intro/another Control Issue??
Karen Bott
Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is 4. What do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about visiting the dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit and refused to let the dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They have been healthy and are not used to going to the office. I wasnt going to threaten or force them. We had the same problem at the dentist, but, I think that will be easier to overcome. It will take some time though. Any advice or similar experiences?
Karen
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Karen
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Joan Labbe & Salvatore Genovese
Hi, Karen!
I can't say it's all always smooth sailing for us with dr/dentist, but I can
identify two issues that helped my daughter a lot. #1 she had such a hard
time with our pediatrician who is so gentle and fabulous and I could never
understand it until the one day he wasn't in and on a whim I asked to see a
female doctor. DIFFERENT CHILD! It was a male/female issue - I talked to
him and he helped us switch to a female doctor at the same office and her
visits have been fearless ever since. With the dentist, I waited past when
everyone said I should, till my daughter showed signs of readiness (she was
almost 4), and what got her interested was watching Caillou and Barney
Dentist episodes, reading a Barney story about a little girl going to the
dentist, and another key was finding a very child-friendly dentist where
they are fabulous with kids and she gets to "hold Mr. Thirsty" during the
cleanings and so forth.
We have also read Pooh books about going to the Dr. and so forth and those
seem to help. My daughter bringing her own doctor's kit and looking in the
pediatricians ears with her otoscope while he looked in hers also helped
when she was younger.
Joan
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From: Karen Bott [mailto:karen.kbb@...]
Sent: Sunday, June 06, 2004 7:58 PM
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Subject: [unschoolingbasics] intro/another Control Issue??
Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is 4. What
do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about visiting the
dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit and refused to let the
dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They have been healthy and
are not used to going to the office. I wasnt going to threaten or force
them. We had the same problem at the dentist, but, I think that will be
easier to overcome. It will take some time though. Any advice or similar
experiences?
Karen
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I can't say it's all always smooth sailing for us with dr/dentist, but I can
identify two issues that helped my daughter a lot. #1 she had such a hard
time with our pediatrician who is so gentle and fabulous and I could never
understand it until the one day he wasn't in and on a whim I asked to see a
female doctor. DIFFERENT CHILD! It was a male/female issue - I talked to
him and he helped us switch to a female doctor at the same office and her
visits have been fearless ever since. With the dentist, I waited past when
everyone said I should, till my daughter showed signs of readiness (she was
almost 4), and what got her interested was watching Caillou and Barney
Dentist episodes, reading a Barney story about a little girl going to the
dentist, and another key was finding a very child-friendly dentist where
they are fabulous with kids and she gets to "hold Mr. Thirsty" during the
cleanings and so forth.
We have also read Pooh books about going to the Dr. and so forth and those
seem to help. My daughter bringing her own doctor's kit and looking in the
pediatricians ears with her otoscope while he looked in hers also helped
when she was younger.
Joan
-----Original Message-----
From: Karen Bott [mailto:karen.kbb@...]
Sent: Sunday, June 06, 2004 7:58 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] intro/another Control Issue??
Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is 4. What
do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about visiting the
dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit and refused to let the
dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They have been healthy and
are not used to going to the office. I wasnt going to threaten or force
them. We had the same problem at the dentist, but, I think that will be
easier to overcome. It will take some time though. Any advice or similar
experiences?
Karen
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mamaaj2000
I spent a lot of time preparing my son for his 3 yr check up. We
talked about it, acted it out with his doctor's kit, read about it,
talked when kids on tv went to the doctor, etc. We planned to go out
for ice cream afterwards, not as a reward for good behavior, but just
a nice outing to balance out the day.
But I didn't realize they were going to take his blood pressure.
Everything *else* went very smoothly. ;-)
--aj
--- In [email protected], "Karen Bott"
<karen.kbb@v...> wrote:
visiting the dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit
and refused to let the dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left.
They have been healthy and are not used to going to the office. I
wasnt going to threaten or force them. We had the same problem at
the dentist, but, I think that will be easier to overcome. It will
take some time though. Any advice or similar experiences?
talked about it, acted it out with his doctor's kit, read about it,
talked when kids on tv went to the doctor, etc. We planned to go out
for ice cream afterwards, not as a reward for good behavior, but just
a nice outing to balance out the day.
But I didn't realize they were going to take his blood pressure.
Everything *else* went very smoothly. ;-)
--aj
--- In [email protected], "Karen Bott"
<karen.kbb@v...> wrote:
> Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is4. What do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about
visiting the dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit
and refused to let the dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left.
They have been healthy and are not used to going to the office. I
wasnt going to threaten or force them. We had the same problem at
the dentist, but, I think that will be easier to overcome. It will
take some time though. Any advice or similar experiences?
>
> Karen
>
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Dana Matt
>Karen, my little one is 6 and hasn't yet seen the
> Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd
> is 6 and ds is 4. What
> do you do when your kids give you a difficult time
> about visiting the
> dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well
> visit and refused to let the
> dr near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They
> have been healthy and
> are not used to going to the office. I wasnt going
> to threaten or force
> them. We had the same problem at the dentist, but,
> I think that will be
> easier to overcome. It will take some time though.
> Any advice or similar
> experiences?
>
> Karen
>
>
dentist. She saw the naturopath the only one time she
was sick, and went along with it just fine as she was
sick and wanted some help. Are you sure "well child"
check-ups are necessary when your child is well?
We do see a chiropractor twice a week, who my little
one LOVES, BUT she doesn't always like to be adjusted.
They let me make an appt. for her, and then after I'm
done with my adjuestment she decides if she wants to
be adjusted that day or not. She does about 1/3 of
the time. (The reason we go so often is because my 11
yo is seeing him for her seizures--AND no seizures for
6 months--YAH!)
Dana
in Montana
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In a message dated 6/6/2004 8:33:56 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
karen.kbb@... writes:
Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is 4. What
do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about visiting the
dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit and refused to let the dr
near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They have been healthy and are not
used to going to the office. I wasnt going to threaten or force them. We had
the same problem at the dentist, but, I think that will be easier to
overcome. It will take some time though. Any advice or similar experiences?
<<<<<<<
With our second son, we just quit with the well-child visits. Why take a
perfectly well child to a place that could be literally crawling with germs in
the first place?
When they are truly sick, they have no qualms about going to the doctor.
They WANT to feel better and ask that I make an appointment. But I can count the
number of times they've each been sick enough to visit the doctor on one
hand!
The dentist has never been a problem either. They both went with me and
watched me get my teeth cleaned. The hygenist spoke to them about what she was
doing and let them poke an instrument or two in my mouth! <G> Duncan loved
those little mirrors! They were both eager to have their first appointements
(which were VERY gentle and SHORT!). Neither have had a cavity; Cameron had one
tooth pulled.
YOUR attitude counts! Be *happy* about having to go. Don't make it out to be
a scary place in words or body language.
~Kelly
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karen.kbb@... writes:
Hi...we are an unschooling family from Mass. My dd is 6 and ds is 4. What
do you do when your kids give you a difficult time about visiting the
dr/dentist. Recently, they went for their well visit and refused to let the dr
near them. I was alright w/it and we left. They have been healthy and are not
used to going to the office. I wasnt going to threaten or force them. We had
the same problem at the dentist, but, I think that will be easier to
overcome. It will take some time though. Any advice or similar experiences?
<<<<<<<
With our second son, we just quit with the well-child visits. Why take a
perfectly well child to a place that could be literally crawling with germs in
the first place?
When they are truly sick, they have no qualms about going to the doctor.
They WANT to feel better and ask that I make an appointment. But I can count the
number of times they've each been sick enough to visit the doctor on one
hand!
The dentist has never been a problem either. They both went with me and
watched me get my teeth cleaned. The hygenist spoke to them about what she was
doing and let them poke an instrument or two in my mouth! <G> Duncan loved
those little mirrors! They were both eager to have their first appointements
(which were VERY gentle and SHORT!). Neither have had a cavity; Cameron had one
tooth pulled.
YOUR attitude counts! Be *happy* about having to go. Don't make it out to be
a scary place in words or body language.
~Kelly
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