Sleeping arrangements
Ren Allen
Can you set up one of the kids rooms with a bed big enough (or other
space) for all three of you to go sleep in? Let your dh have the
queen, but that doesn't mean your kids have to sleep without you!
I've done a lot of "musical beds" over the years. My dh has finally
relented over his stance on this (his views haven't really changed, he
just decided that if he's married to me he has to deal with it) and
things are peaceful as far as co-cleeping now.
I'm perfectly fine with sleeping in the kids rooms though, maybe that
would make him chill out? Yeah, he might like more time with you, but
if you're choosing to sleep with your kids, rather than having them in
with you, what's he going to say? He can't bitch at you about where
you're choosing to sleep, can he?;)
Ren
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space) for all three of you to go sleep in? Let your dh have the
queen, but that doesn't mean your kids have to sleep without you!
I've done a lot of "musical beds" over the years. My dh has finally
relented over his stance on this (his views haven't really changed, he
just decided that if he's married to me he has to deal with it) and
things are peaceful as far as co-cleeping now.
I'm perfectly fine with sleeping in the kids rooms though, maybe that
would make him chill out? Yeah, he might like more time with you, but
if you're choosing to sleep with your kids, rather than having them in
with you, what's he going to say? He can't bitch at you about where
you're choosing to sleep, can he?;)
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
Ren Allen
"I haven't posted here (or anywhere) in quite a while."
You know, I JUST realized who I was responding to about the sleeping
arrangements!! Hi Joanna, I've missed you.
Tell Bob that a Dad who sings "spongebob squarepants" in front of
hundreds of unschoolers, is not allowed to gripe about sleeping
arrangements and that I said PPPpppppffffffftttt!
Ok, seriously...he and my dh could commiserate with one another if we
ever had them in the same place. Mine's just given up, that's all.;)
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
You know, I JUST realized who I was responding to about the sleeping
arrangements!! Hi Joanna, I've missed you.
Tell Bob that a Dad who sings "spongebob squarepants" in front of
hundreds of unschoolers, is not allowed to gripe about sleeping
arrangements and that I said PPPpppppffffffftttt!
Ok, seriously...he and my dh could commiserate with one another if we
ever had them in the same place. Mine's just given up, that's all.;)
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
Pamela Sorooshian
On Feb 2, 2006, at 5:47 PM, Ren Allen wrote:
My husband would want in on that commiserating! He also gave up and,
guess what, at 21, 18, and 15 - the kids hardly ever climb into bed
with us anymore. When they do, it is just for notalgia's sake.
Once they got old enough to feel comfortable off in their own room,
I'd lay down with them in their room - oh, all three shared one room
for many years. Sometimes one or more would get in with us, but I'd
usually move them to their own bed in the middle of the night. Or
they'd come get in with us in the early morning. Sometimes my husband
would go sleep in one of their beds - if he really needed a good
night of uninterrupted sleep. All KINDS of combinations and
possibilities. Maybe Bob would feel better just knowing that he's
not the only dad not thrilled with the situation.
Back home in Iran, where my dh comes from, people usually all slept
in pads on the roof in the summer and in one warmed room in the
winter. So my husband was used to the idea of families all sleeping
in the same place - but he is a light sleeper and sometimes the kids
woke him up too much when we were in one bed. Sometimes they'd sleep
on the floor beside the bed - that was better. Then we had a daybed
in our room and a kid could sleep on that or one of us could move to
that if our bed started to get too crowded. That was great.
-pam
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> Ok, seriously...he and my dh could commiserate with one another if weHEYA - Joanna!!!
> ever had them in the same place. Mine's just given up, that's all.;)
My husband would want in on that commiserating! He also gave up and,
guess what, at 21, 18, and 15 - the kids hardly ever climb into bed
with us anymore. When they do, it is just for notalgia's sake.
Once they got old enough to feel comfortable off in their own room,
I'd lay down with them in their room - oh, all three shared one room
for many years. Sometimes one or more would get in with us, but I'd
usually move them to their own bed in the middle of the night. Or
they'd come get in with us in the early morning. Sometimes my husband
would go sleep in one of their beds - if he really needed a good
night of uninterrupted sleep. All KINDS of combinations and
possibilities. Maybe Bob would feel better just knowing that he's
not the only dad not thrilled with the situation.
Back home in Iran, where my dh comes from, people usually all slept
in pads on the roof in the summer and in one warmed room in the
winter. So my husband was used to the idea of families all sleeping
in the same place - but he is a light sleeper and sometimes the kids
woke him up too much when we were in one bed. Sometimes they'd sleep
on the floor beside the bed - that was better. Then we had a daybed
in our room and a kid could sleep on that or one of us could move to
that if our bed started to get too crowded. That was great.
-pam
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Sarah
Well, my husband wants in on the chat, too! We have a
king sized bed and a couch bed in our room. We're
lucky they will both fit. We sleep in many combos
through the night. Usually, though, my husband is on
the couch bed and the girls and I share the king.
When Sophia, age 7, does sleep in her own bed
(rarely), I miss her all night!
Sarah
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king sized bed and a couch bed in our room. We're
lucky they will both fit. We sleep in many combos
through the night. Usually, though, my husband is on
the couch bed and the girls and I share the king.
When Sophia, age 7, does sleep in her own bed
(rarely), I miss her all night!
Sarah
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> > Ok, seriously...he and my dh could commiserate
> with one another if we
> > ever had them in the same place. Mine's just given
> up, that's all.;)
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Joanna Wilkinson
>Okay, I told him!
> Tell Bob that a Dad who sings "spongebob squarepants" in front of
> hundreds of unschoolers, is not allowed to gripe about sleeping
> arrangements and that I said PPPpppppffffffftttt!
>
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
He laughed.
Thankyou all for the ideas.
When he got home yesterday, I gave him a hard time for having a fit in
front of the kids and said we needed to figure out a solution that
will work for all of us. I had been thinking we need to get cable in
the kids room, cause after stories in mine, we usually watch "That's
So Raven" or some other Disney channel or Nick shows. On the times we
tried to sleep upstairs, we would have to pick out a video to watch
and that usually didn't work as well, it kept them up longer or we
didn't have something they wanted to watch. It was just a lot easier
to be in my room. As I was about to suggest cable to Bob, he
said, "yeah, I think we should get cable upsairs, that would probably
solve everything."
I have a mattress I can throw on the floor, so I can be up there too.
I figure I'll start coming back down, after they fall asleep, after
they get use to being up there.
Thanks again everyone!
Joanna
Sandra Dodd
On Feb 3, 2006, at 8:48 AM, Joanna Wilkinson wrote:
In various combinations and times here, people have gone to sleep to
tapes, CDs, videos or TV. When I was exhausted and couldn't stay
awake but a kid was zingy-awake, I would sometimes say "Watch this,
and if you're still awake when it's over, you can come and wake me
up. Rarely did a kid last through the "timer."
One trick there is to make sure the input is long, peaceful,
familiar, and doesn't have any jump scenes (and in little-kid terms,
that can be a loud or funny part, something that would rouse a nearly-
asleep kid).
You can make long CDs of familiar, comfort-songs, maybe. Don't put
anything they really need to sing along to, or that makes them want
to get up and dance or start laughing.
And making them that deal about "if/then" gives them hope that it's
not really final bedtime (in my experience).
Sandra
> had been thinking we need to get cable in========================
> the kids room, cause after stories in mine, we usually watch "That's
> So Raven" or some other Disney channel or Nick shows.
In various combinations and times here, people have gone to sleep to
tapes, CDs, videos or TV. When I was exhausted and couldn't stay
awake but a kid was zingy-awake, I would sometimes say "Watch this,
and if you're still awake when it's over, you can come and wake me
up. Rarely did a kid last through the "timer."
One trick there is to make sure the input is long, peaceful,
familiar, and doesn't have any jump scenes (and in little-kid terms,
that can be a loud or funny part, something that would rouse a nearly-
asleep kid).
You can make long CDs of familiar, comfort-songs, maybe. Don't put
anything they really need to sing along to, or that makes them want
to get up and dance or start laughing.
And making them that deal about "if/then" gives them hope that it's
not really final bedtime (in my experience).
Sandra