lack of communication and unschooling
Christy
Hi,
I saw a post on children and parents as adversaries or
friends a while back.
I am beginning the teenage years with two. Two
younger and a baby.
I just may have it down by the time the baby hits the
teens.
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
Can an introvert become verbal? I'd really like to
know how??
Christy
"Never let schooling interfere with your education."
Mark Twain
http://joyofallwhosorrow.blogspot.com/
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I saw a post on children and parents as adversaries or
friends a while back.
I am beginning the teenage years with two. Two
younger and a baby.
I just may have it down by the time the baby hits the
teens.
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
Can an introvert become verbal? I'd really like to
know how??
Christy
"Never let schooling interfere with your education."
Mark Twain
http://joyofallwhosorrow.blogspot.com/
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-----Original Message-----
From: Christy <christybaitken@...
I just may have it down by the time the baby hits the
teens.
-=-=-=-=-
But that's true even with "traditional" parents! It gets easier and
easier the more you *do* it.
-=-=-=-=-
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
-=-=-=-
Well, I think you can still unschool! <g> There are many quiet people
who unschool. Maybe you get your stimulation/knowledge/information in
other ways.
We talk. A lot! Kind of like I write! <g>
We also think out loud. An example I have is when we were in Boston
last year. We went to Cape Cod for a few days. At the beach, I wondered
out loud why gulls look different up in New England. I could have
thought that in my mind, but I asked out loud. There were several
different ideas about why that could be. It was a 15-20 minute
discussion of why that might be. Some right, some wrong, some so far
out there, but funny and thoughtful.
It's just throwing it out there. Otherwise, kids may think that you
don't wonder things---that you know everything . I think it's good if
they know you DON'T know everything! By thinking out loud, you can
stimulate different thoughts and ideas and visions.
You also get an idea of what they know. I guess you can be a really
good observer, but I think just chatting with them is really easy! <g>
-=-=-=-
Can an introvert become verbal? I'd really like to
know how??
-=-=-=-
I consider myself an introvert---not as much as you are! <g>
I think verbal is different. I have no ideas how difficult that would
be to change. Asking questions would be a start. Encouraging the kids
to ask and elaborating on your answers.
Maybe some less verbal posters can help more! <g>
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
October 6-9, 2005
http://liveandlearnconference.org
From: Christy <christybaitken@...
I just may have it down by the time the baby hits the
teens.
-=-=-=-=-
But that's true even with "traditional" parents! It gets easier and
easier the more you *do* it.
-=-=-=-=-
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
-=-=-=-
Well, I think you can still unschool! <g> There are many quiet people
who unschool. Maybe you get your stimulation/knowledge/information in
other ways.
We talk. A lot! Kind of like I write! <g>
We also think out loud. An example I have is when we were in Boston
last year. We went to Cape Cod for a few days. At the beach, I wondered
out loud why gulls look different up in New England. I could have
thought that in my mind, but I asked out loud. There were several
different ideas about why that could be. It was a 15-20 minute
discussion of why that might be. Some right, some wrong, some so far
out there, but funny and thoughtful.
It's just throwing it out there. Otherwise, kids may think that you
don't wonder things---that you know everything . I think it's good if
they know you DON'T know everything! By thinking out loud, you can
stimulate different thoughts and ideas and visions.
You also get an idea of what they know. I guess you can be a really
good observer, but I think just chatting with them is really easy! <g>
-=-=-=-
Can an introvert become verbal? I'd really like to
know how??
-=-=-=-
I consider myself an introvert---not as much as you are! <g>
I think verbal is different. I have no ideas how difficult that would
be to change. Asking questions would be a start. Encouraging the kids
to ask and elaborating on your answers.
Maybe some less verbal posters can help more! <g>
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
October 6-9, 2005
http://liveandlearnconference.org
[email protected]
In a message dated 8/3/2005 10:44:46 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
kbcdlovejo@... writes:
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
***********************
I have a different twist on the issue. I'm a big talker, but my son isn't a
listener. He can only process so much info. coming in at one time.
Sometimes when he is asking questions, he cannot form the question in a way that I
can understand what he is asking.
I find he gets so much out of TV. Maybe it is because it is both visual and
auditory, maybe because it is entertaining, maybe because much of what he
watches repeats over and over again.
He knows so much more than I've ever told him about. :)
I have another child that is very verbal, so I also think that some of my
discussions with her sink in to his head a little.
I just thought about this. My mom is a great cook. Even though I tried, I
could never learn to cook like her, but my brother did. I used to think I
just didn't have any cooking talent but later I realized that I just didn't
learn well from how she taught. Nothing wrong with either of us, just
different learning styles. So I'm learning to cook my own way. No, I didn't start
married life putting three course meals on the table, but we are all fed and
healthy. I'm learning to do more than boil water in my own time.
Our children don't have to learn *everything* right now. We just need to
provide them with all sorts of tools so they can put things together in their
own way, in their own time. And lots of love and interest along the way.
As an unschooling parent, this is just one way where we learn to stretch
ourselves whenever our kids need something more or different from us.
Leslie in SC
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kbcdlovejo@... writes:
I want to be friends with my children not a typical
adversary. I want us to really talk. We all aren't
real big talkers. Saw another post a ways back saying
"a lack of communication is not very good for
unschooling." We aren't talkers...but I hope we can
still unschool.
***********************
I have a different twist on the issue. I'm a big talker, but my son isn't a
listener. He can only process so much info. coming in at one time.
Sometimes when he is asking questions, he cannot form the question in a way that I
can understand what he is asking.
I find he gets so much out of TV. Maybe it is because it is both visual and
auditory, maybe because it is entertaining, maybe because much of what he
watches repeats over and over again.
He knows so much more than I've ever told him about. :)
I have another child that is very verbal, so I also think that some of my
discussions with her sink in to his head a little.
I just thought about this. My mom is a great cook. Even though I tried, I
could never learn to cook like her, but my brother did. I used to think I
just didn't have any cooking talent but later I realized that I just didn't
learn well from how she taught. Nothing wrong with either of us, just
different learning styles. So I'm learning to cook my own way. No, I didn't start
married life putting three course meals on the table, but we are all fed and
healthy. I'm learning to do more than boil water in my own time.
Our children don't have to learn *everything* right now. We just need to
provide them with all sorts of tools so they can put things together in their
own way, in their own time. And lots of love and interest along the way.
As an unschooling parent, this is just one way where we learn to stretch
ourselves whenever our kids need something more or different from us.
Leslie in SC
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Pam Sorooshian
On Aug 3, 2005, at 8:17 AM, Leslie530@... wrote:
unschooling as I've seen!
-pam
> Our children don't have to learn *everything* right now. We just needVery very nicely put, Leslie! Comes as close to a definition of
> to
> provide them with all sorts of tools so they can put things together
> in their
> own way, in their own time. And lots of love and interest along the
> way.
unschooling as I've seen!
-pam