camden

Oh Robyn,
I have so been looking for some words of wisdom like this !!! My socks are
off too, and I dont think I'll put them back on !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm
printing your post and I'm thinking I'm going to read it over and over
again.
More More Please !!!!!
Carol

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Robyn,

OMG!!! You knocked my socks off!!! I am a new unschooler, I am going to
follow your RX. Thank you, thank you for laying it out!!!!

Jena Walter

















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Message: 10
Date: Sat, 13 Aug 2005 08:10:13 -0600
From: Deb Lewis <ddzimlew@...>
Subject: Re: Influences (was cartoons and computer games)

***So, while it may never be automatic in
the same way as more reactive behavior, I think the awareness itself and
the humility that goes along with it becomes automatic.***

That's right. And now when I'm about to react I get that awareness on
that first intake of breath, and I can stop myself from saying whatever
it is should never be said. (usually) I'm waiting, at forty two and with
a thirteen year old son, I'm waiting for the moment I realize the
automatic negative reaction is gone completely but I suspect it will be
with me forever. I am happy at least it's internal and those words/that
attitude doesn't spill out on my kid.

***And kids who are parented with generosity, respect and understanding
tend to be pretty darn generous, respectful and understanding of
momentary shortcomings themselves.***

This is one of the many side effects of unschooling. While schools have
special classes to teach respect and other parents ground or punish kids
who "talk back" we live lives of reciprocal esteem. And most glorious
of all my son doesn't feel that life is unfair, like so many of his
friends do, because some rules of consideration apply to kids an not to
adults.

Deb Lewis


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