Re: What do you say? was Re: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Intro: considering Unsch...
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In a message dated 10/13/2005 5:33:29 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
segwyne@... writes:
As for DYFS, I showed them my approval letter from the
school district. She asked to see the same things that the school district
required, so I showed her and that was that. When she first met me, she
commented that jsut from speaking with me, it was obvious I was not
neglecting my children's education, but she did have to see something so she
could mark it in her file.
Hi Judy
Thanx for your reply. What did you show her exactly..what did the school
require? The thing is I was thinking of not sending him back to school as of
tommorrow and she just happens to be coming tommorrow. Should I just not mention
it? Also I have a meeting with the principal (he called this morning asking
for me to come in) tommorrow morning...should I just call and tell him I'm
sorry I'm not coming in,but I have decided to HS Jio and will be sending a
letter to the superintedant about it? I'm not sure what to do?
thanx
Rachael~
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segwyne@... writes:
As for DYFS, I showed them my approval letter from the
school district. She asked to see the same things that the school district
required, so I showed her and that was that. When she first met me, she
commented that jsut from speaking with me, it was obvious I was not
neglecting my children's education, but she did have to see something so she
could mark it in her file.
Hi Judy
Thanx for your reply. What did you show her exactly..what did the school
require? The thing is I was thinking of not sending him back to school as of
tommorrow and she just happens to be coming tommorrow. Should I just not mention
it? Also I have a meeting with the principal (he called this morning asking
for me to come in) tommorrow morning...should I just call and tell him I'm
sorry I'm not coming in,but I have decided to HS Jio and will be sending a
letter to the superintedant about it? I'm not sure what to do?
thanx
Rachael~
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In a message dated 10/13/2005 7:03:06 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
cierrajada@... writes:
The thing is I was thinking of not sending him back to school as of
tommorrow and she just happens to be coming tommorrow. Should I just not
mention
it? Also I have a meeting with the principal (he called this morning asking
for me to come in) tommorrow morning...should I just call and tell him I'm
sorry I'm not coming in,but I have decided to HS Jio and will be sending a
letter to the superintedant about it? I'm not sure what to do?
thanx
~~~~~~~~~~
You said he's been ill, correct? Personally, I'd keep him home tomorrow, and
if asked, say he's been ill and keep it at that until you've figured out
what you want to do. Cancel the appt. with the principal on that fact, and the
fact that you had no "sitter" on such a short notice. Then, I'd get a letter
out or whatever you need to do per your state's requirements, ASAP. But that's
just my opinion :o)
Good luck!
Jenny
Homeschooling in Greenfield, MA
Danny (12-1-99), Kelsey (11-1-01) and Evelyn (5-19-04)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Education is not filling a pail but the lighting of a fire. ~William Butler
Yeats
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cierrajada@... writes:
The thing is I was thinking of not sending him back to school as of
tommorrow and she just happens to be coming tommorrow. Should I just not
mention
it? Also I have a meeting with the principal (he called this morning asking
for me to come in) tommorrow morning...should I just call and tell him I'm
sorry I'm not coming in,but I have decided to HS Jio and will be sending a
letter to the superintedant about it? I'm not sure what to do?
thanx
~~~~~~~~~~
You said he's been ill, correct? Personally, I'd keep him home tomorrow, and
if asked, say he's been ill and keep it at that until you've figured out
what you want to do. Cancel the appt. with the principal on that fact, and the
fact that you had no "sitter" on such a short notice. Then, I'd get a letter
out or whatever you need to do per your state's requirements, ASAP. But that's
just my opinion :o)
Good luck!
Jenny
Homeschooling in Greenfield, MA
Danny (12-1-99), Kelsey (11-1-01) and Evelyn (5-19-04)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Education is not filling a pail but the lighting of a fire. ~William Butler
Yeats
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In a message dated 10/13/2005 7:25:40 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
Saulithyia@... writes:
You said he's been ill, correct? Personally, I'd keep him home tomorrow,
and
if asked, say he's been ill and keep it at that until you've figured out
what you want to do. Cancel the appt. with the principal on that fact, and
the
fact that you had no "sitter" on such a short notice. Then, I'd get a letter
out or whatever you need to do per your state's requirements, ASAP. But
that's
just my opinion :o)
Good luck!
**********
I agree with Jenny. I would do only what is required by state law and no
more.
Play up the sick thing until you can get everything together. You are not
doing anything illegal, but know what to say first. They probably don't know
what is legal and isn't, that's your job.
I have a friend that was running into some problems with her school
principal. She just said calmly every time they called, "I'm complying with state
law, I do not have to give you that information." She would practice it in a
calm voice because they called every day! When they pressed the issue again,
she said "I have a copy of the law, I would be glad to mail it to you". They
finally got tired of it and left her alone. Point is, know what you are
going to say before you have to say it.
Take care! Leslie in SC
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Saulithyia@... writes:
You said he's been ill, correct? Personally, I'd keep him home tomorrow,
and
if asked, say he's been ill and keep it at that until you've figured out
what you want to do. Cancel the appt. with the principal on that fact, and
the
fact that you had no "sitter" on such a short notice. Then, I'd get a letter
out or whatever you need to do per your state's requirements, ASAP. But
that's
just my opinion :o)
Good luck!
**********
I agree with Jenny. I would do only what is required by state law and no
more.
Play up the sick thing until you can get everything together. You are not
doing anything illegal, but know what to say first. They probably don't know
what is legal and isn't, that's your job.
I have a friend that was running into some problems with her school
principal. She just said calmly every time they called, "I'm complying with state
law, I do not have to give you that information." She would practice it in a
calm voice because they called every day! When they pressed the issue again,
she said "I have a copy of the law, I would be glad to mail it to you". They
finally got tired of it and left her alone. Point is, know what you are
going to say before you have to say it.
Take care! Leslie in SC
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Judy Anderson
First, I kept her home under the pretext of being ill for about a week. I
sent her back to school for three more days because she wanted to be in the
kindergarten concert they had been preparing for for several months. Then I
simply wrote a polite letter thanking them for their time and effort with my
daughter, but I was taking her out of school. That was all I had to do for
her because kindergarten isn't mandatory in NH. When I suddenly had my 8
year old, her step-mother informed them that Cait was coming to live with me
and that was that for them. Cait came from the other side of the state, so
there were no expectations that she would go back there. I then had 30 days
to submit my letter of intent and curriculum to my school district. I
struggled with my curriculum, but they were wonderful and helped me fashion
one that reflected my unschooling desire as well as covering the bases as
far as the law was required, which required scope and sequence, tables of
contents, etc. (It sounds a lot worse than it really was.) I know that I
got one of the probably very few cooperative school districts. Once my
curriculum was approved (I wrote it all in the present tense, "we do this,
we do that"), they sent me a letter saying so, and that was what I showed
DCYF. I don't remember if she asked to see my curriculum or not, but she
did ask me lots of questions about the concept. I was very honest with her,
which was much easier since I had just read The Unschooling Handbook by Mary
Griffith and I was feeling very confident. If she asks, give her resources
so she can get a better grasp of the idea. Maybe print off some
particularly relevant web pages to give to her. I don't express myself well
in person on the spot, so having a list of books and websites to offer was
very helpful. I also had DH with me and I knew that if I faltered, he could
step in and explain.
When she comes tomorrow, I would say that your child has been ill and you
want to make sure he completely well before going back to school. If she co
mments that he looks quite well already, then just point out that many
children can be violently ill in the wee hours and have a raging fever, but
seem back to normal after a few hours sleep. I know the local ps won't take
children back until they have been fever-free for x number of hours (eg. 12
or 24 hours). Don't necessarily say that that *was* what happened, but just
that it often does happen. Then you won't be lying to her.
For the principal, play up the illness and cancel the appointment. Your son
needs you at home right now and you can't go in to this meeting at this
time. Then take the time to write a letter to the superintendant (your
letter of intent, it doesn't have to be fancy and you don't have to say why
you are taking him out, only that you will assume responsibility for his
education at this point in time) and send a copy to the principal. That
part (sending a copy) may not be specifically required by law, but I think
it is a good idea just so they know they should take him off of their
attendance sheets.
Good luck,
Judy
sent her back to school for three more days because she wanted to be in the
kindergarten concert they had been preparing for for several months. Then I
simply wrote a polite letter thanking them for their time and effort with my
daughter, but I was taking her out of school. That was all I had to do for
her because kindergarten isn't mandatory in NH. When I suddenly had my 8
year old, her step-mother informed them that Cait was coming to live with me
and that was that for them. Cait came from the other side of the state, so
there were no expectations that she would go back there. I then had 30 days
to submit my letter of intent and curriculum to my school district. I
struggled with my curriculum, but they were wonderful and helped me fashion
one that reflected my unschooling desire as well as covering the bases as
far as the law was required, which required scope and sequence, tables of
contents, etc. (It sounds a lot worse than it really was.) I know that I
got one of the probably very few cooperative school districts. Once my
curriculum was approved (I wrote it all in the present tense, "we do this,
we do that"), they sent me a letter saying so, and that was what I showed
DCYF. I don't remember if she asked to see my curriculum or not, but she
did ask me lots of questions about the concept. I was very honest with her,
which was much easier since I had just read The Unschooling Handbook by Mary
Griffith and I was feeling very confident. If she asks, give her resources
so she can get a better grasp of the idea. Maybe print off some
particularly relevant web pages to give to her. I don't express myself well
in person on the spot, so having a list of books and websites to offer was
very helpful. I also had DH with me and I knew that if I faltered, he could
step in and explain.
When she comes tomorrow, I would say that your child has been ill and you
want to make sure he completely well before going back to school. If she co
mments that he looks quite well already, then just point out that many
children can be violently ill in the wee hours and have a raging fever, but
seem back to normal after a few hours sleep. I know the local ps won't take
children back until they have been fever-free for x number of hours (eg. 12
or 24 hours). Don't necessarily say that that *was* what happened, but just
that it often does happen. Then you won't be lying to her.
For the principal, play up the illness and cancel the appointment. Your son
needs you at home right now and you can't go in to this meeting at this
time. Then take the time to write a letter to the superintendant (your
letter of intent, it doesn't have to be fancy and you don't have to say why
you are taking him out, only that you will assume responsibility for his
education at this point in time) and send a copy to the principal. That
part (sending a copy) may not be specifically required by law, but I think
it is a good idea just so they know they should take him off of their
attendance sheets.
Good luck,
Judy
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From: <cierrajada@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Thursday, October 13, 2005 6:46 PM
Subject: Re: What do you say? was Re: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Intro:
considering Unsch...
| Hi Judy
|
| Thanx for your reply. What did you show her exactly..what did the school
| require? The thing is I was thinking of not sending him back to school as
of
| tommorrow and she just happens to be coming tommorrow. Should I just not
mention
| it? Also I have a meeting with the principal (he called this morning
asking
| for me to come in) tommorrow morning...should I just call and tell him
I'm
| sorry I'm not coming in,but I have decided to HS Jio and will be sending
a
| letter to the superintedant about it? I'm not sure what to do?
| thanx
|
| Rachael~
|