susanthrossell

hi,

i am new to the group. My name is susan and I have two children.
Keir is 8 and 1/2 and Lara is 2.

I took keir out of school last june, and have only just begun to be
autonomous.

Things are going ok. I'm struggling with loosing the control over
everything, strangely more with my 2 year old than with my eldest.

I'm struggling getting my husband to say 'yes' more than 'no'.

I'm struggling with the bedtime thing. not really knowing when my
husband and I would get time alone.

I've loads of worries.

Not sure if this is the right place for me but found the link on
sandra dodd website, (or on a link on a link)

Any help/experiences seem to help me enormously

thanks
susan

April Morris

Welcome, Susan! This is a great adventure that you're starting, but don't
feel you have to change everything all at once. That can be confusing for
the kids and hard on hubbies that are not quite there yet. Say yes more
often. Spend lots of time with your kids doing the things they like to do.
Let the changes unfold naturally. But do let the changes happen. Be
respectful to your kids and your husband. And read, read, read about
unschooling.

~April
Mom to Kate-19, Lisa-17, Karl-14, & Ben-10.
*REACH Homeschool Grp, an inclusive group in Oakland County
http://www.reachhomeschool.com
* Michigan Unschoolers
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/michigan_unschoolers/
*Check out Chuck's art www.artkunst23.com
"All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us."
Gandalf the Grey


On 4/16/06, susanthrossell <susanthrossell@...> wrote:
>
> hi,
>
> i am new to the group. My name is susan and I have two children.
> Keir is 8 and 1/2 and Lara is 2.
>
> I took keir out of school last june, and have only just begun to be
> autonomous.
>
> Things are going ok. I'm struggling with loosing the control over
> everything, strangely more with my 2 year old than with my eldest.
>
> I'm struggling getting my husband to say 'yes' more than 'no'.
>
> I'm struggling with the bedtime thing. not really knowing when my
> husband and I would get time alone.
>
> I've loads of worries.
>
> Not sure if this is the right place for me but found the link on
> sandra dodd website, (or on a link on a link)
>
> Any help/experiences seem to help me enormously
>
> thanks
> susan
>
>
>


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Joanne

Hi Susan...

Welcome!
This is a great place to learn about unschooling. Take some time and
read some of the older threads. There's a lot of information there.
You said you came here through Sandra's site...that's another good
place to poke around and do some reading.

~ Joanne ~
Mom to Jacqueline (7), Shawna (10) & Cimion (13)
Adopted into our hearts October 30, 2003
http://anunschoolinglife.blogspot.com/
http://foreverparents.com




--- In [email protected], "susanthrossell"
<susanthrossell@...> wrote:
>
> hi,
>
> i am new to the group. My name is susan and I have two children.
> Keir is 8 and 1/2 and Lara is 2.
>
> I took keir out of school last june, and have only just begun to be
> autonomous.
>
> Things are going ok. I'm struggling with loosing the control over
> everything, strangely more with my 2 year old than with my
eldest.
>
> I'm struggling getting my husband to say 'yes' more than 'no'.
>
> I'm struggling with the bedtime thing. not really knowing when my
> husband and I would get time alone.
>
> I've loads of worries.
>
> Not sure if this is the right place for me but found the link on
> sandra dodd website, (or on a link on a link)
>
> Any help/experiences seem to help me enormously
>
> thanks
> susan
>

[email protected]

-----Original Message-----
From: susanthrossell <susanthrossell@...>

I took keir out of school last june, and have only just begun to be
autonomous.

Things are going ok. I'm struggling with loosing the control over
everything, strangely more with my 2 year old than with my eldest.

I'm struggling getting my husband to say 'yes' more than 'no'.

I'm struggling with the bedtime thing. not really knowing when my
husband and I would get time alone.

I've loads of worries.

Not sure if this is the right place for me but found the link on
sandra dodd website, (or on a link on a link)

-=-=-=-=-

It's simple, but it's not easy! <g>

You can *understand* the concept, but struggle *so* much putting it
into practice! <g>

Have you simply announced, "It's a free-for-all. Go for it!" Or are you
quietly letting up on the controls?

Often littluns are jarred and have no basis for handling that much
freedom if it's new. E-e-e-a-a-a-s-s-s-e-e-e into it.

Suggest to your husband that he should take one deeep breath before he
answers. That will give him an extra few seconds to *think* about what
he's refusing to allow and give him a few seconds to ponder *why*.

Your children are young. Are you helping them settle down for the night
(warm bath, dim lights, foot rubs, songs/stories)? or just letting them
stay up until they crash?

As for sex, it needn't happen at night---or in the bed! <g>

This should be the place. Can you be more specific?


~Kelly

Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
http://liveandlearnconference.org