heather mclean

<<You could do a whole scientific study of her. Map
sightings. Note migrations. Chart behaviors. Very
educational!>>

Ok, I had an exhausting evening after the kids were
asleep with mom grilling me. Mostly about reading,
how I need to teach Quentin phonics, blah, blah. I'm
trying to record (after she is now in bed) what she
said, I said so I can figure out what is going on.

Here is just 2 comments & my replies & the >> are what
I think about it now. Also, I have NOT asked her to
write down her concerns. Don't know why. Afraid it
will just make it worse? I just turn to mush, or
maybe revert to when I was 3 yrs old, and I can't
think of how to respond when she starts in on me. Oh,
well. At least I recognize that the problem is HER
and not ME. (I used to think I WAS the problem). And
my dh is fully, extremely supportive. She grilled him
last night (while I hid out in the bedroom) but it
didn't bother him so much since he doesn't have the
same issues with her.

Mom: So do ALL homeschool families do it like you do,
just let their kids play all day?

>presuppositions (suggested per verbal defense bk ):
>Homeschool families who do it like I do, do it WRONG.
> It is WRONG for kids to play all day.
> It is WRONG for ME to LET them play all day.
> Since I DO let them play all day, I should feel
guilty and ashamed.

H: no.

M: So how many people do you know who homeschool and
just let their kids play? I mean you told me you knew
ONE person who was homeschooled like that.

H: well, there are, I don't know, maybe 30 families
in our homeschool group (who do it that way).

H: My kids don't just play all day, they go to classes
and do other things.

> note: BAD answer. this doesn't address the fact
that I believe it is GOOD for kids to play all day.
They are 4 & 7 for Goodness Sakes!

> better answer: Isn't it great how they played
together so well today!

I'm going to bed now. Hoping for sweet dreams!

heather m in tucson


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BADOLBILZ

Hey, Heather, my heart goes out to you. My mom makes me feel like I'm
about 3 years old, too. I only hope that if I make my girls feel that
way, it will only be to make them feel silly and giggly, not ashamed and
embarrassed. Good luck to you. HeidiC.


heather mclean wrote:

><<You could do a whole scientific study of her. Map
>sightings. Note migrations. Chart behaviors. Very
>educational!>>
>
>Ok, I had an exhausting evening after the kids were
>asleep with mom grilling me. Mostly about reading,
>how I need to teach Quentin phonics, blah, blah. I'm
>trying to record (after she is now in bed) what she
>said, I said so I can figure out what is going on.
>
>Here is just 2 comments & my replies & the >> are what
>I think about it now. Also, I have NOT asked her to
>write down her concerns. Don't know why. Afraid it
>will just make it worse? I just turn to mush, or
>maybe revert to when I was 3 yrs old, and I can't
>think of how to respond when she starts in on me. Oh,
>well. At least I recognize that the problem is HER
>and not ME. (I used to think I WAS the problem). And
>my dh is fully, extremely supportive. She grilled him
>last night (while I hid out in the bedroom) but it
>didn't bother him so much since he doesn't have the
>same issues with her.
>
>Mom: So do ALL homeschool families do it like you do,
>just let their kids play all day?
>
>
>
>>presuppositions (suggested per verbal defense bk ):
>>Homeschool families who do it like I do, do it WRONG.
>>It is WRONG for kids to play all day.
>>It is WRONG for ME to LET them play all day.
>>Since I DO let them play all day, I should feel
>>
>>
>guilty and ashamed.
>
>H: no.
>
>M: So how many people do you know who homeschool and
>just let their kids play? I mean you told me you knew
>ONE person who was homeschooled like that.
>
>H: well, there are, I don't know, maybe 30 families
>in our homeschool group (who do it that way).
>
>H: My kids don't just play all day, they go to classes
>and do other things.
>
>
>
>>note: BAD answer. this doesn't address the fact
>>
>>
>that I believe it is GOOD for kids to play all day.
>They are 4 & 7 for Goodness Sakes!
>
>
>
>>better answer: Isn't it great how they played
>>
>>
>together so well today!
>
>I'm going to bed now. Hoping for sweet dreams!
>
>heather m in tucson
>
>
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nellebelle

My mom questions the "not teaching reading" also. When I shared stories of homeschooled families that did not push reading, whose kids all learned to read just fine, but older than our societal norm, she said it was too bad that those people didn't make an effort to teach their kids sooner.

Mary Ellen
Lisa got reading quite easily at about 6 1/2,. Jackie, now 7 1/2, is not an independent reader.


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Tia Leschke

> My mom questions the "not teaching reading" also. When I shared stories
of homeschooled families that did not push reading, whose kids all learned
to read just fine, but older than our societal norm, she said it was too bad
that those people didn't make an effort to teach their kids sooner.

What these people don't get is that it *is* important for kids to read "on
time" in school because the whole curriculum is based on reading. Our kids
can learn in lots of ways, including being read to, so it doesn't matter
when they learn to read. They aren't missing anything.
Tia