Re: "testers of knowledge
Alison Broadbent
Hi June,
I haven't had this exact situation but when my son was younger my Mom
started saying, "I hope he won't do THAT (whatever it was) forever". After
the 2nd time she said that, I said, 'You know Mom, Grandma was very critical
of us kids and it made me not want to be around her. I don't want that to
happen with you and Asher.' She stopped and thought and said, "yes, point
well taken". And I'm happy to say she has never said anything like that
again. I think what happened was she could see how it would effect her.
which motivated her to shift. She probably remembered too how critical her
Mom was and didn't want to go THERE.
Alison
I haven't had this exact situation but when my son was younger my Mom
started saying, "I hope he won't do THAT (whatever it was) forever". After
the 2nd time she said that, I said, 'You know Mom, Grandma was very critical
of us kids and it made me not want to be around her. I don't want that to
happen with you and Asher.' She stopped and thought and said, "yes, point
well taken". And I'm happy to say she has never said anything like that
again. I think what happened was she could see how it would effect her.
which motivated her to shift. She probably remembered too how critical her
Mom was and didn't want to go THERE.
Alison
Robyn Coburn
<<<<I haven't had this exact situation but when my son was younger my Mom
started saying, "I hope he won't do THAT (whatever it was) forever". After
the 2nd time she said that, I said, 'You know Mom, Grandma was very critical
of us kids and it made me not want to be around her. I don't want that to
happen with you and Asher.' She stopped and thought and said, "yes, point
well taken". And I'm happy to say she has never said anything like that
again. I think what happened was she could see how it would effect her.
which motivated her to shift. She probably remembered too how critical her
Mom was and didn't want to go THERE.>>>
Great way to handle it! Made the point without being overly critical or
accusatory of your Mom.
Robyn L. Coburn
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started saying, "I hope he won't do THAT (whatever it was) forever". After
the 2nd time she said that, I said, 'You know Mom, Grandma was very critical
of us kids and it made me not want to be around her. I don't want that to
happen with you and Asher.' She stopped and thought and said, "yes, point
well taken". And I'm happy to say she has never said anything like that
again. I think what happened was she could see how it would effect her.
which motivated her to shift. She probably remembered too how critical her
Mom was and didn't want to go THERE.>>>
Great way to handle it! Made the point without being overly critical or
accusatory of your Mom.
Robyn L. Coburn
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In a message dated 8/20/2004 1:34:06 PM Central Daylight Time,
abzb@... writes:
being personal
but
with mom in law,,,everything,,,and i am not even exagerating,,,everything is
personal,,,or the person is hiding something...very sad my husabnd had to grow
up with it ,,,and wether she'd accept it or not,k i can see where his mental
illness ,can be a result of ,,
but
it is better right now,to equipe the kids ,to answer their stupid questions
with the good manners they have and as much respect they can muster in the
situation.
neither of the in-laws want to deal with me ,,,for what ever reason..maybe
they think i am crazy as a loon,,or maybe i intimidate them or they think i am
the resident bitch,,,dunno,,,dont care at this point,,,im trying to live my
life,,love God,myself, hubby and kids ,,,i have tried to talk to them ,,,i really
have no desire at this point to try to reason with the unreasonable...i have
no paitences for them or their crap,,,but i also am not going to argue my life
with them...none of their bussiness...
i just dont want to get uglywith them,,they would be soo self righteous then,,
im rambling,,,thanks for the suggestion...>>June
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abzb@... writes:
>well with the majority of the human race ,,,it would be taken without it
> which motivated her to shift. She probably remembered too how critical her
> Mom was and didn't want to go THERE
>
being personal
but
with mom in law,,,everything,,,and i am not even exagerating,,,everything is
personal,,,or the person is hiding something...very sad my husabnd had to grow
up with it ,,,and wether she'd accept it or not,k i can see where his mental
illness ,can be a result of ,,
but
it is better right now,to equipe the kids ,to answer their stupid questions
with the good manners they have and as much respect they can muster in the
situation.
neither of the in-laws want to deal with me ,,,for what ever reason..maybe
they think i am crazy as a loon,,or maybe i intimidate them or they think i am
the resident bitch,,,dunno,,,dont care at this point,,,im trying to live my
life,,love God,myself, hubby and kids ,,,i have tried to talk to them ,,,i really
have no desire at this point to try to reason with the unreasonable...i have
no paitences for them or their crap,,,but i also am not going to argue my life
with them...none of their bussiness...
i just dont want to get uglywith them,,they would be soo self righteous then,,
im rambling,,,thanks for the suggestion...>>June
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