[email protected]

People on Digest, please paste in the topic line because "Digest Number xxxx" isn't informative.


-=-A child is not old enough to be in charge of their
overall well being, safety, etc... -=-

I don't think people are recommending that children "be in charge of" things, but that they not be controlled. Giving them choices is not putting them in charge of their well being.

-=- What is appropriate for
an eight year old to decide for him or herself is not
appropriate for a five or two year old. -=-

Letting a child make some decisions is not the same as abandoning a child in the wide world to make all his own decisions without assistance or input .

-=-So yes, i will screen
my sons books while he is young.  Yes i do monitor the
computer while he is young.  This is called healthy
protection. -=-

You are calling it healthy protection.
"This is what I call healthy protection" might be a better way to phrase it.

But by using that phrase, you're suggesting that people who give their children more freedom are not providing a healthy or protective environment. Or maybe you're imagining something different than people are trying to describe.

-=-Would you really let a five year old access to
pornography, murder scenes, etc...-=-

Do you believe that your monitoring is all that stands between them and porn?
I've had three five year olds who weren't "monitored" in the way I think you might be describing, and yet they didn't even like romance or kissing. They only liked stories/movies/websites with kids, dogs, cartoons...

Sandra

J. Stauffer

<<<< Do you believe that your monitoring is all that stands between them and
porn?
> I've had three five year olds who weren't "monitored" in the way I think
you might be describing, and yet they didn't even like romance or kissing.
They only liked stories/movies/websites with kids, dogs, cartoons... >>>>

I totally agree with Sandra on this point. I have 5 kids who have complete
and unlimited access to the computer, video games, television, pay-per-view.
Nobody is even interested in watching R rated movies that have the rating
due to sexual content.

Fear based parenting is not the best of all options.

Julie S.
----- Original Message -----
From: <SandraDodd@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Wednesday, May 26, 2004 12:47 AM
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] was about limits, somehow (and please use topic
lines)


> People on Digest, please paste in the topic line because "Digest Number
xxxx" isn't informative.
>
>
> -=-A child is not old enough to be in charge of their
> overall well being, safety, etc... -=-
>
> I don't think people are recommending that children "be in charge of"
things, but that they not be controlled. Giving them choices is not putting
them in charge of their well being.
>
> -=- What is appropriate for
> an eight year old to decide for him or herself is not
> appropriate for a five or two year old. -=-
>
> Letting a child make some decisions is not the same as abandoning a child
in the wide world to make all his own decisions without assistance or input
.
>
> -=-So yes, i will screen
> my sons books while he is young. Yes i do monitor the
> computer while he is young. This is called healthy
> protection. -=-
>
> You are calling it healthy protection.
> "This is what I call healthy protection" might be a better way to phrase
it.
>
> But by using that phrase, you're suggesting that people who give their
children more freedom are not providing a healthy or protective environment.
Or maybe you're imagining something different than people are trying to
describe.
>
> -=-Would you really let a five year old access to
> pornography, murder scenes, etc...-=-
>
> Do you believe that your monitoring is all that stands between them and
porn?
> I've had three five year olds who weren't "monitored" in the way I think
you might be describing, and yet they didn't even like romance or kissing.
They only liked stories/movies/websites with kids, dogs, cartoons...
>
> Sandra
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Yahoo! Groups Links
>
>
>
>
>
>
>