julie

Ok, thanks guys, you did it again! As I have only been trying
unschooling since March, I was very unsure if I understood the concept
about dealing with my 4 year old. You helped me realize that I am.
And restored some confidence in myself.

I am trying my best daily to meet her needs, and not ask her to
"finish dinner before dessert" or "pick up her toys, now" and things
of that nature. I guess, perhaps because we are changing our styles,
she is just learning to adjust. But from your responses, I see that
she will adjust and that I am doing it "right".

Pam, I especially like what you said about verbalizing what I am
thinking when I act. I think that this will truly help her understand
that it is natural for everyone to care about others. Not something
that I am only asking her to do. I have passed that info on to
other's in my household, so hopefully if we all do it, it will sink in
that she does not have to fight for what she wants.

Thanks again