Re: [AlwaysLearning] Crying vs. crying it out
[email protected]
In a message dated 8/23/2004 10:04:05 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
I am really trying to bow out of this discussion after Sandra said I was
going into too much detail about a baby. But people keep posting things
that I feel I must address.
*********I'm posting about the idea. Not you. Not your baby girl. Only about
the idea of adults in general being amused by crying children***
1. It's NOT major. I know my child and I am not minimizing her emotions
just because they aren't physical pain. If it was major, the crying
would go on for a lot longer and she would want to be held, snuggled,
etc. This is just MINOR frustration, disappointment that she prefers to
work out on her own. I am totally there for her 110%.
****In my last post I mentioned that it may very well be major to the person
who is crying because when that rush of emotion comes, it may come hard and
fast and strong. Maybe, on the idea that there are different levels of
disappointment to little tiny people, we'll have to understand that we have different
beliefs. We never WILL know that answer becasue most of the humans on the
planet can't really understand and conceptualize what is going on inside another
human, can they?*****
2. Perhaps you missed the beginning of the thread, but the whole reason
why I mentioned DH finding this amusing in the first place was because I
cautioned him not to laugh. Because it doesn't happen every time, just
sometimes.
***for others reading this thread, who may be reading with the realization
that a similar issue has gone on in their house, I want to say that sometimes
can be too often.****
He's not unfeeling or lacking in compassion. Neither am I.
3. We treat each other with compassion in this family and we are setting
a very good example in general for DD in the way we treat each other in
general on a day to day basis. I know how powerful teaching by example
is.
-Vijay
********I don't think I said that you were uncaring. I'm talking about the
idea.
Principles before personalities.
Elissa Jill
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you;
They're supposed to help you discover who you are.
~Bernice Johnson Reagon
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[email protected] writes:
I am really trying to bow out of this discussion after Sandra said I was
going into too much detail about a baby. But people keep posting things
that I feel I must address.
*********I'm posting about the idea. Not you. Not your baby girl. Only about
the idea of adults in general being amused by crying children***
1. It's NOT major. I know my child and I am not minimizing her emotions
just because they aren't physical pain. If it was major, the crying
would go on for a lot longer and she would want to be held, snuggled,
etc. This is just MINOR frustration, disappointment that she prefers to
work out on her own. I am totally there for her 110%.
****In my last post I mentioned that it may very well be major to the person
who is crying because when that rush of emotion comes, it may come hard and
fast and strong. Maybe, on the idea that there are different levels of
disappointment to little tiny people, we'll have to understand that we have different
beliefs. We never WILL know that answer becasue most of the humans on the
planet can't really understand and conceptualize what is going on inside another
human, can they?*****
2. Perhaps you missed the beginning of the thread, but the whole reason
why I mentioned DH finding this amusing in the first place was because I
cautioned him not to laugh. Because it doesn't happen every time, just
sometimes.
***for others reading this thread, who may be reading with the realization
that a similar issue has gone on in their house, I want to say that sometimes
can be too often.****
He's not unfeeling or lacking in compassion. Neither am I.
3. We treat each other with compassion in this family and we are setting
a very good example in general for DD in the way we treat each other in
general on a day to day basis. I know how powerful teaching by example
is.
-Vijay
********I don't think I said that you were uncaring. I'm talking about the
idea.
Principles before personalities.
Elissa Jill
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you;
They're supposed to help you discover who you are.
~Bernice Johnson Reagon
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