8 year old talking about fat
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Hi,
My oldest daughter, 8.5, had a lot to say the other night about herself and her body. She is in school this year, her choice. Never had been before and totally able to handle the system. Anyhow, she wishes she was skinnier. She has been off the growth charts until 5 years old, for her age, now she is right at 98% for height and weight. Well, she thinks her legs are fat and she doesn't like this. Also, she told me someone at school has been teasing her about having fat legs, yuck! Her class gets to go swimming and I think she is feeling strange about being in her bathing suit in front of her class. She wants me to make her a swim skirt. This is a kid who has spent her whole life in a swim suit and was on the swim team for a year. She loves to swim. I'm trying to come up with some resouces so we can explore what she is feeling. Any thoughts?
Mary H.
My oldest daughter, 8.5, had a lot to say the other night about herself and her body. She is in school this year, her choice. Never had been before and totally able to handle the system. Anyhow, she wishes she was skinnier. She has been off the growth charts until 5 years old, for her age, now she is right at 98% for height and weight. Well, she thinks her legs are fat and she doesn't like this. Also, she told me someone at school has been teasing her about having fat legs, yuck! Her class gets to go swimming and I think she is feeling strange about being in her bathing suit in front of her class. She wants me to make her a swim skirt. This is a kid who has spent her whole life in a swim suit and was on the swim team for a year. She loves to swim. I'm trying to come up with some resouces so we can explore what she is feeling. Any thoughts?
Mary H.
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In a message dated 4/22/03 9:32:16 AM, maryfhickman@... writes:
<< I'm trying to come up with some resouces so we can explore what she is
feeling. Any thoughts? >>
Tell her that's one of the costs of going to school, that even if she had a
perfectly model-skinny body the other kids would find something to be mean
about because that's what kids at school do.
If school is harming her confidence and self image, I would consider taking
her out of school.
<<Her class gets to go swimming...>>
If she weren't in school she could go swimming more often, right? And
without "her class"?
Sandra
<< I'm trying to come up with some resouces so we can explore what she is
feeling. Any thoughts? >>
Tell her that's one of the costs of going to school, that even if she had a
perfectly model-skinny body the other kids would find something to be mean
about because that's what kids at school do.
If school is harming her confidence and self image, I would consider taking
her out of school.
<<Her class gets to go swimming...>>
If she weren't in school she could go swimming more often, right? And
without "her class"?
Sandra
Betsy
**Tell her that's one of the costs of going to school, that even if she
had a perfectly model-skinny body the other kids would find something to
be mean about because that's what kids at school do.**
So, true! While I usually can't muster much sympathy for super models,
many of them complain that they were gawky and ugly and teased
unmercifully in school. Usually they were taller and flatter than
everyone else.
Betsy
had a perfectly model-skinny body the other kids would find something to
be mean about because that's what kids at school do.**
So, true! While I usually can't muster much sympathy for super models,
many of them complain that they were gawky and ugly and teased
unmercifully in school. Usually they were taller and flatter than
everyone else.
Betsy
Dana
> Tell her that's one of the costs of going to school, that even if she hada
> perfectly model-skinny body the other kids would find something to be meanYes, I was always skinny, until I suddenly sprouted breasts late, and then I
> about because that's what kids at school do.
was skinny with breasts....First, I was "anorexic" and then I was a
"slut".....
Dana