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Yes Robyn,

I felt that way abt the aspy comment,too.
I guess when I say that "I have a delicate sanity" phrase thats what I mean, all those phrases...and this is getting way complicated for my little mind......and there goes another one.....my little mind.....and another thread....
In case anyones still reading, I think I've discovered that my real problem with the delicate sanity part is surfacing as a control issue and I'm working on that ,too.......The discovery happened on another list! See, I'm using multiple sources!

Lisa

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Sandra Dodd

On Jan 6, 2006, at 2:56 PM, <janclan@...>
<janclan@...> wrote:

> -=-I felt that way abt the aspy comment,too.-=-


I did too. It's a typical HUMAN thing, and a mature thing, to know
one's own limits. It's a typical unschooling and mindful parenting
thing, and a compassionate thing, to attend to those you love with an
eye to their comfort.


Learning our own limits and how to manage our moods and appetites,
needs for sleep, water, visits to the toilet... no matter how much or
how little our awareness, one step toward making better choices is a
good step. Any helpessness, learned or imposed or savored as a
quirk or a disability, is an unnecessary helplessness.

Anyone who is new enough to the list not to know there are some
collected bits about choices might want to read here. They're short
but important.

http://sandradodd.com/choice
http://sandradodd.com/chore/option
http://sandradodd.com/joyce/yes

In any case in which advice doesn't work, there's no sense going on
and on about why it won't work. If I had blind child and went to a
list where people were recommending movies and photography books, I
would be able to translate the gist of the recommendations (input and
expanded experience) and tailor them to my own child. More input and
more choices can be given no matter what a child's circumstances are.

As to "delicate sanity," perhaps choosing another word than "sanity"
would help, because "insanity" is neither safe nor desireable. It's
not kinda cute. It's frightening. But to discuss one's calm, or
collectedness, or patience, or centeredness wouldn't have such a
steep drop-off in case of failure.

Sandra

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Just in case, to be lighthearted, I lifted this from another posters byline quote:


Dreaming permits each and everyone of us to be quietly and safely
insane each and every night of our lives.
~William Dement



I have no idea who Mr Dement is (ha! a pseudonym?!)but I thought it fit the thread!

Lisa

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I like "delicate centeredness". I'll try to assimilate it.....

Lisa

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Sandra,

Oh and while I'm assmilating my new catch phrase (it reads sarcastically BUT I do NOT mean it that way), I've been learning a wonderful amount and even printed the "certificate of empowerment", "the edge of unschooling", "the value of choices" and others to have at the ready , when the computer is NOT on....which is not the case today , for my dear husband has taken the boys out for "man day" and I am doing some self-help (courtesy of all you poor souls)and then I will take a luxuriously long scented bath (in the daytime!!) More than you wanted to know? ;)

I offer My Apologies and Thanks Again,

Lisa

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Sandra Dodd

-=- I am doing some self-help (courtesy of all you poor souls)and
then I will take a luxuriously long scented bath (in the daytime!!) -=-


Long bath and guys gone for a while sounds good!
It's costing this group nothing to pour forth opinions. <g>

Sandra