sahm2cody

My now 10 y/o (only child)went through this periodically our first
few years after we pulled him out of school (kindergarten). Although
he hated the school part of it, he is a social butterfly and loved
the social aspects (and was quite popular). Of course, it didn't help
that after we pulled him out we moved 3 states away to a place where
we didn't know anybody! (It also doesn't help that he as a wallflower
for a mom!)

Anyway, we've had to be creative and seek out ways for him to be with
other kids. There aren't any kids in the neighborhood for him to play
with. We prefer unstructured social activities (think playdate
instead of karate class), but he has been involved in his share of
structured activities as a way to meet kids that we then have over
for unstructured time. The city we live in and the city right next to
us both offer different classes/activities for kids, which he's
participated in off and on for the last four years. His favorite is
called Kids Night Out, and takes place for 3 hours nearly every
friday of the school year. He's made some really good friends there,
and looks forward to it every week. Although my dh and I aren't
religeous, we've found a church that we enjoy (Unitarian
Universalist) that has great kids programs. We also lucked out in
that about 1/3 of the kids who go there are homeschooled.

Of all of the families we know, ours is the only one with an open
door policy for the kids. On weekends we may have a kid all day, or
all weekend. Kids love it at our house because they're allowed to
experiment, get dirty, and generally have fun.

~Carri Ann~
mom to Star Wars/lego obsessed 10 y/o

squeakybiscuit

My boys are very antisocial and don't miss having friends at all,
but one thing they do is go to Playstation 2 tournaments at a local
library. They don't have any interest in sports or scouts, so aside
from Sunday school, this is probably the only social interaction
with kids their own age that they get. We go every month. The winner
get a $10 Archcard for McDonald's.
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Perhaps you could ask around at your local library to see if they
offer something like that? Perhaps you could start your own
tournaments? If he is not interested in something like this, maybe
you could find something else that does interest him?


Erin

--- In [email protected], "sahm2cody" <CXFiles@...>
wrote:
>
> My now 10 y/o (only child)went through this periodically our first
> few years after we pulled him out of school (kindergarten).
Although
> he hated the school part of it, he is a social butterfly and loved
> the social aspects (and was quite popular). Of course, it didn't
help
> that after we pulled him out we moved 3 states away to a place
where
> we didn't know anybody! (It also doesn't help that he as a
wallflower
> for a mom!)
>
> Anyway, we've had to be creative and seek out ways for him to be
with
> other kids. There aren't any kids in the neighborhood for him to
play
> with. We prefer unstructured social activities (think playdate
> instead of karate class), but he has been involved in his share of
> structured activities as a way to meet kids that we then have over
> for unstructured time. The city we live in and the city right next
to
> us both offer different classes/activities for kids, which he's
> participated in off and on for the last four years. His favorite
is
> called Kids Night Out, and takes place for 3 hours nearly every
> friday of the school year. He's made some really good friends
there,
> and looks forward to it every week. Although my dh and I aren't
> religeous, we've found a church that we enjoy (Unitarian
> Universalist) that has great kids programs. We also lucked out in
> that about 1/3 of the kids who go there are homeschooled.
>
> Of all of the families we know, ours is the only one with an open
> door policy for the kids. On weekends we may have a kid all day,
or
> all weekend. Kids love it at our house because they're allowed to
> experiment, get dirty, and generally have fun.
>
> ~Carri Ann~
> mom to Star Wars/lego obsessed 10 y/o
>

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In a message dated 2/13/2006 12:21:40 P.M. Central Standard Time,
CXFiles@... writes:

Of all of the families we know, ours is the only one with an open
door policy for the kids. On weekends we may have a kid all day, or
all weekend. Kids love it at our house because they're allowed to
experiment, get dirty, and generally have fun.




I am actually known for always having extra kids at my house too. But that's
usually on the weekends due to most family and friends are in school.
But the days we are not doing anything or I am catching up on house work,
that's when he gives me more trouble than the younger ones...simply because he
wants ME to entertain him. I spend extra time with him as often as I can.
In fact, we have reading time every other night after the other kids go to bed
where I spend an hour reading Harry Potter to him. I just think maybe he
wants more than just me.

Tonya


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S Drag-teine

You said he likes video games and I know I am opening a can of worms here
but I just can't seem to stop myself (too much coffee this morning) so
please excuse me. Have you thought of an online game? There are so many to
choose from - free MUDDS to fee graphic games like Everquest.

Shannon
Melaleuca Customer

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In a message dated 2/13/2006 12:21:40 P.M. Central Standard Time,
CXFiles@... writes:

Of all of the families we know, ours is the only one with an open
door policy for the kids. On weekends we may have a kid all day, or
all weekend. Kids love it at our house because they're allowed to
experiment, get dirty, and generally have fun.




I am actually known for always having extra kids at my house too. But
that's
usually on the weekends due to most family and friends are in school.
But the days we are not doing anything or I am catching up on house work,
that's when he gives me more trouble than the younger ones...simply because
he
wants ME to entertain him. I spend extra time with him as often as I can.

In fact, we have reading time every other night after the other kids go to
bed
where I spend an hour reading Harry Potter to him. I just think maybe he
wants more than just me.


Tonya


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Deb

--- In [email protected], "S Drag-teine"
<dragteine@...> wrote:
>
> You said he likes video games and I know I am opening a can of
worms >here
> but I just can't seem to stop myself (too much coffee this
morning) >so
> please excuse me. Have you thought of an online game? There are so
>many to
> choose from - free MUDDS to fee graphic games like Everquest.
>
> Shannon
> Melaleuca Customer
Also, because I know some folks have qualms (with some reason) about
kids online gaming, there are some games (StarCraft for one that I
know of because my guys like it) where their Internet space can be
set up so only invited players can access a particular game. For
instance, DH can set up a game and invite DS and it is a private
game - no one else can barge in.

--Deb