respectful partners
Valerie
At the Live and Learn conference in Peabody, I spent my last morning
with Robyn Coburn, her dh and Jayn. They bought me a lovely plate of
fresh fruit. <g>
At one point, Robyn had to leave the table to help Jayn with
something and her dh said, "I really got lucky meeting that lady.
She's so very special to me." I agreed that yes she is a special
lady.
A few minutes later, Robyn's dh had to leave the table and Robyn
mentioned what a wonderful man he was, that she felt so lucky to
have him.
I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most.
Thanks to all of you that allowed this old lady a peek into your
respectful and loving partnerships.
love, Valerie
with Robyn Coburn, her dh and Jayn. They bought me a lovely plate of
fresh fruit. <g>
At one point, Robyn had to leave the table to help Jayn with
something and her dh said, "I really got lucky meeting that lady.
She's so very special to me." I agreed that yes she is a special
lady.
A few minutes later, Robyn's dh had to leave the table and Robyn
mentioned what a wonderful man he was, that she felt so lucky to
have him.
I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most.
Thanks to all of you that allowed this old lady a peek into your
respectful and loving partnerships.
love, Valerie
Robyn Coburn
<<<Thanks to all of you that allowed this old lady a peek into your
respectful and loving partnerships.>>>
Oh yeah - a real "old" lady - phooey!!
<<<I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most.>>>
Seriously though, thanks for including us in the "beautiful people". Lucky
for us you didn't catch me shouting from beneath the blankets that I just
needed to sleep more - with many expletives - the night before following the
whale watch. Or get to hear James complaining meanly about me not keeping up
with him at the airport (he can walk way faster than I can - always has).
Sigh.
We were having a conversation in the foyer about men being like marshmallows
inside. One thing I have learnt about James, that may well be more common
than I know, is that he seems to need the most support and loving acceptance
when he is at his worst and being most wrong about something.
The good, loving moments outnumber the bad, stressed ones by an ever
increasing margin.
Robyn L. Coburn
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respectful and loving partnerships.>>>
Oh yeah - a real "old" lady - phooey!!
<<<I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most.>>>
Seriously though, thanks for including us in the "beautiful people". Lucky
for us you didn't catch me shouting from beneath the blankets that I just
needed to sleep more - with many expletives - the night before following the
whale watch. Or get to hear James complaining meanly about me not keeping up
with him at the airport (he can walk way faster than I can - always has).
Sigh.
We were having a conversation in the foyer about men being like marshmallows
inside. One thing I have learnt about James, that may well be more common
than I know, is that he seems to need the most support and loving acceptance
when he is at his worst and being most wrong about something.
The good, loving moments outnumber the bad, stressed ones by an ever
increasing margin.
Robyn L. Coburn
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Ren Allen
"One thing I have learnt about James, that may well be more common
than I know, is that he seems to need the most support and loving
acceptance
when he is at his worst and being most wrong about something."
That is SO true here...for me as well as Markus. Don't we all need
someone to be more calm and kind when we're at our worst? I sure do.
I was feeling a bit of angst towards Markus tonight...he'd been
kinda grumpy at the kids last night over stupid stuff (while I was
at work, which makes me even more frustrated with him). Today he was
swamped with work stuff and pretty unavailable...the only times he
said much was to complain about the messy house. ARgh.
So tonight, while he was working in his office, I slipped in and
gave him a big hug and kiss and said "I just want you to know I love
you and I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed but don't get bogged
down in it, this isn't your life and we love you."
He stopped and gave me a hug back, then a minute later he came out
of his office, stopped me and said "Thank you".
It's a really hard thing for me to do when I'm not feeling in the
wrong, but I've found that the entire tone of the house can be
changed by one of us being willing to stop and say "I love you" or
give a hug. Powerful stuff really. And it pays off when I'm feeling
bitchy and PMS'ing and he's the calm, sweet one.
Ren
than I know, is that he seems to need the most support and loving
acceptance
when he is at his worst and being most wrong about something."
That is SO true here...for me as well as Markus. Don't we all need
someone to be more calm and kind when we're at our worst? I sure do.
I was feeling a bit of angst towards Markus tonight...he'd been
kinda grumpy at the kids last night over stupid stuff (while I was
at work, which makes me even more frustrated with him). Today he was
swamped with work stuff and pretty unavailable...the only times he
said much was to complain about the messy house. ARgh.
So tonight, while he was working in his office, I slipped in and
gave him a big hug and kiss and said "I just want you to know I love
you and I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed but don't get bogged
down in it, this isn't your life and we love you."
He stopped and gave me a hug back, then a minute later he came out
of his office, stopped me and said "Thank you".
It's a really hard thing for me to do when I'm not feeling in the
wrong, but I've found that the entire tone of the house can be
changed by one of us being willing to stop and say "I love you" or
give a hug. Powerful stuff really. And it pays off when I'm feeling
bitchy and PMS'ing and he's the calm, sweet one.
Ren
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In a message dated 9/7/2004 1:57:54 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
valerie@... writes:
I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most. <<<
It's a different kind of place---the Live & Learn Conference. Not like
anywhere else we've found. Surreal.
~Kelly
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valerie@... writes:
I felt a need to share. I met so many beautiful unschoolers at the
conference and I really noticed the differences from other couples
that I've come in contact with over the years. Gentle unschooling
parents carry it over in their adult relationships. The ones that
REALLY "get it" when it comes to gentle parenting, are also gentle
partners. Not all of the time, but most. <<<
It's a different kind of place---the Live & Learn Conference. Not like
anywhere else we've found. Surreal.
~Kelly
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