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In a message dated 7/8/2004 2:33:08 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
sherri--lee@... writes:

I would hesitate to use the "de-sensitize" her idea as well. This might work
for some kids, it might de-sensitize them to things you don't want them to
be de-sensitized too and on another hand, it might just serve to heighten
the sensitivity.



In my family, de-sensitizing was the theme for me, as I was always perceived
to be TOO sensitive. So it was believed that if I was just tormented enough
I would stop being TOO sensitive. I had rubber spiders and snakes thrown at
me regularly, to this day I still shake when I see them in stores and can
not touch a page with them on it. I was forced into dark rooms and am still
afraid of the dark. I was forced to eat worms and still am afraid of them.
It went on and on.. I won't bore you. The end result is, all these things
were/are still funny to my family, my reaction is still funny and I am even
MORE sensitive than before. None of it de-sensitized me. it heightened my
sensitivity to having an expectation of people doing the worst to me always.
Lots of work to get over it.



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Big, BIG difference between being forced to watch a scary movie over and
over and being *allowed* to watch one or only the parts you want to. Between
being forced into dark rooms and walking in incrementally when you're ready with
your hand on the switch. Between having rubber snakes thrown at you and
slowly approaching one with a stick in your hand.

Big difference. HUGE!

~Kelly


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