Re:Update on Perry/Julian
[email protected]
In a message dated 1/31/2003 2:08:15 AM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
He reassured me that it's not even a question. When Juls got up he told him
we're all going to write out some stuff that addresses this. He said that
unfortunately they only allow him to have two legal parents but if anything
happened to me or Perry, Beth would adopt him. And that they would do
anything they could to make sure he was well cared for and his life would be
stable, including continuing learning at home.
Julian was very happy, and it reminded me that we are VERY lucky that Perry
is really a very good person.
Kathryn
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[email protected] writes:
> >>I worry about this for Julian. For those of you who don't know, he hasI talked with perry this morning about this, and Julian's (and our) concerns.
> >three
> >>parents: Me (biological mother), my partner Beth, and his father, Perry.
> >We
> >>have an excellent relationship with Perry, but the truth is, that if
> >>something happened to me, whatever Julian needed or Beth wanted, Perry
> >could
> >>call all the shots. I THINK he would want to do what's best for Julian,
> >>including NOT sending him to school, but I am not certain. It's scary.
> And
> >>Julian HAS thought about it, and has talked about it.
> >
> >Would it help for him to talk about his worries with Perry?
> >Tia
> >
> He tends not to find talking to Perry useful. Perry means well, but
> sometimes
> does not respond as well as he could, and Julian does not like talking
> about
> his feelings very much. I think the best thing to do would have me talk to
> Perry when he's in a good mood.
>
He reassured me that it's not even a question. When Juls got up he told him
we're all going to write out some stuff that addresses this. He said that
unfortunately they only allow him to have two legal parents but if anything
happened to me or Perry, Beth would adopt him. And that they would do
anything they could to make sure he was well cared for and his life would be
stable, including continuing learning at home.
Julian was very happy, and it reminded me that we are VERY lucky that Perry
is really a very good person.
Kathryn
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marji
>....Julian was very happy, and it reminded me that we are VERY lucky thatYeah! Thanks for this update, Kathryn. It's good to know that Julian is
>Perry is really a very good person.
>
>Kathryn
happy and feels safe. And, it's good to know that you and Beth feel safe,
too. This must be a tremendous relief for all of you!
Marji
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