Krisula Moyer

Way back when ds was attending a Montessori school the headmistress had this
policy: If they don't want to get dressed, let them come in their pajamas.
If they get there and do feel embarrassed, they are free to change into
clothes from their cubby, which all kids had in case of spills or accidents.
Lots of kids did this from time to time. Some thought it was fun or funny
to wear their pj's to school and others just wanted to see what would
happen. I'm sure some were trying to communicate that they didn't want to
go to school that day. Those kids would have to move on to stomachaches I
guess to get out of school. Sad, but the reason I mention it is to show how
different it looks when the idea is to go with the kid's choice as opposed
to "letting him learn his lesson." I agree that I am the mom, a little
older and perhaps with access to more information sometimes. That is why I
might grab a set of clothes I know he likes, knowing he might feel
differently when we get there. Better yet, knowing what I know now, I'd
declare that he doesn't have to go at all if he doesn't want to. Wish I'd
done that more back then. We may have come to home schooling sooner!