfort. I
can still nurse my baby whenever he needs it, where ever we
are....sensitivity to other people's feelings is not a bad idea.
I think your wording was just fine on the first blurb.
You could hem and haw over it forever and you'll never have the "perfect"
statement that won't offend anybody.
You could say nothing and offend people at the hotel and cause them to
further distance themselves from understanding.
You could re-word it to try and not offend a single LLL person and someone in
that group is still going to not like the insinuation that she cover up a
little.
Oh well.
Just do what is necessary and it will work out.
I thought the wording was perfect.
Simple and to the point.
Lemon Curd?
It's this sweet, delicious spread that has a gel like consistency. That's the
best way I can describe it.
It's bright yellow, has a lot of egg in it and lemon of course and tastes
soooo excellent on a hot buttered crumpet!!
Crumpets are the little round (english muffin size) bread with lotsa holes in
it....all the better for the lemon curd and butter to sink down into. Yummmmy!
I will look for my sis's lemon curd recipe if you want. I've also bought it
at Albertsons for close to four bucks for a LITTLE jar. Not cheap. But oh so
worth it.
They also sell raspberry and other flavored curds but lemon is the best.
The only one worth the money in my opinion.
Ren
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In a message dated 1/11/02 10:03:32 PM, starsuncloud@... writes:
<< It may be irrational....but I hated my sis for being born for a long time
too. It doesn't mean they always hate them, but there is a level of
resentment. >>
Me too. I wasn't too happy with my mom, either, for making me live on the
outskirts of their new relationship.
<<I think some people TRY to "let it hang out" to make a point.>>
I know they do. Some are very exhibitionist about it, and it's embarrassing
for those who would like for the stigma to go away. Those folks are the
two-steps-back in the steady progression toward acceptance.
Sandra
<< It may be irrational....but I hated my sis for being born for a long time
too. It doesn't mean they always hate them, but there is a level of
resentment. >>
Me too. I wasn't too happy with my mom, either, for making me live on the
outskirts of their new relationship.
<<I think some people TRY to "let it hang out" to make a point.>>
I know they do. Some are very exhibitionist about it, and it's embarrassing
for those who would like for the stigma to go away. Those folks are the
two-steps-back in the steady progression toward acceptance.
Sandra
Julie Stauffer
<<And when alone they are not the same as when we are all together>>
This is so true. I have 5 children and when they were young we also had
young foster kids. Now, I'm not sure whether it was a good idea or not.
The kids learned about helping others and they continue to feel the desire
to help the less fortunate; but, they didn't get a lot of alone time.
When we are all together, it can get overwhelming. Any time your fanny hits
a chair, the four youngest want to sit close enough to you so you can
cuddle. The three middle ones want to assist in every, single task you
undertake. All 5 are extremely talkative and the two boys respond with
"what?" to almost anything that is said to them, requiring that it be
repeated.
But alone, life is wonderful and good. We actually have conversations and
laugh and are silly together. As dh and I have been working to have more
and more alone time with each child, things are much improved even when we
are all together.
The way we work it is each person in the family has their "day". 7 of us, 7
days in a week, it works out. On your day, you are the winner of any
"squabble", like picking a blessing, riding in the front seat, picking a
television show. But the big one is helping fix dinner. Used to be a big
problem because if one came to help, they all came. Several are young
enough that I need a sharp eye....and I don't have that many eyes. We also
read together privately. The child and I cuddle on my bed and I rub their
backs as I read to them.
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Just wanted to say that I got lots of positive response from our support
group about my "recess" idea. And that I will be gone for a few days....off
to a goat show with only my oldest. I'm very excited. Of course, had to
spend the morning shaving a goat's butt but it was definitely worth it.
Julie
This is so true. I have 5 children and when they were young we also had
young foster kids. Now, I'm not sure whether it was a good idea or not.
The kids learned about helping others and they continue to feel the desire
to help the less fortunate; but, they didn't get a lot of alone time.
When we are all together, it can get overwhelming. Any time your fanny hits
a chair, the four youngest want to sit close enough to you so you can
cuddle. The three middle ones want to assist in every, single task you
undertake. All 5 are extremely talkative and the two boys respond with
"what?" to almost anything that is said to them, requiring that it be
repeated.
But alone, life is wonderful and good. We actually have conversations and
laugh and are silly together. As dh and I have been working to have more
and more alone time with each child, things are much improved even when we
are all together.
The way we work it is each person in the family has their "day". 7 of us, 7
days in a week, it works out. On your day, you are the winner of any
"squabble", like picking a blessing, riding in the front seat, picking a
television show. But the big one is helping fix dinner. Used to be a big
problem because if one came to help, they all came. Several are young
enough that I need a sharp eye....and I don't have that many eyes. We also
read together privately. The child and I cuddle on my bed and I rub their
backs as I read to them.
-------------
Just wanted to say that I got lots of positive response from our support
group about my "recess" idea. And that I will be gone for a few days....off
to a goat show with only my oldest. I'm very excited. Of course, had to
spend the morning shaving a goat's butt but it was definitely worth it.
Julie