John Buxcel

Thank you all for the insight. I feel if you just take a step back and
really exam the situation you begin to realize that most of the cruddy stuff
you dish out to your children is old stuff. For me becoming a father puts a
burden on me to provide for my family, something I didn't have as a young
man it was just me. But if I go back further I probably am the only 37 year
old on this list who's mother paled water to bathe her kids and wash dishes
"out house action" until I was three. My mother used to tell me she would
act like she was cleaning the fridge because we didn't have much food when
people would visit. Some of this stuff is fear some ego but a lot of it is
love for our kids that we just want them to have a better life than we did
so we have to be conscious not to crush their little souls and if that is
possible I know in my heart they will be so beautiful.

Take a deep breath step back and love the little rascals


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Melissa Gray

Actually, my hubby, 35, was raised homestead style, just as you
described. No water, no electricity. Even better, his parents took
custody of three cousins when their mother died, in childbirth, so
she had six kids under four in a one-bedroom 'house' on top of a
gorgeous mountain.

So, you're not alone. :-) Zane says Hi.

Melissa
Mom to Joshua, Breanna, Emily, Rachel, Samuel, Daniel and Avari
Wife to Zane

blog me at
http://startlinglives.blogspot.com/




On Mar 23, 2008, at 10:46 AM, John Buxcel wrote:

> Thank you all for the insight. I feel if you just take a step back and
> really exam the situation you begin to realize that most of the
> cruddy stuff
> you dish out to your children is old stuff. For me becoming a
> father puts a
> burden on me to provide for my family, something I didn't have as a
> young
> man it was just me. But if I go back further I probably am the only
> 37 year
> old on this list who's mother paled water to bathe her kids and
> wash dishes
> "out house action" until I was three. My mother used to tell me she
> would
> act like she was cleaning the fridge because we didn't have much
> food when
> people would visit. Some of this stuff is fear some ego but a lot
> of it is
> love for our kids that we just want them to have a better life than
> we did
> so we have to be conscious not to crush their little souls and if
> that is
> possible I know in my heart they will be so beautiful.
>
> Take a deep breath step back and love the little rascals
>
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>
>
>



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Pamela Sorooshian

On Mar 23, 2008, at 9:11 AM, Melissa Gray wrote:

> Actually, my hubby, 35, was raised homestead style, just as you
> described. No water, no electricity.

My husband grew up in Iran, in a small town. They washed clothes in
the river, used charcoal for cooking, went to the public bathhouse
once a week to get clean. He didn't see a television set until he was
about 12 years old and went to live with his married older sister in
the city.

-pam



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tbearup

My hubby grew up for a portion of time on a farm, without TV, limited indoor plumbing (no
bathroom stuff), milk from the cow, eggs from the chicken, etc., farmwork all day. His idea
of 'hard work' is so much different from mine, as you can imagine! :)