Barda A. Allen

>Be comfortable with tears, with sorrow.

>I can't tell you the number of times I've heard people say
>they didn't want to bring up the death or loss because they
>"might make the person cry".

>As if not talking about it helped. What happens is the
>person that is grieving feels isolated and cut off from their
>friends. Because the friends are uncomfortable with tears so
>they don't call anymore, or don't talk openly about the loss.

>The best kind of friend is fine with your tears.

This conversation reminds me of a conversation I had on the
phone with my oldest daughters boyfriend this past June.

My dh and I were on our way back home (Helena, MT) from
Seattle. Running late we called home from Spokane and one of
our son's said we had to call Amy, so we did.

She had just gotten back home after emergency surgery for a
tubal pregnancy, she was naturally crying, which was good.

I spoke with her boyfriend and asked him how he was, of course
he said he was fine!

Then I said to him, don't stop my daughter from crying, she
has to get this out. Hold her in your arms all night long and
listen to her cry. He said, okay.

When we got off the phone he apparently asked Amy how I knew
that he had been telling her to stop crying!

As humans we are not comfortable with tears and crying. Look
at how we treat newborn babies, plug their mouths with
pacifiers and patting their backs, saying Sshhh and rocking
them all to be quiet.

I'm all for rocking and snuggling, etc... but all my babies
were allowed to cry while I held them and listened.

There is an art to listening!

Peace and Love in...
Barda

A lurker who pops in from time to time!
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"Shipping" is My Business -

I just got back home from my House Special at The General
Mercantile.

The Merc makes coffee the slow way, using a 1950's

Italian LaPavoni Espresso Machine.

My House Special is alot like "Shipping" . It is slow...

I wouldn't want it any other way.

What is the "Shipping" Business?

RelationShip,
FriendShip,
PartnerShip,
LeaderShip


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