please help me to get him bathed
Millie Rosa
So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others think it is neglectful, I do not force him in the tub. For a while I could get him in there once a week or so with me if I promised not to wash his hair. But now it is nothing doing. I have purchased every cool tub toy I can find, put food color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there, tried to get him in the shower...everything I can think of. It has been nearly a month since I could talk him in there! I sponge bathe him as much as I can...he isn't amenable to that either....I usually do it when he is dead asleep. I bought a pool for the yard, thought he might like that better but no. This morning I saw a potato patch under his arm and he STINKS and I have to sleep right next to him. And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone already thinks I am terrible for still nursing him and cosleeping....guess we just won't go....but I have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am getting close to forcing him and I don't want
to...but I need to wash him! ANy ideas????
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What is it that he hates about it? Is it the water, or is it because
he has to stop what he's doing to take a bath? Is it the shampoo?
One thing I do know is that if it is the bath itself, wash him from
the feet up. I know you always heard to wash from head to foot, but
when you wash the head first, it feels like being attacked. If you
start at the feet and work your way up it is more relaxing.
Crystal
he has to stop what he's doing to take a bath? Is it the shampoo?
One thing I do know is that if it is the bath itself, wash him from
the feet up. I know you always heard to wash from head to foot, but
when you wash the head first, it feels like being attacked. If you
start at the feet and work your way up it is more relaxing.
Crystal
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In a message dated 6/11/2004 8:45:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
crystal.pina@... writes:
One thing I do know is that if it is the bath itself, wash him from
the feet up. I know you always heard to wash from head to foot, but
when you wash the head first, it feels like being attacked. If you
start at the feet and work your way up it is more relaxing
<<<<
Or just one body part per day?
Feet on Monday, legs on Tuesday, .....?
They make "dry" dog shampoos---- they're not exactly "dry"----they're
liquid, but you don't have to rinse, just shampoo.
~Kelly
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crystal.pina@... writes:
One thing I do know is that if it is the bath itself, wash him from
the feet up. I know you always heard to wash from head to foot, but
when you wash the head first, it feels like being attacked. If you
start at the feet and work your way up it is more relaxing
<<<<
Or just one body part per day?
Feet on Monday, legs on Tuesday, .....?
They make "dry" dog shampoos---- they're not exactly "dry"----they're
liquid, but you don't have to rinse, just shampoo.
~Kelly
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My youngest is 6 and sneeks into our bed every night, and you know what, I
think it is WONDERFUL. His brother did the same thing and when he got older, he
stopped on his own, so don't fret over that one.
I don't know how to get your little computer expert in the tub, shower,
pool! Any kids (brothers , cousins) that could try getting him in with them, or
dad maybe?
You might gently try to explain that he's getting pretty dirty and the dirt
gets you beds and you all have to sleep in that. Or in kid friendly way
explain he needs to bathe for his skins health.
I don't know, i'm just rattling here as my own ds is talking to me!
Good luck
syndi
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people who love learning so much and learn so well that they will be able to
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think it is WONDERFUL. His brother did the same thing and when he got older, he
stopped on his own, so don't fret over that one.
I don't know how to get your little computer expert in the tub, shower,
pool! Any kids (brothers , cousins) that could try getting him in with them, or
dad maybe?
You might gently try to explain that he's getting pretty dirty and the dirt
gets you beds and you all have to sleep in that. Or in kid friendly way
explain he needs to bathe for his skins health.
I don't know, i'm just rattling here as my own ds is talking to me!
Good luck
syndi
"...since we can't know what knowledge will be most needed in the future, it
is senseless to try to teach it in advance. Instead, we should try to turn out
people who love learning so much and learn so well that they will be able to
learn whatever needs to be learned."
-- John Holt
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pam sorooshian
Can you just go swimming somewhere? Or get a slip-n-slide and let the
kids play on that? Buy a couple of big huge water guns - the kinds that
hold a LOT of water and play with those together until he's soaked and
has to dry off?
-pam
kids play on that? Buy a couple of big huge water guns - the kinds that
hold a LOT of water and play with those together until he's soaked and
has to dry off?
-pam
On Jun 11, 2004, at 5:45 PM, Crystal wrote:
> What is it that he hates about it? Is it the water, or is it because
> he has to stop what he's doing to take a bath? Is it the shampoo?
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> One thing I do know is that if it is the bath itself, wash him from
> the feet up. I know you always heard to wash from head to foot, but
> when you wash the head first, it feels like being attacked. If you
> start at the feet and work your way up it is more relaxing.
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Do you have a water slide park near by? I can think
of nothing my kids like better than a water park! Or
maybe natural hot springs? If the rest of you went
swimming, would he sit on the side?
Normally, if I ask my youngest is she wants a bath,
the answer is "no"....But when I get in the tub
myself, she's always there to jump in with me!
Dana
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of nothing my kids like better than a water park! Or
maybe natural hot springs? If the rest of you went
swimming, would he sit on the side?
Normally, if I ask my youngest is she wants a bath,
the answer is "no"....But when I get in the tub
myself, she's always there to jump in with me!
Dana
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> So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others
> think it is neglectful, I do not force him in the
> tub. For a while I could get him in there once a
> week or so with me if I promised not to wash his
> hair. But now it is nothing doing. I have
> purchased every cool tub toy I can find, put food
> color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there, tried to
> get him in the shower...everything I can think of.
> It has been nearly a month since I could talk him in
> there! I sponge bathe him as much as I can...he
> isn't amenable to that either....I usually do it
> when he is dead asleep. I bought a pool for the
> yard, thought he might like that better but no.
> This morning I saw a potato patch under his arm and
> he STINKS and I have to sleep right next to him.
> And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone
> already thinks I am terrible for still nursing him
> and cosleeping....guess we just won't go....but I
> have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am
> getting close to forcing him and I don't want
> to...but I need to wash him! ANy ideas????
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Get a backyard wading pool and let him swim there. Even if it just rinses of the dirt, that's gotta be an improvement. Walmart has them for $10 -- both the hard plastic (too big if all you've got is a car) and the collapsible, folded-up in a box (look in the pool/summer toys aisle). Ours is 6' across and 15" deep, big enough that even Andy enjoys playing and small enough for me to wrestle with and fill.
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In a message dated 6/11/2004 11:16:00 PM US Eastern Standard Time,
hoffmanwilson@... writes:
understand,,second,,if you get get him engaged in water play outside,daily,,,it
is as good as a bath,,,especially with pool water with a small amount of bleach
in it to steralize it ,,,it could be his own pond,,
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>first dont go out of your way to tell your mom,,,especially if she doesnt
> >
> > So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others
> > think it is neglectful, I do not force him in the
> > tub. For a while I could get him in there once a
> > week or so with me if I promised not to wash his
> > hair. But now it is nothing doing
understand,,second,,if you get get him engaged in water play outside,daily,,,it
is as good as a bath,,,especially with pool water with a small amount of bleach
in it to steralize it ,,,it could be his own pond,,
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Wendy E
I noticed a few people answered this post with suggestions that you
already have tried...pool in backyard and taking him into the bath
with you....just thought I'd point that out that in our haste to
answer things we should read the whole post...
Anyway, just wondering 2 things. How old is he and do you think
there is any specific reason why he is so adverse to the bath? Maybe
getting to the root of the problem would help. Some kids just go
through "bath" issues. Mine had a drain problem (freaked out that
things would disappear down it) for awhile but got over it. I'm
thinking that not forcing the issue is a good thing. Just sponge him
off as well as you can and he will probably eventually come around.
As far as the family reunion...same thing...if a bath
happens...great...if not, it's no big deal. And you are NOT terrible
for co-sleeping and nursing your child. You are honoring his needs
and you are a wonderful mother for doing so.
Wendy
--- In [email protected], Millie Rosa
<willsmamamillie@y...> wrote:
him in there once a week or so with me if I promised not to wash his
hair. But now it is nothing doing. I have purchased every cool tub
toy I can find, put food color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there,
tried to get him in the shower...everything I can think of. It has
been nearly a month since I could talk him in there! I sponge bathe
him as much as I can...he isn't amenable to that either....I usually
do it when he is dead asleep. I bought a pool for the yard, thought
he might like that better but no. This morning I saw a potato patch
under his arm and he STINKS and I have to sleep right next to him.
And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone already thinks I
am terrible for still nursing him and cosleeping....guess we just
won't go....but I have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am
getting close to forcing him and I don't want
already have tried...pool in backyard and taking him into the bath
with you....just thought I'd point that out that in our haste to
answer things we should read the whole post...
Anyway, just wondering 2 things. How old is he and do you think
there is any specific reason why he is so adverse to the bath? Maybe
getting to the root of the problem would help. Some kids just go
through "bath" issues. Mine had a drain problem (freaked out that
things would disappear down it) for awhile but got over it. I'm
thinking that not forcing the issue is a good thing. Just sponge him
off as well as you can and he will probably eventually come around.
As far as the family reunion...same thing...if a bath
happens...great...if not, it's no big deal. And you are NOT terrible
for co-sleeping and nursing your child. You are honoring his needs
and you are a wonderful mother for doing so.
Wendy
--- In [email protected], Millie Rosa
<willsmamamillie@y...> wrote:
>neglectful, I do not force him in the tub. For a while I could get
>
> So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others think it is
him in there once a week or so with me if I promised not to wash his
hair. But now it is nothing doing. I have purchased every cool tub
toy I can find, put food color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there,
tried to get him in the shower...everything I can think of. It has
been nearly a month since I could talk him in there! I sponge bathe
him as much as I can...he isn't amenable to that either....I usually
do it when he is dead asleep. I bought a pool for the yard, thought
he might like that better but no. This morning I saw a potato patch
under his arm and he STINKS and I have to sleep right next to him.
And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone already thinks I
am terrible for still nursing him and cosleeping....guess we just
won't go....but I have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am
getting close to forcing him and I don't want
> to...but I need to wash him! ANy ideas????
>
> Millie
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Hi, Millie,
Neither of mine likes the bath either, and I agree with Wendy that talking
to him and trying to figure out what's at the root of it would help. Like
Wendy, I found out that my daughter also freaked out over the drain. We had
watched a Pooh video story where Tigger actually goes down the drain and she
thought it would suck all her bath toys and her down it too! Took a while
to figure out that was the problem. And my son hated the bath which turned
out to be all about rinsing his hair. We came up with the solution of
dipping him back over the sink after the bath and rinsing that way which he
wasn't thrilled about but could tolerate - took the sting out of the whole
thing. So I recommend that first.
I can give you some things that worked for us, but if there's an "issue"
they likely won't work. I'm not sure how you approach it, but I have some
different things that tend to work (and we usually get to a bath once a week
or so)... sometimes instead of asking my children about taking a bath which
always gets resistance, I just run one! Then I hang out in the bathroom a
while which is destined to bring them in looking for me. When they see the
bath with all the bubbles, one of them is likely to just decide to go in
(not always, but pretty often). It takes me asking out of the equation and
just sort of puts the bath in their path. The other game we played for a
while but which doesn't work so well anymore was sort of the 'reverse
psychology' game they learned from an uncle. They loved it if I ran a bath,
said it was only for me and no stinky kids allowed, no way no how were they
to get into that bath - they would run to get in giggling. Also, they
consider it a "treat" to bathe with their cousins at their houses. So
sometimes if the going gets tough, I schedule a visit (luckily they have
nearby cousins, could work with friends too) and organize a mass bathing. I
know you said he doesn't like sponge bathing. What about diaper wipes to
wipe him down?
I love the waterless dog shampoo idea! I think I've seen waterless regular
soaps out there too.
Joan
-----Original Message-----
From: Millie Rosa [mailto:willsmamamillie@...]
Sent: Friday, June 11, 2004 7:18 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] please help me to get him bathed
So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others think it is neglectful, I
do not force him in the tub. For a while I could get him in there once a
week or so with me if I promised not to wash his hair. But now it is
nothing doing. I have purchased every cool tub toy I can find, put food
color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there, tried to get him in the
shower...everything I can think of. It has been nearly a month since I
could talk him in there! I sponge bathe him as much as I can...he isn't
amenable to that either....I usually do it when he is dead asleep. I bought
a pool for the yard, thought he might like that better but no. This morning
I saw a potato patch under his arm and he STINKS and I have to sleep right
next to him. And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone already
thinks I am terrible for still nursing him and cosleeping....guess we just
won't go....but I have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am getting
close to forcing him and I don't want
to...but I need to wash him! ANy ideas????
Millie
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Neither of mine likes the bath either, and I agree with Wendy that talking
to him and trying to figure out what's at the root of it would help. Like
Wendy, I found out that my daughter also freaked out over the drain. We had
watched a Pooh video story where Tigger actually goes down the drain and she
thought it would suck all her bath toys and her down it too! Took a while
to figure out that was the problem. And my son hated the bath which turned
out to be all about rinsing his hair. We came up with the solution of
dipping him back over the sink after the bath and rinsing that way which he
wasn't thrilled about but could tolerate - took the sting out of the whole
thing. So I recommend that first.
I can give you some things that worked for us, but if there's an "issue"
they likely won't work. I'm not sure how you approach it, but I have some
different things that tend to work (and we usually get to a bath once a week
or so)... sometimes instead of asking my children about taking a bath which
always gets resistance, I just run one! Then I hang out in the bathroom a
while which is destined to bring them in looking for me. When they see the
bath with all the bubbles, one of them is likely to just decide to go in
(not always, but pretty often). It takes me asking out of the equation and
just sort of puts the bath in their path. The other game we played for a
while but which doesn't work so well anymore was sort of the 'reverse
psychology' game they learned from an uncle. They loved it if I ran a bath,
said it was only for me and no stinky kids allowed, no way no how were they
to get into that bath - they would run to get in giggling. Also, they
consider it a "treat" to bathe with their cousins at their houses. So
sometimes if the going gets tough, I schedule a visit (luckily they have
nearby cousins, could work with friends too) and organize a mass bathing. I
know you said he doesn't like sponge bathing. What about diaper wipes to
wipe him down?
I love the waterless dog shampoo idea! I think I've seen waterless regular
soaps out there too.
Joan
-----Original Message-----
From: Millie Rosa [mailto:willsmamamillie@...]
Sent: Friday, June 11, 2004 7:18 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] please help me to get him bathed
So Will hates the bath. ANd tho my mom and others think it is neglectful, I
do not force him in the tub. For a while I could get him in there once a
week or so with me if I promised not to wash his hair. But now it is
nothing doing. I have purchased every cool tub toy I can find, put food
color, bubbles, fizz tablets, etc in there, tried to get him in the
shower...everything I can think of. It has been nearly a month since I
could talk him in there! I sponge bathe him as much as I can...he isn't
amenable to that either....I usually do it when he is dead asleep. I bought
a pool for the yard, thought he might like that better but no. This morning
I saw a potato patch under his arm and he STINKS and I have to sleep right
next to him. And we have a family reunion this weekend...everyone already
thinks I am terrible for still nursing him and cosleeping....guess we just
won't go....but I have to bathe this kid! What should I do? I am getting
close to forcing him and I don't want
to...but I need to wash him! ANy ideas????
Millie
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Tina
>>They make "dry" dog shampoos---- they're not exactly "dry"----they're liquid, but you don't have to rinse, just shampoo.<<
They do make this for people, too. :) We had to use if for Pat when
he had his back surgery. I don't remember what it's called, but it
is available.
Tina
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how bout nursing him IN the tub?
"...since we can't know what knowledge will be most needed in the future, it
is senseless to try to teach it in advance. Instead, we should try to turn out
people who love learning so much and learn so well that they will be able to
learn whatever needs to be learned."
-- John Holt
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"...since we can't know what knowledge will be most needed in the future, it
is senseless to try to teach it in advance. Instead, we should try to turn out
people who love learning so much and learn so well that they will be able to
learn whatever needs to be learned."
-- John Holt
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