Rebecca De Hate

Hey there radical unschoolers,

I have been observing this group for a couple of weeks now from a
suggestion from my good friend and unschooler. Now my friend has
been unschooling her child since she was born basically and I have
always admired and adored A's relationship with her daughter. So
here's the story I have a beautiful son that I have been at wits end
trying to figure out the right way
to "raise", "discipline", "school". And with great patience and
love my friend A has led me to at least think about unschooling more
seriously. Below is a e-mail that I just sent her and feel that
this group may be able to help also. If you can't follow my
rambling please say so and I will try to clarify!!

OK Andrea,

After reading some of the discussions on the un-schooling group and
getting on that Sandra Dodd website I have had an epipheny (sp??)>
Basically I just hit myself over the head and thought ---"I am
finally getting what Andrea has gently been trying to explain to me
about "unschooling!!" Plus, I'm bombarded with a bunch of quilt
(which I will work through of course)> Anyway, here I am in a
quandry of tempory dilemma's. First, I started back to school 2
years ago to get a Master's degree in teaching so that "I could feel
qualified to "teach" Ian." Plus, I have been following a spiritual
path that screams for me not to be judged, allow for everyone to
have freedoms, etc, etc, etc. Yet, here I have been imposing
control on my son....OH God/Goddess... What do I do now??? Here I
am a mother of 2 beautiful boys and a "step mother" to two others.
Now I'm really leaning towards home/unschooling yet I just went
through all this schooling -- plus-- UGH I have the 'school' mind
sometimes. Where do I start? I already told Ian he would be able
to go to pre-school/headstart and even ride the bus..... but now I
want to take it back... plus How do I un-school -- 1)-- while I'm
working (and most likely at a school), 2) how can I get --oops -
help Tom to understand my choices and hopefully get him on the band
wagon -- because he already thinks I'm too leniant, etc.. 3) how do
we blend this family if we both can't get on the same thought
pattern? AHHHHHH I'm excited and know in my bones that this is
the right path yet I am so scared why??? Love you and call me
soon...even though I'm going to see you this weekend. Becca


P>s. I think I'm going to send this message I just wrote you to the
unschoolers site.. Don't worry my feelings won't get hurt..

OK UNSCHOOLERS I'M READY FOR YOUR THOUGHTS!!! BRING THEM ON!!!
Rebecca De Hate