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In a message dated 1/26/04 8:49:50 AM, jnjstau@... writes:

<< Why do you think sexual activity

tends to fall off after marriage? Its no big deal...you can whenever you

want without anybody making a deal about it. >>

There's increasing thought and research into something biochemical that has
to do with mating. We see it in other mammals all the time, but we have this
ancient tradition of denying our biological natures.

Seems there is brain activity that is being identified and measured and it
turns on when a person is in love and it lasts until the object of desire is
secured, and the've nested, and it seems they could procreate, and then it starts
to wane. There are (as with other brain-things) biochemical factors, and
re-routing in the brain (shut down logical analysis of the situation until the
goal is met) and lots of cool stuff.

The first article I read I've lost, but the guy was doing brain mapping AND
as part of his evidence collecting was gathering song lyrics and poetry written
by people who were trying to describe being in love, and looking for clues to
his theory that we really ARE different people in that state, or the same
people in an altered state. After I read that I started listening for those
kinds of clues too. One day in the car Holly and I were listening to a collection
of 60's stuff, and here came this:
"I feel it in my fingers
I feel it in my toes
Love is all around me
and so the feeling grows."

I hope he had that in his collection.

Then a couple of months later we saw Love Actually, in which that song is
practically a main character! <bwg>

This isn't the original research, but it's similar enough that after Carol
Narigon and I discussed the idea in general, she found this and sent it to me:

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/magazine/story/0,11913,1105827,00.html

(If it's not still there maybe I can cut and paste, but that's not working so
well for me today! <g>)

Sandra