Re: [AlwaysLearning]TV was Hello
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In a message dated 1/10/2005 9:35:54 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
I wish I could let him do like this... <<<<
You can do anything you *want* to do...
~Kelly
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[email protected] writes:
I wish I could let him do like this... <<<<
You can do anything you *want* to do...
~Kelly
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Sylvie Martin
You can do anything you *want* to do...
************* I don't think it's so simple... There are two people inside me, the adult, and the child. The adult wants something, but the child inside, who wasn't free, wasn't listened at all is fighting for doing the same to my children.
I don't know if it's clear, really difficult en english for me, but my life showed me that there's no only the willpower. I need the "tilt". My willpower can nothing if I don't feel the "tilt".
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
************* I don't think it's so simple... There are two people inside me, the adult, and the child. The adult wants something, but the child inside, who wasn't free, wasn't listened at all is fighting for doing the same to my children.
I don't know if it's clear, really difficult en english for me, but my life showed me that there's no only the willpower. I need the "tilt". My willpower can nothing if I don't feel the "tilt".
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
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From: kbcdlovejo@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Monday, January 10, 2005 6:21 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning]TV was Hello
In a message dated 1/10/2005 9:35:54 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
I wish I could let him do like this... <<<<
You can do anything you *want* to do...
~Kelly
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In a message dated 1/11/2005 2:54:09 A.M. Mountain Standard Time,
eliott2@... writes:
The adult wants something, but the child inside, who wasn't free, wasn't
listened at all is fighting for doing the same to my children.
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I don't know if you have it in France, but here because of programs to help
adults whose parents were alcoholics or adults who have grown up feeling that
they can only be happy if they make another person happy (co-dependency), the
concept of the inner child is discussed pretty freely.
When you make decisions about what to do with or for your children, don't be
jealous.
You can heal your own inner child little by little if you do what you would
have liked to have done for you when you were little. When you tell your
child "Yes, you can have this" or "Okay, we can stay at the park longer," think
of yourself at that age, and imagine someone having done that for you, and
think "It's not too late to have a happy childhood."
You can relive your childhood in an improved, healing, soothing way by
giving the ideal childhood to your children.
If your parents had known what you know now, would they have been nicer to
you? Forgive them. They just didn't know any better, or maybe they bowed to
pressure from their own older relatives. As you picture each incident when
you're making your decision you can begin to consider why your mom said no,
and what would have been the worst to happen if she had said yes? And then you
can say yes for her and for you too.
Sandra
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eliott2@... writes:
The adult wants something, but the child inside, who wasn't free, wasn't
listened at all is fighting for doing the same to my children.
================
I don't know if you have it in France, but here because of programs to help
adults whose parents were alcoholics or adults who have grown up feeling that
they can only be happy if they make another person happy (co-dependency), the
concept of the inner child is discussed pretty freely.
When you make decisions about what to do with or for your children, don't be
jealous.
You can heal your own inner child little by little if you do what you would
have liked to have done for you when you were little. When you tell your
child "Yes, you can have this" or "Okay, we can stay at the park longer," think
of yourself at that age, and imagine someone having done that for you, and
think "It's not too late to have a happy childhood."
You can relive your childhood in an improved, healing, soothing way by
giving the ideal childhood to your children.
If your parents had known what you know now, would they have been nicer to
you? Forgive them. They just didn't know any better, or maybe they bowed to
pressure from their own older relatives. As you picture each incident when
you're making your decision you can begin to consider why your mom said no,
and what would have been the worst to happen if she had said yes? And then you
can say yes for her and for you too.
Sandra
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Sylvie Martin
When you make decisions about what to do with or for your children, don't be
jealous.
****************************** oh ! I'm not jealous at all... When I say there is a fight inside, it was inconscient, at the beginning. I have 9 years of therapy behind me, and I had the time to know myself very well for some things.. But I think nothing is so helpfull, but hard, then children to make get off those things we have inside us, because of our childhood. It's not jealousy, but just repetition, inconscient repetition, even if I don't want to do them what I lived myself. It's better and better, but I think that if we don't want to repeat, it's something very hard to work, because of the inconscient. Again, with children, the willpower doesn't work at all, since we know about our own childhood, and work on it. Sometimes, I react like my mother reacted with me, even if I don't want, even if I can't stand that kind of react at all. I just do the same, like mimicry, and I know I don't want to do this way.
You can relive your childhood in an improved, healing, soothing way by
giving the ideal childhood to your children.
*************** Yes, now I'm sure about it, I just see it since a few days... It's very new for me, but I can feel something, I can feel what it is... And I had the "tilt", so, I'm sure I will go on..
If your parents had known what you know now, would they have been nicer to
you? Forgive them.
*************** I think I did. But again, I think I forgived them without wanting to. It's just happened, because of all this work I did whith myself, all those years, and espacially because of my children. Their births change something in me, I let all my anger, my hate for my mother. Now I feel in peace with them. Before this "tilt", I tried and I tried, but it's the same thing, the willpower doesn't work. I don't think we can forgive by the willpower. One day, something coming inside, and it comes.
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
jealous.
****************************** oh ! I'm not jealous at all... When I say there is a fight inside, it was inconscient, at the beginning. I have 9 years of therapy behind me, and I had the time to know myself very well for some things.. But I think nothing is so helpfull, but hard, then children to make get off those things we have inside us, because of our childhood. It's not jealousy, but just repetition, inconscient repetition, even if I don't want to do them what I lived myself. It's better and better, but I think that if we don't want to repeat, it's something very hard to work, because of the inconscient. Again, with children, the willpower doesn't work at all, since we know about our own childhood, and work on it. Sometimes, I react like my mother reacted with me, even if I don't want, even if I can't stand that kind of react at all. I just do the same, like mimicry, and I know I don't want to do this way.
You can relive your childhood in an improved, healing, soothing way by
giving the ideal childhood to your children.
*************** Yes, now I'm sure about it, I just see it since a few days... It's very new for me, but I can feel something, I can feel what it is... And I had the "tilt", so, I'm sure I will go on..
If your parents had known what you know now, would they have been nicer to
you? Forgive them.
*************** I think I did. But again, I think I forgived them without wanting to. It's just happened, because of all this work I did whith myself, all those years, and espacially because of my children. Their births change something in me, I let all my anger, my hate for my mother. Now I feel in peace with them. Before this "tilt", I tried and I tried, but it's the same thing, the willpower doesn't work. I don't think we can forgive by the willpower. One day, something coming inside, and it comes.
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
----- Original Message -----
From: SandraDodd@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, January 11, 2005 6:39 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning]TV was Hello
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[email protected]
In a message dated 1/12/2005 10:42:37 A.M. Mountain Standard Time,
eliott2@... writes:
When I say there is a fight inside, it was inconscient, at the beginning.
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unconscious?
subconscious?
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eliott2@... writes:
When I say there is a fight inside, it was inconscient, at the beginning.
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unconscious?
subconscious?
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Sylvie Martin
Unconscious ! :-)) Sorry !
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
Sylvie (Eliott le Magicien, Tom le Héros et Lilou la Fée)
www.yourtes-tipis.com
----- Original Message -----
From: SandraDodd@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, January 12, 2005 7:10 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning]TV was Hello
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