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As I am writing this, the kids are home early from school. He was putting
his shoes on to go out. I said he was staying in today. He completely doesn't
understand why. I tried to tell him about being disrepectful to my needs, he
just went and sulked.

I don't like what I did, but I don't see any natural consequences here and
I'm tired of just being ignored. Anybody have any better suggestions?


Someone made a much WORSE suggestion:
   
<<He's made his bed...let him lie in it.>>

No, he's a little boy. His mom made him a bed he cannot comfortably lie in,
and she needs to make him a better bed.


<<You gave him a reasonable request, for his own safety, and not just to boss
him
around. He ignored it.>>

He made a reasonable request and the mom said no.
He made a reasonable request and the mom ignored it.


<<He did what he wanted.>>

When a child is being unschooled, most of his day MUST be doing what he
wants. And if the mom doesn't want to help create an environment where he can do
LOTS of things he wants, maybe school would be a safer, better place for him.

<<You laid down the law. Now stick to your guns! >>

This is not a cowboy justice list.
I'm sure you could find one, and they'll say "take a razor strop to him out
behind the shed."

This is an unschooling list.


This kind of advice is really not at all helpful:

<<If you give in, he'll know you are a sucker and he'll keep
doing it. After a few days worth of limited freedom, he'll change his ways.
But you have to be firm and not give in, and you have to be willing to let him
dislike you for a little while.>>

<<I know a lot of people are really into freedom and choices for their kids.
>>

Those who are not will not find unschooling workable.

Sandra

emkaysmommy

> >>
>
> Those who are not will not find unschooling workable.
>
> Sandra

I will rethink my choices and perhaps return to the group later.

I wish you all luck with your children and hope they are well and
happy. Best of luck in your endeavors.