rules vs principals
multimomma
Thanks Sandra, for yet another great link. I'm glad you post those whenever needed,
because I tried to read your website and kept getting side tracked by links. :-)
And now I was just side tracked by someone interested in Hawaiin jewelry and Mississippi.
Darn the luck, I forgot where I was going with this post....
Anyway, pieces really do scatter! I really don't blame the kids doing it, Sam is four, Dan is
two, and they just want to help. However, both of them are VERY active, with little impulse
control and lots of energy LOL! I just didn't want to squelch and didn't know what to say.
SO it seems that we've just put puzzles away and haven't gotten them out.
Ah...I was going to say something about self-regulation (I saw it in the link). Having a child
with a regulation disability, I thought if you were still interested I could share about self-
regulation in medical cases. :-) Self-regulation refers to the body's ability to sense needs
and, for the most part, address them automatically. So if you're getting dehydrated, you
start to crave water, if your blood sugar drops, you feel hungry, if your internal temp gets
too high, you start to sweat. Consciously, self-regulation consists of the choices that we
make when we feel hunger, thirst, sleepiness, hot, cold, whatever. In regards to tv,
reading, games, play, and learning that mentioned here, I would say that SR is just another
way to address the brains needs. Need stimulation, you choose what to stim it with.
Studies have shown that some people have a higher need for adrenaline, some people
have lesser, for example, which is how they explain people who have serious thrill issues
(ha...we've been watching a lot of Nemo lately)
Part of Breanna's autism is a self-regulation dysfunction. Her brain kind of short circuits,
and either she a) can't find what she needs for regulation or b) she gets stuck in a self-reg
that she no longer wants, but can't stop. I'm sure those of you without exp in the autism
world have still seen those in TV or movies. One obvious example is the rocking, etc. It
serves a purpose for a while, stimulating and regulating the brain, but begins to interfere
with walking, eating and sleeping. Sometimes the rocking happens because she needs
something, but can't find a way to address that need. In her case, we've spent a long time
increasing her toolbox, so to speak, so she has more ways to address her needs, and
decreasing her stress so she can practice alternative stimulations.
Anyway, hth, and isn't out of place.
Again, thanks for the principal link. I need to internalize that.
Melissa
because I tried to read your website and kept getting side tracked by links. :-)
And now I was just side tracked by someone interested in Hawaiin jewelry and Mississippi.
Darn the luck, I forgot where I was going with this post....
Anyway, pieces really do scatter! I really don't blame the kids doing it, Sam is four, Dan is
two, and they just want to help. However, both of them are VERY active, with little impulse
control and lots of energy LOL! I just didn't want to squelch and didn't know what to say.
SO it seems that we've just put puzzles away and haven't gotten them out.
Ah...I was going to say something about self-regulation (I saw it in the link). Having a child
with a regulation disability, I thought if you were still interested I could share about self-
regulation in medical cases. :-) Self-regulation refers to the body's ability to sense needs
and, for the most part, address them automatically. So if you're getting dehydrated, you
start to crave water, if your blood sugar drops, you feel hungry, if your internal temp gets
too high, you start to sweat. Consciously, self-regulation consists of the choices that we
make when we feel hunger, thirst, sleepiness, hot, cold, whatever. In regards to tv,
reading, games, play, and learning that mentioned here, I would say that SR is just another
way to address the brains needs. Need stimulation, you choose what to stim it with.
Studies have shown that some people have a higher need for adrenaline, some people
have lesser, for example, which is how they explain people who have serious thrill issues
(ha...we've been watching a lot of Nemo lately)
Part of Breanna's autism is a self-regulation dysfunction. Her brain kind of short circuits,
and either she a) can't find what she needs for regulation or b) she gets stuck in a self-reg
that she no longer wants, but can't stop. I'm sure those of you without exp in the autism
world have still seen those in TV or movies. One obvious example is the rocking, etc. It
serves a purpose for a while, stimulating and regulating the brain, but begins to interfere
with walking, eating and sleeping. Sometimes the rocking happens because she needs
something, but can't find a way to address that need. In her case, we've spent a long time
increasing her toolbox, so to speak, so she has more ways to address her needs, and
decreasing her stress so she can practice alternative stimulations.
Anyway, hth, and isn't out of place.
Again, thanks for the principal link. I need to internalize that.
Melissa
Sandra Dodd
On Jan 2, 2006, at 9:12 AM, multimomma wrote:
Jigsaw puzzles and toddlers don't mix, but there are some great floor
puzzles for little kids! And some good 16 or 20 piece puzzles, and
tray puzzles.
When my kids were babies we did no adult-type jigsaw puzzles. I only
sewed for a few hours at night sometimes and then put all the pins
and needles and scissors and seam rippers up high.
We just made the house kid-safe and kid-friendly, and then we didn't
need to have so many rules!
Thanks for the bit about self-regulation. When most people say "I
want my kids to self-regulate" I think they mean "I want my kids to
make some rules and schedules up and then follow them." Instead of
drinking when they're thirsty, they might rather have kids who drink
eight ounces (measured) of water five times a day (by the clock).
What you wrote was really helpful.
Sandra
P.S. Principals are the bosses of American public schools, and
sometimes the primary or singular something or someone. Lead actors
in plays are principal actors.
Those ideas and truths on which we base actions are principles with a
"ple" ending.
I'm not basing my actions on principals anymore.<g> Just principles.
> Anyway, pieces really do scatter! I really don't blame the kids---------------
> doing it, Sam is four, Dan is
> two, and they just want to help. However, both of them are VERY
> active, with little impulse
> control and lots of energy LOL! I just didn't want to squelch and
> didn't know what to say.
> SO it seems that we've just put puzzles away and haven't gotten
> them out.
Jigsaw puzzles and toddlers don't mix, but there are some great floor
puzzles for little kids! And some good 16 or 20 piece puzzles, and
tray puzzles.
When my kids were babies we did no adult-type jigsaw puzzles. I only
sewed for a few hours at night sometimes and then put all the pins
and needles and scissors and seam rippers up high.
We just made the house kid-safe and kid-friendly, and then we didn't
need to have so many rules!
Thanks for the bit about self-regulation. When most people say "I
want my kids to self-regulate" I think they mean "I want my kids to
make some rules and schedules up and then follow them." Instead of
drinking when they're thirsty, they might rather have kids who drink
eight ounces (measured) of water five times a day (by the clock).
What you wrote was really helpful.
Sandra
P.S. Principals are the bosses of American public schools, and
sometimes the primary or singular something or someone. Lead actors
in plays are principal actors.
Those ideas and truths on which we base actions are principles with a
"ple" ending.
I'm not basing my actions on principals anymore.<g> Just principles.