In a discussion, someone had written "I reckon I can learn to live with Barbie and it's very freeing."
Karen James responded:
I read this the other day on Just Add Light and Stir, and it has really stuck with me. It's about ice cream, but to me it could be about anything our children are enjoying.
The title of the post is "Don't taint the ice cream" and it goes on to say:
It creates a trap, a trick question, an adversarial relationship, an opportunity for failure, if there is "a right answer" to the question "What do you want to eat?" Or if an overjoyed "can I have some ice cream?" is met with a sigh, and eyes rolling, and another sigh, and a dirty look, and a summary of what the child has already eaten that day, and a reminder of when the next meal is, and a head shake, and a mention of ingredients... or even ONE of those, it taints the ice cream. It harms the relationship. It makes the child smaller. It does not, correspondingly, though, make the parent larger.
If we, as parents, can do more than "learn to live" with something our children are interested in...if we can learn to truly embrace our children's interests, delight in their curiosity around anything - even (and maybe especially) those things we might have a historic distaste for - then we can move several steps closer to a more meaningful, lasting relationship.
and something by Karen about Barbie
Being with our children in direct and mindful ways made us kinder, gentler and more accepting. We were more playful and full of wonder, as we saw the world through their eyes.
For me I think the biggest applications of unschooling in terms of my marriage are the ideas of embracing and supporting other people's passions and interests—not just my child's, but my husband's too. And accepting people for who they are, not trying or wanting to change them or 'fix' them. Valuing everyone in our family for who they are and working together to meet everyone's needs. Unschooling is good for marriages.
(because that's a big one, for lots of moms)
Focus, Hobbies, Obsessions
Condemnation —how to avoid it
and how to open up the doors to allow for growth and change