Kay Alina

I think the words we use are important to ourselves and those around us -
they set the stage so to speak. In the emails I have read - "it's non
negotiable" and "that's not an option". Those types of lay down the law
statements really set others up to feel and act defensively. It shuts down
any hope of finding solutions and having open communications.

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I do agree with this in most cases and delivery counts too. However, in regard to seatbelts, if I am driving the car the only option for anyone is to choose not to go with me if they are not willing to put on the belt. I have been in several car accidents. One would have killed me if the belt was not on. There is no room for negotiating. It is a simple statement of fact and no solution needs to be found. I will not enable the behavior. I am an attachment parent and prefer to remain attached to the living. If someone I love wants to defend their right to risk their lives and be stupid they will need to do that in their own car.
Kay

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