Still watching, learning and longing
aplan4life
Just wanted to let each of you know that this is still my desire. I'm
just watching, learning and viewing. Sometimes I just want to cry
because you all live such a beautiful and carefree (not meaning you
don't have problems but 'carefree' in that you care not what the world
thinks) life.
I've had time to reflect on 'why' unschooling hasn't worked for us and
if I am honest with myself...it's more MY problem even moreso than it
is my husbands. If I were creative enough, if I didn't freakin'
worry so much about how they are going to turn out, this would be
easy. Actually, I don't worry about my 8yo dd at all, it's my 11yo ds
and I wish I could turn my mind off and just let him be. I do not
like feeling this way about this wonderful child that I love so much,
but I (if I could bold I would) just can't shake my concern.
Anyway, you are all appreciated and I didn't want you all to think I'd
fallen off the edge of the earth or anything...LOL Also, I wanted to
be completely honest with what I found within me that is holding up
embracing this philosophy completely. I think that I was so busy
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me.
~Sandy Winn
just watching, learning and viewing. Sometimes I just want to cry
because you all live such a beautiful and carefree (not meaning you
don't have problems but 'carefree' in that you care not what the world
thinks) life.
I've had time to reflect on 'why' unschooling hasn't worked for us and
if I am honest with myself...it's more MY problem even moreso than it
is my husbands. If I were creative enough, if I didn't freakin'
worry so much about how they are going to turn out, this would be
easy. Actually, I don't worry about my 8yo dd at all, it's my 11yo ds
and I wish I could turn my mind off and just let him be. I do not
like feeling this way about this wonderful child that I love so much,
but I (if I could bold I would) just can't shake my concern.
Anyway, you are all appreciated and I didn't want you all to think I'd
fallen off the edge of the earth or anything...LOL Also, I wanted to
be completely honest with what I found within me that is holding up
embracing this philosophy completely. I think that I was so busy
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me.
~Sandy Winn
Ren Allen
"I think that I was so busy
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me."
Ah yes. I've had many moments like this. I was so upset with how dh
would grump about the house and cleaning, that I didn't see how I was
contributing to that whole pile of stress myself.
Once I started approaching household tasks with a different attitude
and encouraging peaceful resolutions, it really cut back on the times
he was acting out.
I know that my actions and choices have drastically changed the tone
of our home. One person can really make a big difference. :)
If it makes you feel better Sandy, Trevor spends almost all day (or
night..depending on his current sleep pattern) on the computer.
I really believe he'll be well equipped to enter the world of
technology as a career. If not, he'll have pleasant memories of doing
what he loved while growing up. It's never too late to learn new
things...just trust that if nothing else.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me."
Ah yes. I've had many moments like this. I was so upset with how dh
would grump about the house and cleaning, that I didn't see how I was
contributing to that whole pile of stress myself.
Once I started approaching household tasks with a different attitude
and encouraging peaceful resolutions, it really cut back on the times
he was acting out.
I know that my actions and choices have drastically changed the tone
of our home. One person can really make a big difference. :)
If it makes you feel better Sandy, Trevor spends almost all day (or
night..depending on his current sleep pattern) on the computer.
I really believe he'll be well equipped to enter the world of
technology as a career. If not, he'll have pleasant memories of doing
what he loved while growing up. It's never too late to learn new
things...just trust that if nothing else.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
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Sandy,
I missed the posts about your family but wanted to comment.
For us (my family) we have been unschooling for 6 years and there are always
things I need to improve on. Don't wait to be perfect. Perfect people don't
allow space for mistakes and that is all part of learning in life as children
and adults. I'm not near as creative as my children so they help guide me :)
I do worry.. IMO it's part of parenting and caring about our children and
their future is important.
Keep reading, talking and make the step into unschooling if you haven't yet.
The water is way warmer than you think and no , no one peed in it ; )
Laura
UnschoolingMaine.com
Drewsbrittanys.com
maine.jerkydirect.com (14.5 yr olds business)
<<Just wanted to let each of you know that this is still my desire. I'm
just watching, learning and viewing. Sometimes I just want to cry
because you all live such a beautiful and carefree (not meaning you
don't have problems but 'carefree' in that you care not what the world
thinks) life.
I've had time to reflect on 'why' unschooling hasn't worked for us and
if I am honest with myself...it's more MY problem even moreso than it
is my husbands. If I were creative enough, if I didn't freakin'
worry so much about how they are going to turn out, this would be
easy. Actually, I don't worry about my 8yo dd at all, it's my 11yo ds
and I wish I could turn my mind off and just let him be. I do not
like feeling this way about this wonderful child that I love so much,
but I (if I could bold I would) just can't shake my concern.
Anyway, you are all appreciated and I didn't want you all to think I'd
fallen off the edge of the earth or anything...LOL Also, I wanted to
be completely honest with what I found within me that is holding up
embracing this philosophy completely. I think that I was so busy
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me.
~Sandy Winn>>
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I missed the posts about your family but wanted to comment.
For us (my family) we have been unschooling for 6 years and there are always
things I need to improve on. Don't wait to be perfect. Perfect people don't
allow space for mistakes and that is all part of learning in life as children
and adults. I'm not near as creative as my children so they help guide me :)
I do worry.. IMO it's part of parenting and caring about our children and
their future is important.
Keep reading, talking and make the step into unschooling if you haven't yet.
The water is way warmer than you think and no , no one peed in it ; )
Laura
UnschoolingMaine.com
Drewsbrittanys.com
maine.jerkydirect.com (14.5 yr olds business)
<<Just wanted to let each of you know that this is still my desire. I'm
just watching, learning and viewing. Sometimes I just want to cry
because you all live such a beautiful and carefree (not meaning you
don't have problems but 'carefree' in that you care not what the world
thinks) life.
I've had time to reflect on 'why' unschooling hasn't worked for us and
if I am honest with myself...it's more MY problem even moreso than it
is my husbands. If I were creative enough, if I didn't freakin'
worry so much about how they are going to turn out, this would be
easy. Actually, I don't worry about my 8yo dd at all, it's my 11yo ds
and I wish I could turn my mind off and just let him be. I do not
like feeling this way about this wonderful child that I love so much,
but I (if I could bold I would) just can't shake my concern.
Anyway, you are all appreciated and I didn't want you all to think I'd
fallen off the edge of the earth or anything...LOL Also, I wanted to
be completely honest with what I found within me that is holding up
embracing this philosophy completely. I think that I was so busy
pointing the finger at my dh that I didn't even notice that the three
pointing back at me.
~Sandy Winn>>
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