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Hi Pam, Jacli here :)
I have to agree with you. When my daughter was about 3 she
was on a tremendous amount
of medication and hormone therapies and one of the side
effects was the tendency to fly into a
rage. She had temper tantrums that would bring down the
house! But I made it clear to her that
that sort of behavior wasn't acceptable. Period. If we
were in a store and she made a scene about
something she wanted she learned that when I said No I
meant No and if she didn't quiet down and behave not only
did I not get her what she had begged for I put EVERYTHING
back. I wasn't hard or soft on her. I was honest and firm
and constant with her. There are boundaries to the way we
deal and interact with others and a correct time and place
for a good many things. I taught her
that politeness and courtesy and respect were modes of
behavior that I expected from myself and from her all the
time.

>Message: 1
> Date: Mon, 10 Dec 2001 14:46:39 EST
> From: PSoroosh@...
>Subject: Re: Re: Shopping/money...
>Gosh - I honestly think "because you're disturbing others"
often is the
>real
>reason that they should stop and it often is a good
reason (not always,
>but
>often) and that, as kids get older, parents owe it to them
to help them
>see
>how their behavior is impinging on others. To not help
them out that way -
>to
>not help them become aware of how their behavior is
discourteous or
>downright
>disruptive to what other people are trying to do that
seems unfair to the
>kids. They'll miss out on stuff later, when people don't
want to invite
>them
>over, for example.
>
>--pam