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>
> A child can't learn to respect people and be kind to them if he
isn't
> treated with respect and kindness first. That's just physics.
>
> Pam

-=-OKay, I am open to this. But the mom stated that she'd had this
problem many times with her boy. How many times can he do it and it
is still okay? At what point is he not respecting her? How many
times is too many?

=-=-I really would like to hear what people think about that...in a non-
flaming way.-=-

If she's having the same problem many times, the approach is not working and
a new approach is needed.

If it's a new problem, she needs to find an approach that will work.

-=-How many times can he do it and it is still okay? -=-

The first time wasn't okay.
How many times can a bad solution be a good answer?


-=-At what point is he not respecting her? -=-

I've done a lot of thinking about respect over the years, not just in a
parent/child situation. Here's an already-published piece specifically about
raising respectful children:

http://sandradodd.com/respect

The phrase "he made his bed, let him lie in it" is always said in a
meanspirited way. My granny used it a lot. She was a vindictive woman who enjoyed
seeing others suffer.

If anyone has "made a bed" in a parent/child situation, it's the parent who
chose to have a child, chose to keep it, and in the case of homeschoolers,
chose to keep him home with her. Having CHOSEN that bed, the parent needs to find
a way to be comfortable and productive there.

Blaming a child for bad management of the situation is not comfortable or
productive.

Sandra